Why do people have a problem with men being pro-life?

Question

It seems every pro-abortionist I've talked to is disgusted that men are pro-life... of course they are! And for the same reason that women are as well. They respect life, and do not want to see their children, siblings, nieces, nephews, etc. killed in the name of "choice."
I see no problem in men being allowed to be pro-life. After all, abortion degrades fatherhood as much as it does motherhood.

Why do you think there's a problem?

A lot of these answers are really intelligent and though-provoking, although not all.

It strikes me as funny that people keep bringing up the rape issue, but in truth, abortions because of rape make up less than 1% of all all abortions. More abortions are done because the women are "inconvienced."

And yes, pro-choice and pro-abortion is the same thing. I will not explain further; you may read Mary's answer if you want to know why; I agree with her.

I won't choose a best answer yet, just in case some else as something intelligent to add. :)

One more thing: over population is a myth. Just thought I'd throw that out there too!

Answer 1

I'm pro-life, and a guy, and I don't think there's any problem with it at all.

I think that some people have a problem with it because guys aren't the ones having the baby, which I understand, is a really painful process, therefore, we shouldn't really have a say in the matter.

But I think that's a really bogus response because, like you said, abortion degrades fatherhood as much as it does motherhood. The child is as much the father's as it is the mother's.

Answer 2

I think pro-lifers, male and female, need to mind their own business.
And I am not "pro" abortion. I have 5 children of my own. But I also don't believe in forcing a rape victim into having a baby, or letting a woman die due to pregnancy. And I really cant stand the ones that are so extreme they think using the pill is also murder.
Fact is, even if you don't like it, it isn't your body. And it isn't any of your business.
There are enough unwanted children in this world as it is, so why not stop preaching to others, and do something to help the ones that are already here.

Answer 3

I'm a man and I'm pro-choice. Although I abhor it, I know there are always extenuating circumstances that are beyond my imagination.

I think what makes people angry about men being pro-life is because to some feminists it may seem as a reminder of subjugation. The idea that a man has a voice in what goes on in a woman's body is abhorrent to them. I think the idea that a woman is a vessel for carrying property is what they dislike and the fact that a lot of men are pro-life may remind them of this.

To me the decision is ultimately a woman's. I have no delusions about this. I would definitely like a say in it, but the fact is that a woman can decide to carry it or terminate it whether legal or illegal.

However I am also cradle to the grave in my opinion. If you allow babies to come into this world make sure that there are resources to sustain them. That's also why I believe in eugenics and population controls. But then again, I'm a pretty radical sort. :-)

Answer 4

Because everybody is selfish in one way or another. And some think that it's okay to kill somebody (yes, abortion is murder) in order to keep themselves happy. The ironic part is that they usually regret it after the fact because they eventually realize that they killed their child. Well, it's not really ironic, because it really does make sense, especially when it is their own flesh and blood.

And to those that say pro-choice is not pro-abortion: excuse me, but you are mistaken. Pro-abortion does not mean telling everybody in the world to have an abortion, but allowing it as an option, which is the same thing as pro-choice.

Sometimes I really wish you could reply directly to answers in this forum.

Answer 5

The problem arises when women want to have an abortion while the father does not. I believe that a father should have some sort of say as to whether or not his child is brought into the world. Abortion is not something that only concerns the mother, you have to take the father into account too.

Answer 6

I think the biggest reason,besides the fact that pregnancy happens to woman ,not men. is that even if the father of the baby(who may WANT that baby) wants the mother to stay pregnant so the baby can be born, the mother feels that having the baby just for the father,carrying it for 9months for the father,must not be worth it. I think also,that woman don't want anyone finding out that they were ever pregnant, for whatever reasons they may have. Life is life. the baby didn't ask to be concieved even if he/she is a product of rape... carrying the baby to fullterm to be let it be born after being raped,is nt something wrong, and no reflection whatso ever on the mother. No exuse. Just because it reminds the mother of the fact she was raped is no exuse to KILL ,yes i said it, KILL the baby. NO ONE has the right to end life, but god. no one.

Answer 7

I've never met a "pro-abortionist" so I wouldn't know what they believe. A pro-choice person simply wants a choice......in the event of rape and medical risk, I am sure you would want to have your mom around still, then to have to lose both her and her child due to medical risk pregnancy. I am sure, if your sister was raped or your wife, that you would have trouble watching her be forced to carry that unwanted baby to term just because the law forces her to do so.
Nevertheless, I agree that men help to create the child in question and, thus, should have equal say in what happens to it.

Answer 8

It's fine if men are pro-life. That's their decision, and if they feel it's appropriate for their lives, then it's perfectly okay for them to feel that way.

However, the problem comes when the man is trying to tell a woman what decision she should make. He has the right to decide that for *himself*, but he does NOT have the right to make that decision for *someone else*.
He may not like that person's decision, but he doesn't have the right to tell her what to do - he may not like that his coworker is a lesbian or cheating on her husband or is part of a different religion, either, but it would be unfair of him to try to apply HIS choices to HER life.

The reason some people get so disgusted with it is because men never have to face this dilemna themselves. Men can't get pregnant, so they don't have to face the physical, social, and economic consequences of pregnancy - they can always just walk away. A woman has to give at least nine months of her life to pregnancy - a man doesn't have to give more than 15 seconds.

So yes, pregnancy/abortion does affect the father, but it affects the mother much more, so it would be hypocritical of the man to insist that he can make appropriate decisions on someone else's behalf for something he will never experience himself.

So yes, be pro-life if you want to - but give others the same courtesy to decide what is appropriate for themselves.

Answer 9

The problem is: Pro-choice / abortionist women believe that only they, as women, have the right to make the choice because they are the ones who carry the child.

Answer 10

I put them one step behind women who have had abortions themselves then turn against that freedom of choice for any other hapless woman....men are half the equation and yes, they can and should contribute in every way to the woman's choice if it is their baby too...but the real decision is made by the woman and it is a freedom that every woman should have...when men have babies I expect pro life will change to "its my life-my choice" right fast...!