my girlfriend stutters really badly, what can i do to help her feel better about herself?

Question

she says things like 5 times sometimes and she is really self conscious about it. she has been doing speech therapy but she still feels really embarrassed about it, even with me. i wouldnt make a big deal about it but she cries about it sometimes. i want to help her feel more comfortable with herself because shes a really cool girl, but i dont want to make her think im trying to make her feel better

Answer 1

Go to www.stutteringhelp.org and learn more about stuttering and ways that you can help when talking to someone who stutters. They have a brochure about it. Helping her slow her speech by slowing your own speech will help her stuttering. Having a cadence or rhythm can help, too. Let her know that stuttering is okay. The more she tries NOT to stutter, the more she will. Get her the book "Self Therapy for the Stutterer" so she can go through the steps in it at the same time she is going to speech therapy. One of my uncles went to speech therapy with a specialist in treating stuttering and she used that book in her sessions. Check to see if her speech therapist is listed under referrals to know if she has been trained to work with stutterers and specializes in it.

Answer 2

Before start a speech;
1. Grab a cup of chocolate milk or any drink that she likes. Except coffee.
2. Begin by a simple chat, like what do you have for breakfast etc..
3. Make sure she has prepared and got all things written in brief

Then, when it comes to the speech
1. Maintain eye contact
2. Nodding or say something to let her know that you understand what she says

If she stutters,
1. Dont interrupt. Wait for her to finish the line.
2. Ask her to take a deep breath and talk slowly about what she say just know
3. Dont say "I dont know what you talking abt". Say it in polite and more specific. Eg. "That's interesting. Can you tell me more about ...."

After the speech finish,
1. Give her a pat on her shoulder
2. And tell her that she done well
3. Tell her which part she need to improvise

Hope this helps

Answer 3

Don't ever interupt her. Don't tell her to slow down, or to take a deep breathe or relax. That's the absolute worst thing you can do (when trying to be helpful...). Don't make a big deal out of it and be patient when she talks. Don't try to make her speak when she doesn't want to.
Here are some links that you should check out:
http://www.casafuturatech.com/Book/faq.html
http://www.stutteringhelp.org/Default.aspx?tabid=4
http://www.latrobe.edu.au/istutter/?q=node/16
If it's a pretty obvious stutter and she blocks a lot, don't pretend not to notice it. It'll be pretty obvious you've noticed and she think that you've been trying to ignore it. Just tell her you're completely okay with her stutter and it doesn't bother you, and that you don't love her any less for it.

Answer 4

i might say don't get too in touch. we are able to all too actual get caught up with the themes of our substantial others. ultimately she will ought to make the choice to settle for herself, it may only be hormonal. you're able to nicely be there once you want to be, attempt to not grow to be her therapist yet pay attention once you could lend an ear. attending to in touch with attempting to "fix her" might reason you a great type of frustration and feeling helpless. in line with possibility she'll style by using each and every thing while she's waiting. we are vulnerable to supply those issues extra existence and interest then they deserve, have you ever tried only doing some thing to take her suggestions off of her issues somewhat than speaking it out each and every of the time, the latter could nicely be emotionally draining and on occasion human beings only ought to occupy their minds.

Answer 5

THIS IS BASICALLY A CURE FOR STUTTERING! http://www.rickywburk.org/speech/therapy.htm I SAW IT A FEW YEARS AGO ON THE NEWS! TELL HER ABOUT IT! SHE SHOULD ORDER ONE OF THESE! IT WILL CHANGE HER LIFE AND GIVER HER BACK HER SELF ESTEEM!

Answer 6

say somthing when she stutters like stop her in the middle when shes doing it and say " haha i think that is so cute" and than let her finish. if any guy makes fun of her to her face don't like hit him or somthing most girls dont like that, just take him to the side and talk to him bout it NICELY.

Answer 7

Tell her that you think it's cute when she stutters and that it doesn't change the way you feel about her.

Answer 8

Sounds like you're trying your best. Keep on encouraging her.

Answer 9

pretend that you don't notice.. and if she ask. say i only notice it when you mention it.. all i see is you and my love for you

Answer 10

t-t-t-tell her n-n-n-not to w-w-w-worry about it b-b-because you l-l-love her an-an-an-anyway