Fat,Ugly, Hopeless.?

Question

I'm 15 years old and over 200 pounds. I can't get a date because of my weight and I'm so ugly that everytime I look in the mirror I look at myself and cry. I try to change but things don't really work out. I have an awesome personality but guys here don't really go for personality all they care about is looks. And when it comes to looks I'm butt-ugly. And I've been called ugly so many times by guys I'm starting to believe them. And whenever someone gives me a positive compliment, I can't seem to get the negative ones out of my head so I say yeah right. Help!!!!

Answer 1

Be happy about who you are and you can't change your apperence

Answer 2

Hey...don't..be so hard on yourself...
I understand how you really feel. And yes, it is hard to lose weights, but try...that is all...you can do to love yourself once again.
Eat less than the meals you've been eating, like half of what you'd normally eat. It's easier said than done, but isn't life always that way? You can't achieve good results without giving it your best effort. And that is always where life gets tough.

People have mouth, people talk; there's no stopping to it. You want to ignore, but you can't ignore; you don't want to believe, but unconsciously you believed...in those harsh words that these people are giving you. It's good to cry, release your feelings, but why bother, meanwhile, you could be doing something else that might help you love yourself more, even just a little.
Because of so little compliments you receive from others, negativity took over you and made you feel more insecure, and that's where more people will take advantage and make fun of you, so why not be more confident in yourself bits by bits and be positive to get through the day.

Losing the weights you need might seem as if impossible, but just when you start thinking so, it might really be impossible. So keep your head up high, toward the positivity, because you can and you will love yourself no matter how life gets tough.
That's what living is all about, you.

Answer 3

Awh, Hunnny. Cheer up :)
I'm sure you're beautiful.
And noooooo there is no way in the world you are hopeless!
Any guy that ONLY cares about look, tell them to kiss your @$$. NO ONE is perfect.
One day, I PROMISE YOU, you will find a guy that will love you for who you are not WHAT you are.
And If you're over 200 pounds, it may not be that big of deal depending on your height. If you do find it an issue, try a diet.
NOT A DANGEROUS ONE, OR STARVATION, ETC, but a healthy diet with excersice.

Best of wishes, hope everything works out for you
<3

Answer 4

Dear Rebbeca,

Im sorry that you feel that way, no one should feel the way u do. I cant make you feel better but i can tell you the truth abt the kids that call you bad names. Honestly in my opion 15 yrolds are shallow its true they are kids but they are shallow they believe everything they c on tv its only beautiful but its bcz they brain washed them. And one more thing when some has to say mean things to some1 else is to make themselves feel better u know why? Bcz they really are all insecure so by calling you names they feed on ur energy and make themselves feel better....because if you really look deep down inside them they are scared insecure ugly little boys that are all trying to be something they are not trying to fit follow the crowd instead of being a leader, they really hate who they are too , so Rebbeca next time they say something mean smile and just remember its better to stand out than fit in. Ur unique ur special u r ur true self and they are trying to take it from you. And if you want to lose weight there are so many good diets out there and get urself a gym membership and work out it does boost ur confidence trust me.

GOOD LUCK
GINGER

Answer 5

well i think you should jus get it in your head that u r beautiful the way u r. and believe me there is someone out there 4 everyone. i kno that. also if u have a weight issuse try jus doing 10 sit ups a night, than work your way up, also try doing other things with your legs. doing all kinds of different things gets food off your mind. i kno this from personal experience. i thought i was ugly and fat, but i started a diet and worked my way up. now i am skinny and a cheerleader. i have all the guys knocking on my door.hahah. but yeah also try makeing shure your hair is combed an ur teeth r brushed and dont wear big sweaters, wear tight pants(not hip huggers) You can wear those wen you lose weight. make sure you go out and walk and try to socialize. and join clubs dont let other people comments get you down, god made you a certain way 4 a certain reason. and you should try and do somthing about it, and say to your self i am beautiful jus the way i am. and if a guy dont want me then its his loss. alos dont wear big clothes that cover up ur curves, or old granny clothes. i hope my advice helps somewat good luck!!! member jus b positve dont listen to wat those guys say!!

Answer 6

Don't believe it!!!
Its not true!

I went through the same thing but before losing weight and doing homeschool I saw that I had beauty all along.

But I have lost so much weight that now guys want to offer rides and take me out...but sense am not used to that I still alone plus a fear of being cheated on too.

But you are very pretty I bet and just brain washed.

But I cried in the mirror too when all along I was perfect.

Answer 7

You'll probably hate to hear this but I'm gonna say it anyway cause maybe it won't offend you. There are two types of people in this world: Complainers and Do-ers. You can cry when you look in the mirror or you can get up and do something. My mom used to be 300 pounds, and you know what she did, she lost weight. My mom is a do-er. Trust me on this you gotta get out and feel better or else you'll be in your room for the rest of your life crying.

Answer 8

Ok first of all thoses guy are jerks and wen you grow up you'll find someone it's not importante to have a boyfriend!! Now just say to your self that you don't care what they think and don't be shy!! BE FREE!! Think of everything as an opertunaty!!! Not to manny girls care about jerks think so why do you!!! Personaly I'm 5,'4 and I wait about 150 and theres this girl in ym class that weighs more then me and she doesn't look like it!!! She looks like 130 and she's actually 155!! She verry preaty and she doesn't care what other people think and now she has a boyfriend!! But hes not a jerk he doesn't want to get in your pants!!! So have fun and things will go in the oposite derection!! GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 9

Well first of all don't listen to them jerkoffs because if they can't look past all of the outer things than their not worth your time. Also stop telling yourself that because guys like it when a girls more confident in her self. i know its hard really I do and you just want to cry and change yourself completely. But if you need to change for someone else than they don't really care about you. Just brush them off and keep your head up and remember never change for anybody because I don't even know you but I can tell your a good person and anybody would be lucky to have you in their life.

Answer 10

You really need to stop listening to them and to other hurtful things like that. That could be at the heart of why the things you try haven't worked; negative things stay inside our heads long after we first hear them, and they color our perception of, (and reactions to), the world around us. You can lose weight, but that shouldn't be your primary goal. Instead you should endeavor to be healthy, happy and as well-adjusted as humanly possible. Remember, you're only 15 and subject to all sorts of growth over the next few years, so obsessing about a single condition right now may throw things out of kilter for you later on. But if you continue developing that winning personality of yours and a healthy self-esteem, that will last you a lifetime. Deeper still, there are guys who like all sorts of body types...but it really doesn't matter what guys like, but what YOU like. Impress yourself with your lavish grace. Enjoy your holidays.

Answer 11

You know what I think? as long as you don't tell yourself that you're beautiful, you really won't be... I used to be really hard on myself, drive myself insane about it, and end up just never smiling and always getting discouraged. The I changed schools, and I decided to just forget about my looks and guys and just have fun with my friends and focus on my studies... before i did this I was called ugly many times, just like you... but you know what? after changing the way I looked at it, I've been called pretty many times ( twice today) believe me, when you feel good about yourself, it really does make you look good! ;)

Hope this helps you out :)