To my girls out there????

Question

I know the male ego can be fragile but If your man wasn't pleasuring you right but you know telling him that would offend him. Would you just say nothing and hope it gets better or let him know?

Answer 1

Let's not be sexist in asking for an answer now!

Let's consider a GUYS perspective; First and formost - HONESTY COUNTS. Secondly - Timing is everything!

Let me expand. O.K. - If your man (and I am not making general statements about MEN, this is my answer only), is not satisfying you, or keeping you happy, or not expirimenting enough, and he is unaware of it.......can he do anything about it?

NO.

But in the real men, we are NOT men of steele and we do have feelings. In our HE MAN Society, we are the aggressor and the dominator but that is not always the case. In fact, I get extreemly turned on by a woman who isn't afraid to initiate intamacy or to "turn the heat up". It is important for the woman to be able to explain and suggest what she is looking for rather than to just say "youre no fun in bed"! Again I say, if we dont know it's broken....we cant fix it! AND TRUST ME, if the woman is happy (Guy's focus on HER "O" first......and even her second one, and the results will,.......if I can say this.......BLOW YOU AWAY!

SECONDLY

WHEN you inform us that you would like changes is just as important as how you tell us. For some guys, a whisper in our ear in the heat of the moment might really add sparks of FIRE to the session......."Honey, {do this to me}. Some think you could get away with saying you "Saw it in a Movie". For other guys, the time might be next time your holding hands walking through the park.........when you stop, pull him close to you......look him in the eye and tell him that you love him (but only if you do!) and say, something like "I have been having dreams about you lately, and I love to try something new with you, can we talk about it"?

Go ahead Girl - BE HONEST! Go get after it now!

Answer 2

You got to let him know. Otherwise, your sex life will go down the drain because you're not being satisfied. While you guys are doing whatever say things like, "deeper, harder, faster, slower, i like that." Don't ONLY critisize him in bed, but tell him also when you're enjoying what he's doing. Also, give him hints as to what you want. Such as pulling his hands to certain spots, or whispering in his ear what you'd like. Or even pulling his hair/head towards where you'd like him to kiss/nibble/lick.

Like you said: the male ego can be fragile. So, remember to praise him when you like what he's doing.

Also, trying new things could inspire him and help him get better. But, that doesn't mean to lack on the communication, either.

Just don't let your sex life get boring. A lot of people seeing it as a "whatever...so what...it's getting boring...forget about it..." kind of thing. But it doesn't have to be that way. Get a kama sutra book and read cosmo. Haha.

Good luck!

Answer 3

IT depends on how bad it is. If I could gently show him how to do things correctly fine. Otherwise I might just take charge instead of letting him continue. The male ego is awfully fragile though, so you have to take charge without him realizing it.

Answer 4

Let him know because a relationship is nothing without trust and to trust one another you have to be honest. Yeah it'll probably hurt his feelings a little bit but he'll have to get over it at least your trying to make the relationship work instead of being pleasured by someone else.But be nice and gentle about it.

Answer 5

I think if you two are really in love that communication is definitely key. there are certain ways of telling him that would hurt his feelings but i think you just have to say it in the right way. i think most guys would rather know they are pleasing you right even if they have to have some direction then you be bored and faking it the whole time. like when it feels good say keep doing that, or show him how you do things to yourself haha, but probably if you outright say what are you doing? or that doesnt feel like anything would hurt his ego

Answer 6

Well.... If you're worried about offending his ego, try playing to it. Say things like "I bet you'd be good at....." or "it feels so good when you _____ my ____, try doing it to _____"

Make sure that you let him know that you want HIM to be doing these things, and you know that HE can be good at it.

If you don't know that he's got a big ego, and you just assume he does.... TRy asking him hoenstly! Sit him down and let him know that you think he CAN please you, but that he DOESN'T at the moment.

Hope it helps.

Cheers

Answer 7

i have been there done that. Me and my bf are really close so i try to send subtle hints and he gets sooo offended! i used to do it pretty regularly and now i just dont anymore and just wait for it to get better or something. The longer your with someone the less exciting it gets and my bf isnt really willing to try anymore exciting things cuz hes getting older, so i wouldnt tell him. hope that helped.

Answer 8

I kind of get off from bad sex... lol. It is soo amazingly innocent and more genuine that way. Maybe I'm not right in the head but rookies give me a rush no veteran could ever give. Enjoy it... sex is sex.

Answer 9

i think it'd be better to just tell him. if he gets angry at you because you've offended him, then thats his problem. you should be getting the most out of a relationship, and when you know he can step it up, then you have to call him on it.

Answer 10

That's a good question... I would tell him but i would do it to where he understands... i would try something new.. believe it or not there are over 100 ways to have sex...