i just went to confession today during religion class (i go atleast once every 2 or so months) and well the priest from my parish who i am well aquanted with. i am in the youth group he runs, i took his confirmation class, he is basically the yourth minister.
well he did confession at my school and i had to go to him. being the advent season i admited everything (something i normally dont do-i konw it is bad that i dont) but i told him how i borrowed a dollar ffrom a friend without her knowing. (now i will have you know that it was only $1!!! and that i paid her back in person! and explained it all. it is a justifiyable story)
well when it came to giving me my penance, he asked "well how much did you steal?" and i said "only a dollar but i paid her back in full and in person."
but now all i can do is think of his face when i said that and all i can do is think that he will hold it against me or atleast think of me differently. hold on more to come
2007-12-05 10:36:03 · 14 answers · asked by Catholic 14 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i think he wont trust me anymore like when we are doing the cookie baking later this month...i offered to sell the cookies.
and he makes me feel worse about it even though i went to confession. i never thought about it before today and now i feel terible even though my friend is fine with what i did as long as i leave a note telling her why.
have you ever felt this way??? please leave advice.
2007-12-05 10:38:07 · update #1
YES THAT IS MY WORST!!!! what is your problem dude???? that was not nice!!!
2007-12-05 10:41:40 · update #2
when i saw his face, he was shocked and it became akwaard.... i really think he doesnt trust me anymore
2007-12-05 10:43:22 · update #3
heneni-- i have to go to confession... it is part of the catholic faith. i can not just sit in bed and say"God i.______________, and ______ and i am really sorry. please forgive me."
2007-12-05 10:44:50 · update #4
Don't worry priests are trained to forget what you tell them in confession - they don't want to remember. Also if he is a good catholic priest then he will not hold a grudge as catholics are not supposed to hold grudges etc. I think that it was good of you to confess everything to the priest (something I do rarely) and you did well to put it right with your friend.
2007-12-06 04:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did the right thing in confessing so completely. Now you must know that you have been COMPLETELY absolved. The priest is not supposed to hold it against you in any way at all. In fact, priests hear so many confessions just like the one you gave, they would probably have a lot of trouble remembering exactly who confessed what.
Your own sense of guilt might be coloring your perception of how he is interacting with you now. For example, he might have been distracted by some other issue on his mind (an upcoming funeral or a meeting with the bishop to go over parish stuff or maybe he just got a nasty phone call from somebody who didn't like his last homily), and that made him act not quite himself, but it had nothing to do with you.
Give it some time, and I'm sure you'll see that it's nothing.
2007-12-06 03:33:53 · answer #2 · answered by sparki777 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think anyone who has gone to confession has felt this way, even with a priest you don't know. It is that awful Catholic guilt and shame that seems to be really good at raining down on us at just the perfect moments. There are times I have been too afraid to fully confess to a priest so I commend you for being able to have made that confession and then further to confess again to everyone here.
It is like disappointing your parents for some reason but on a higher degree. But think how that feeling will make you try harder to avoid putting yourself in that situation again. Besides, you coming back and facing him though you feel so guilty takes guts. I would almost say talk to him about how you are feeling, be honest. If he is remotely a good priest he will be able to help you.
2007-12-05 10:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by sweetbearsg2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have on occaision hesitated to confess to priests that I know on a friendly basis, but in the end I realize that it is more important to be honest during confession than to worry about meeting the priest later on. I think it is hard for a priest to be both your confessor and your friend. I mean, there are some priests who are so spiritual that it is possible, but I think in most cases you have to make a choice - confessor or friend. If you are having difficulty being honest during confession, you may want to consider finding another priest to confess to. Is there not another church in your neighbourhood that you can go to for confession? Honesty is crucial.
2007-12-05 11:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by morkie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I have never felt this way with a priest but I have felt guilt about something I did to my friend. Priest are not allowed to hold what you did against you because you did it in private and on top of that you asked for God's forgiveness. I'm sure he considered the fact that you gave it back to your friend and that you felt sorry for doing it. Don't think much of it you have been forgiven by God.
2007-12-05 10:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by Idalis E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God Loves you! The priest is simply a gate keeper. Once he knows that you are sorry the gate is opened and God forgives you! Know that you are forgiven! God Loves you so much and you are very precious to him.
A priest is forbidden to tell anyone your sins so do not fear! I love confession and go once a week. I found I can give any sinful baggage to him every week. Moreover it helps me become more aware of the actions of myself and others in a loving way. God gives grace with forgiveness to helps us to grow in faith and love and resist sin.
I think it is a great sacrament and can make a hero out of someone.
Ask Mother Mary to help you with any problems or worries you have as she always goes direct to her son Jesus Christ.
God bless and God Love you!
Totus Tuus Maria
2007-12-05 10:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that we believe that this is your worst sin?
Confession is good for the soul, there is no doubt.
We are encouraged in the scriptures to confess one to another.
There is actually nothing about going to confession class or the need to go to someone in authority, just "one to another", like with your best friend.
To be honest, your best confession was when you went in person to your friend and paid back the money. I'm sure God was satisfied with that.
As for your "youth pastor" I'm sure he is not thinking about that one buck you took. He is most likely wondering when you are going to tell the real sins, the sins of the heart.
In any case, if you don't trust him with your confessions, he is not the person you should confess to.
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2007-12-05 10:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by Gypsy Priest 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I pastor a few people (part of my Protestant denomination tradition) and I can guarantee that part of that role is to NOT hold anything said against anyone. We're there to assist the person in verbalizing their thoughts and asking clearly for God's forgiveness.
From what I understand, and the Catholic priests I've talked to over the years to sort of "compare notes," it works the same way for them.
Don't worry, I'd bet he thinks of it the same way.
2007-12-05 10:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were honest, good for you.
If the priest won't forgive you, he is not following the laws of God, The Lords prayer says, "forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us," he might of had the look on his face because it took him by surprise.
2007-12-05 10:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by Peter R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, dear one....he hears Confessions all of the time and has already forgotten whatever you told him.
He will not "hold it against you". I promise.
God has forgiven you.
2007-12-05 10:43:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋