Quick question to people. Is it normal for guys to talk about the ex's a lot to their current girlfriend? Bc mine does all the time. Even if it is just saying something in passing, she comes up quite a bit. It just seems odd to me if he doesnt care about her or anything. I know they still talk and whatnot, so who cares about that. But it just seems odd to me about how much he talks about her... I dont care that much about her that I need to know they did this and that while they were dating or who she is currently dating. I have better things to talk about than her. Why doesnt he seem to get the hint everytime I change the subject. Man, he doesnt know crap about my ex's bc he told me not to talk about it... And we agreed to just let the past be past... Is it because he still thinks about her? Cares for her? Or was with her so long it is just habit? Anything someone can offer here would be great! Thanks!!
2007-12-05 09:18:05 · 16 answers · asked by GracieGirlie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No.. But I was rebound for sure... He was totally in love with her and then she cheated and he "fell out of love"... But I know that (despite what he says) he still has some kind of feelings for her. He is just so drawn to her Im not sure what to do...
2007-12-05 09:23:50 · update #1
We have been together over a year and had a couple of months between her and me... I just dont get it... He used to do this, then stopped.. now he is at it again... But now since he started talking to her againg it is odd.. Am I in the wrong? Or is this just going to pass over like last time?
2007-12-05 09:30:32 · update #2
Thank you everybody for your imput! It was excellent! Thanks again!!! =)
2007-12-05 10:54:10 · update #3
He probably still thinks about her and depending on how long ago they broke up, he may still have some feelings for her. Next time he does it, ask him why he feels the need to constantly bring up the subject about her.
2007-12-05 09:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by Zsasha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry to much about it. I believe that once you love some body you never stop loving them. he's with you now. As long as he doesn't hangout with her all the time I wouldn't be worried about it. He's not with her for a reason. Me and my ex split a couple months ago but we were together for a long time. I still find myself saying stuff to my current boyfriend. Sometimes on accident and sometimes on purpose. Its nothing against you. Give him some time it will fade. If it does bother you just ask him, don't be to pushy with it though. Or talk about her back to him and see how he responds.
Best of luck.
2007-12-05 09:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've spent time with a person, they become a part of your frame of reference. Don't worry about it. He's probably thinking more about the movie they saw together that he's commenting on (or whatever else) than the old relationship. Guys tend to move on pretty fast once a relationship is over.
2007-12-05 09:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by finra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean he told you not to talk about your ex's? you can't talk about them but he can talk about his ex? and still carry on a relationship with her? red flag warning for you! sometimes when people break up they remain friends, that is fine and if it works for EVERYONE then it is ok, however it is not working for you. investigate further why he can talk about her but you are given a no go on speaking about people in your past. something isn't right about the situation.
2007-12-05 09:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by adelaide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably not a bad person, but he isnt into you enough to make it worth staying in this relationship.
people go on the rebound. it happens to most of us.
just walk away from this. you'll be happier in the long run.
2007-12-05 09:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by neonatheart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not over her yet. If I were you, I would get out of the relationship now, before you get hurt. If he was over her, he wouldn't dare bring her up to his new girlfriend. What an insensitive A__hole.
2007-12-05 09:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by mm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not good
but.... tell him that you dont want to hear it, but in a kind way, he might not even realize hes doing it. if he does realize it there are two possible reasons i can think of
1. hes insecure and want you to know that he can get other girls if you ever leave him (which means hes a @$$)
2.hes not over them. in which case, you can stay with him and accept it or move on.
2007-12-05 09:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him know you aren't another guy, you're his girlfriend, and hearing about his exgirlfriends is not going to strengthen your relationship with him at all.
Sometimes guys do this so you'll know that they are worthy men. They want you to be reminded that other girls love them. He needs to stop.
2007-12-05 09:24:15 · answer #8 · answered by Kyle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it is habit, a bad one. You sound very secure with yourself and the relationship. I would just tell him that you'd appreciate if he didn't mention her all the time because it's inconsiderate.
2007-12-05 09:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by kiddkosmic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm well if he told you to not talk about your ex's you definitley have the right to tell him. next time he brings her up in a nice way not sounding jealous jst ask him why he always talks about her if ur not allowed to talk about ur ex's
2007-12-05 09:23:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋