I feel like finding a man and being the only one of her friends to not be married is consuming my sisters thoughts!I am the youngest (20) and she is the oldest and she is terrified I will get married before her for some reason..
she has her priorities with what she wants in a relationship all wrong!! I.e. she would marry for money over love! I tried to tell her that money is only a temporary fix and wont make her happy long term but maybe that’s just me. i try to tell her that if he has money then great/its a plus, but not to make it a deal breaker if he doesn’t since this obviously isn’t working for her.
I don’t want her to end up settling for a man who isn’t right for her b/c of his wallet. i just want her to find someone that deserves her and make her happy and want her to stop obsessing over getting married and learn to love herself /realize maybe shes not ready to love another .. What should I do/say to her?! nd why is it that my beautiful sweet and funny sister hasn’t
2007-12-05 09:59:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think only one of you understood what i was saying.. i am not the one that is so desperae for her to get married.. i want her to not worry abiut it so much. SHE is the one to obsess over it.
2007-12-05 10:08:19 · update #1
You sound like a sweet and caring sister and that's great but there's nothing you can do for her until she's ready. One day some guy will walk into her life and -bam- she will be smitten. I hope he has some money, for her sake but if not, I don't think it will matter.
I hope this happens soon so you can stop worrying. Good luck.
2007-12-05 10:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever considered that her biological clock is starting to tick? She may have realized that marriage also means a stable relationship in which to have babies. And, realistically, your sister only has another 8 years (til she's 35) left of her 'fertility years' until she runs the risk of having a child with a physical or learning disability (most commonly down syndrome). In her rush to find Mr Right, she may be willing to over look a lot of factors that may have turned her off in the past just so she can get that ring on her finger - to be like all her friends and settle down with a family. Tell her to take a step back and have a breather, and maybe start looking for men her age (or older) who are looking to marry as well. She can even do it online, in the newspaper or seek an introductions agency. Ask her if she would prefer to fit in with her friends and be unhappy or wait and spend a lifetime of married bliss with the man who is right for her?
2007-12-05 18:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by agonyaunt86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that your sister has her priorities mixed up. Why not reverse it and ask her what would she think if men only liked her for her looks and didn't care to know her as a person. She's much the same in coveting money instead of someone to share life with, coz the aspects of physical attractiveness and material possessions only go so far to making someone happy, it's the ability to know someone and have them understand and support you that is more enduring. She'll soon get the idea that there's more to a relationship than physical/material aspects, or if not she’ll be a very unhappy person indeed.
2007-12-05 18:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, it's her life and she'll have to learn from her mistakes. She'll probably just become defensive if you try to help her, and it may even cause a rift between you two.
2007-12-05 18:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a bunch of money, and when I was looking to get married, I steered clear of gold diggers.
2007-12-05 18:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone, and stop worrying about her, she'll figure it out eventually.
2007-12-05 18:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a career as a nun?
2007-12-05 18:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by cgreenemax 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
maybe she just enjoys being independent
2007-12-05 18:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what is the problem?
2007-12-05 18:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by AT6381 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋