I have quickly become friends with one of the new girls at the clothing store that I work at. She is a sweet and nice girl, and yesterday I was shocked when her boyfriend came in to visit her. Picture a pretty girl with long brown hair and blue eyes, dressed fashonably, in pink and brown, not to mention accessories (well you get the point) In comes her boyfriend doing a stupid walk as he came in the door to make her laugh. He is just not right for her. He was dressed in skinny jeans, a slipknot shirt, and convers, not to mention the goti (sp?) long scraggly hair, tattoo on his arm, and the industrial piercings in each ear. He came in and hugged her, and then she asked something about his guitar, and they talked about slipknot and tool (which she later explained to me who they were, and I really don't see her ACTUALLY liking that kind of stuff) then she helped him change one of his piercings and he kissed her hand before he left. When I left for my lunchbreak a few minutes later I noticed him standing at the window watching her work with this weird grin on his face like a creepy stalker or something. He is nothing like the cute guys the rest of us at the store date. How do I tell her that this guy is just trouble and not for her. She says they are celebrating their 4 month anniversary tomorrow. I mean he is a punk, how could he be good for her?
2007-12-05 10:09:17 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if she chose him as her boyfriend, she must've liked something about him. And she might've dressed as you described, only for work (and especially since she works in a clothing store). Have you seen the way she dress when she's not working? And anyway, this is THEIR relationship, not yours. I mean, how long have you known her anyway? Whether she decides if he's good for her or not, is her decision, not yours. I don't know how else to say it to you without being rude, but you really should mind your own business in certain things.
2007-12-05 10:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My god, how superficial you are. Do you not realise you are judging someone solely by their appearance and completely ignoring the fact that they may have other merits?
By the sound of it he loves her and she clearly loves him. If you were a true friend, you wouldn't be bothered by this, and you would make the effort to get to know this guy better, instead of trying to make this girl you work with into a clone of yourself.
Grow up. And consider this: who other people date is none of your business. What they look like is none of your business. All you need concern yourself with is that they are good to each other and look out for each other.
2007-12-05 10:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by Orla C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well maybe she just sees something in him.. people can love people but the rest of us might wonder why but they do so if hes what she wants and makes her happy then why mess with that
2007-12-05 10:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you are concerned that he might be a stalker
tell her about the incident outside the store
and tell her that you like her and dont want her to get mixed up with the wrong people and get into drugs or anything like that
2007-12-05 10:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds tragic...I would just leave it alone...let her do what she wants because shes obviously fine with it...Don't talk to her about it unless she brings it up!
2007-12-05 10:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by Markie P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋