is it rude to not make a decision about what you want for lunch at 7:30 or (;15 in the morning when asked?

Question

so my boyfriend wanted to be nice and bring me lunch today.
at 730 this morning (while I'm still trying to decide what to take for breakfast) he asked me what I wanted - I said I didnt know yet. when I called him at 915 he asked again and I said I still didn't know, but can I borrow some money to go to the doctor next week?
then when I was finally able to leave my desk at 1130 I called him and his comment was "I was going to bring you lunch but you didn't want to let me know what you wanted."
so now we're in a huge fight over who was rude. what do ya'll think?

Answer 1

No it wasn't rude, if you haven't had breakfast how can you think about lunch. Tell him next time to call closer to lunch time or to bring you breakfast.

Answer 2

I don't think either of you was "rude". You didn't know what you wanted, so he didn't bring you anything. At 9:15, when he asked a 2nd time, I would have said something like," I can't really decide right now, so why don't you just get something you like and we can share?" I'm not very fussy about food though, I like alot of things, so that might not work for everyone. Also, you could have said, "it's really sweet of you to want to bring me lunch, but I really just don't know what I want yet. Surprise me"

Answer 3

I think what we have here is a failure to communicate. My wife, like you, would have no idea what to have for lunch up until an order HAD to be placed. Most guys, I would guess, don't see deciding on what to have for lunch as a big decision. I wouldn't be surprised if most guys have one of about three things for lunch each day. So, if asked at 7:30 AM about lunch, they would choose one of those three things--no big deal. I think you both need to understand the other's point of view.

Answer 4

Honestly, nobody knows what they want for lunch first thing in the morning and it is stupid of him to expect you to. He should have asked you just before going out to buy lunch as by then you would be thinking about lunch and what you would like.

If he is making a big fuss over this then not only is he rude, but also really stupid. However this may not be about lunch(for him) but a bigger underlying issue that needs to be aired.

Answer 5

In my opinion, in that situation, you should have known what you want to lunch by 9:15am. After all, the guy needed time to make lunch or find a time to stop by at a restaurant and order food for you.

Answer 6

you were not being rude.. but maybe you should not have asked for the money.. he wanted to be nice. and you would not let him.. next time.. just say .. i am not sure..but meet me here and well grab something quick together.. that way he get so spend your lunch hour with you

Answer 7

how can you know what you want for lunch while you're trying to think about working and what you want for breakfast? I don't think either one of you were being rude, but there was a miscommunication.

Answer 8

He behaved like an idiot. I don't know what I'll have for lunch till I get to the canteen, but if my wife was going to bring me something, she'd have the sense to do one of two things. Either let me know what she was planning, or just bring me my favourite. I'd do the same for her.

Answer 9

I think thats insane! When I wake up I dont think "Hmm, steak would be simply delightful, hopefully my boyfriend will call at 7:30" Hah, you were right all along. He could have brang you a surprise, that would have been sweet.

Answer 10

Your boyfriend is being a jerk, guys are like that. This is nothing to worry about and if you ignore the childish behavior it will go away.