2007-12-05 09:24:52 · 20 answers · asked by stinkyrichdad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
would i meant to say
2007-12-05 09:25:12 · update #1
i would be p.o.ed if my bestfriend didnt come to my wedding!!
2007-12-05 09:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by babyxgirlx08 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
To tell you the truth, I find a number of things wrong with this picture. The fact that you were separated from your fiance doesn't bother me so much, since if you'd actually been married to him, traditional dinner etiquette would have dictated that you be seated apart anyway (though not necessarily at different tables.) But I do dislike just about everything else you've described. The separation of the bridal party from all the other guests strikes me as unsociable, to put it charitably. And marching them in and "introducing" them makes the whole thing seem more like an awards show than a social event. I realize this how receptions are often done these days, but it's far from the best way. So while I don't think your separation from your date is all that bad, I do deplore the reasons it was done. Or, to put it another way, a reception isn't a show and your finance isn't the lead guitar.
2016-05-28 08:24:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a wedding far from your friends/family, you really shouldn't be terribly offended if people can't come. That's just one of the drawbacks of having a destination wedding. Maybe your friend can't take the time off work. Maybe he has had some big expenses recently and is strapped for cash. Just talk to him. If you haven't already had the wedding, call your friend and let him know how much you want him to be there. Ask him if there is anything you can do to help make that possible. If he still cannot come, you just need to accept that and don't take it as a knock against your friendship.
I have close friends who live very far away. Although I told each of them about the wedding as soon as we set a date, I understand that they will probably not be able to come. I'll be a tiny bit disappointed, but certainly not offended.
2007-12-05 10:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by SE 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't be mad. Traveling to a destination wedding is a pain in the you know what. Not only do you have to buy a plane ticket, (or drive a decent amount) YOu have to pay for a hotel, meals when you are not at the wedding, a wedding present. etc. You say he has a good job? But I bet he has alot of bills too.. Personally I don't like destination weddings, because I end up spending my limited vacation time, somewhere I didn't really want to visit. Yeah, fun, but I don't want my allotted vacation time to be spent doing pre planned things somewhere far away. Basically you can't be mad
2007-12-05 20:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by sden2616 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, just because he has a good job and you assume he has the means to go to Vegas, he should do it because you want him to? I'm sure if he really is your best friend that there's a VERY good reason as to why he can't attend.
2007-12-06 04:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot expect people to be as excited about your wedding as you are. Just because you think it's the most important thing in the world, that doesn't make it so. Maybe he doesn't want to waste his vacation time on a wedding in Vegas. Maybe he can't get the time off period. Maybe he doesn't have as much money as you think he does. The world doesn't revolve around you, get over it.
2007-12-05 13:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't think its fair to be upset with anyone - friend or family - who does not want to travel to a destination wedding.. its not like it was in town and he didn't go.. maybe there are things going on that prevented him from attending other than finances and he wasn't comfortable talking to you about it..
2007-12-05 14:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by hitchnj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just b/c someone can afford to travel, it doesn't mean it's convinent for them.
Maybe he could not take off from work? Maybe he has major financial problems, that you are not aware of?
You don't know. If he seems happy about your marriage, I would consider him a good friend. But, destination weddings are difficult to attend for some people and it's not always b/c of financial reasons.
2007-12-05 09:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by J'adore 4 · 10⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, our wedding day was important to us, but I would not expect anyone, best friend or family, to drop everything just because we chose that date to get married. So what if your friend has enough money, perhaps he has something else he has already committed to on that date?
2007-12-05 19:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he can't get the time off, or doesn't want to spend that much money. You are the one choosing to get married somewhere far away so you shouldn't be offended.
2007-12-05 14:29:30 · answer #10 · answered by JM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends how much of a notice your friend had....but i dont think I would be offended , it must be for a good reason, if he's your best friend I dont think he would intentinally hurt you.
Congrats on your wedding!
2007-12-05 14:19:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋