It's been a year since we talked. At that time, her mother was dying from cancer and she was pretty upset about it.
1. Should I ask her about her mother?
2. If her's mother's passed on, what should I say?
2007-12-05 10:24:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Since she knows that you were aware of her mother's illness, it would probably be rude for you to not ask about her. I would, but in a gentle way. With medical advances being what they are now, maybe you will be presently surprised and find out that her mother is in remission.
If the answer is that her mother passed away, then you should only say that you are very sorry for her loss and leave it at that.
Do NOT say:
-it was probably for the best
-it was her time to go
-be glad she's not in pain any more
-she is with God now
And please don't say you know how she feels, unless your mother has also passed on.
2007-12-05 10:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by Daisy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but not right off the bat!
Say hello, maybe give a hug, tell her it's been SO long since you've seen her...and how nice it is to finally see her again.
Say something along the lines of, "I'm sorry I haven't been in touch. You have been in my thoughts over the months. How is your mother doing? (and if she says her mother has passed, ) I'm sorry to hear that. How have you been since your loss?"
Just be sincere. And if they seem to need to talk, TALK! Don't just walk away!
Good luck!
2007-12-05 18:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by Halo...as in Angels have them 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should ask, if her mother did pass, just tell her you're sorry to hear it and hope she and her family is doing well. You could even say that her mother was in your prayers, people like to hear that, even if its not true.
If you are uncomfortable with that scenario then you could wait for her to bring up her mothers health and then you can take it from there, I doubt you'd want to spend a lengthy conversation about a sick person, when you're already uncomfortable with the situation.
2007-12-05 18:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by Miss 6 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you still fill close to this girl......Ask her how her family is.....if her mother has passed ...well the only thing you can say is you are sorry....she will open the dialog on this one.
Let her do the talking,you will know what to say when the time comes.
2007-12-05 18:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by TERRI S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation a short time ago. You can talk about her mom, but only good things, and not too much. Your friend will be thankful that you hold her mom in your heart. Just remember to talk about the present, what she's been up to, what you've been up to and stuff like that.
2007-12-05 18:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋