I feel like I always start the physical stuff. I love that he respects me--he's such a great guy...but sometimes I just wanna yell, "No more respect! Throw me down on the couch!" When we first started dating he was kind of shy and I think I've helped him get over that but it hasn't completely happened when we're personal. Sometimes I just want to feel like I'm being taken advantage of. Is that so hard...?
2007-12-05 09:58:24 · 41 answers · asked by lovebird25 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, not taken advantage of really...but...I'd like him to be more confident. Suggestions?
2007-12-05 10:01:32 · update #1
Ah, also...I'm 16. By physical stuff, I'm not talking about sex. Sorry I forgot to clarify :)
2007-12-05 10:04:46 · update #2
Trying doing what you said:
yell, "No more respect! Throw me down on the couch!"
2007-12-05 10:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
As a guy, I think that he might be a little insecure about the physical part. Although I am not sure, I was at the age of 16. When you initiate he knows you want it, so it is easier to get started then if he trys and gets rejected.
2007-12-05 10:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by Rob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know that you feel this way? Maybe you should try talking to him about it. If he's not comfortable for a certain reason, then he'll let you know! So sit down together, fully clothed, have a normal conversation about your wants and needs from eachother, and take it from there! Maybe there's something you don't know, and maybe there's something he's afraid to tell you or ask you! Take it easy and just talk to the guy, there's gotta be a legit reason!
2007-12-05 10:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by Tessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you have a fantasy about him being physically aggressive. Be sure to describe in detail how the fantasy plays out. Then just wait a few days for him to think it through and take action. Most guys will jump at the chance to fulfill their girl's fantasy if it doesn't involve something that makes them too uncomfortable.
2007-12-05 10:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by Automation Wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly what your saying. my boyfriend and i actually had a perfect relationship and he would always be physical and in control, but then he hit this phase where hes "scared of commitment" i guess things got a little too serious for him to fast or something. So now its like if we get physical at all, I have to initate everything. At first it bothered me, but he finally started coming around after i just quit initating anything. But i just had to tell him what i wanted...if you want him to "throw you down on the couch" tell him...but tell him in a way he cant resist...if you know what im saying!
2007-12-05 10:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by beth ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky You (smile)
He may feel intimidated by his lack of experience but if you are both patient and supportive when you initiate being physical you will be Greatly Rewarded in the later end.
2007-12-05 10:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him how you feel, just talk to him. If he is as respectful as you think he will listen to what you obviously need to say and he will do as you ask, but it will take some time for him to get comfortable with the idea.
2007-12-05 10:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by toughguy1_2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's you in that picture. I can understand, you are hot as hell. He doesn't want to break his little princess in half. If he's the shy type, then don't expect it from him. You can start by letting him play a more dominate position in everything. So that way, he'll learn the confidence. Then one day, he'll rip your clothes off anytime he wants.
2007-12-05 10:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by Little Foot 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tease him as much as possible to the pint where he has to start it before he beats hiself over the head with a rock. Or just tell him to. Be like "come and get it"
2007-12-05 10:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by CorruptiC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god a chick that actually wants to be taken advantage of .ya dude might want the relationship to last or he might be confused .either way would you rather be feeling like all he wants from you is sex ,come on
2007-12-05 10:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by Dezz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋