My daughter still seems to have the terrible "2's". Everthing is no. Gets angry when play games and its not her way. She knows it all attitude. Doesnt want to go along with the am routine or go to bed when its time. She is reluctant on every issue. In public it gets worse, crying, kicking, rolling on the floor and screaming.
2007-12-05 09:10:57 · 12 answers · asked by Inquiry4u 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I think you just need to be consistant. I do not think that you need to "take her somewhere quiet to talk to her" as this will not work. You can not rationalize with a 3 year old child. It just does not work...lol
2007-12-05 11:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by "McRib" NREMT-P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every child is a different case scenario...Any number of things could remedy or inhibit the issue at hand. A few ideas to try out are: Make "choices" an important aspect of daily life early on...Life is full of them as we encounter even as adults. Certain children will respond better when not feeling forced to do something...For example:bedtime- If the child's bed time is set for let's say, 8:00 begin asking the child at 7:00 " Do you want to pick out a book before bed NOW,or would you like to wait until the clock says 7:10"? By giving them the feeling of being independent can more often than not help progress to the next level. Another idea is to initiate a reward system.Make a chart of things such as picking up toys, "no whining", etc...and for each item they achieve w/out trouble allow them to place a visual such as a sticker to physically show them their hard work pays off-instill a "reward" such as lunch at Mcd's, or a trip to the park as a reward for consecutive positive behavior. Most of all, no matter what devise you choose to try out-remain consistent, period...that is the only true way a child learns is through routine, consistency, and stability. Good Luck!
2007-12-05 17:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by PBnJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be consistent with the rules. Time out for punishment or you can try reward (marbles in a jar and a certain amt gets a prize) In public, remove her to a quiet spot for a talking to and then take her home immediately. Children must learn what will be tolerated and what wont. Just remember that at three, she's not an adult so be realistic in your expectations but you are the parent and are the one in charge.
2007-12-05 17:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by Diane M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent of a 3 year old myself, I agree with your sentiments that the 3's are worse than the 2's. I think the key is consistency. Don't let them get away with the tantrums, even if it means altering your plans. As a parent, my number one goal is to raise responsible, well adjusted, people. My plans can change to accomplish this. Don't let her win, ot she will do it everytime. I am obviously not saying you have to do anything physical (as I know there are many opinions on that) but you can certainly remove her from those situations, and take her away from things she likes. It's frustrating, because you don't want to always discipline your child, but it has to be done.
2007-12-05 17:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by chaachie12 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With all the children I've worked with around that age....giving them choices has worked the best. Instead of always telling them what you want them to do, give them a choice of which way to do it. For a 3 year old, two choices is reasonable....any more than that can be overwhelming. What you do is give her two choices for example: Do you want to put your pajamas on yourself or do you want me to help you? If she says she doesn't want her pajamas on, you remind her that that is not a choice and tell her her choices once more. If she's still reluctant, tell her you will have to choose for her.
This system has worked much better for me than time outs....it makes them feel like they have control and a little freedom and power to make choices.
2007-12-05 18:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by Love220 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tantrums are normal part of child development.
However, you need to intervene
Your daughter is probably just as surprised by her new temper as you are. Don't over-react. Ignoring is a good strategy to begin with.
When she calms down, tell her I don't understand when you're crying and screaming. You need to use your words to tell me what you want.
Never give in to a tantrum, only to wishes expressed in a more appropriate way. And don't forget that "NO" is sometimes the best answer! You can't give her everything she wants.
Sometimes we just need to understand from their point of view as they cannot fully express themselves.
Useful information to understand and how to deal with such similar situations
2007-12-06 00:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by Dan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's some good advice posted here. If you can't sort it out while she's three, think what it'll be like in three, five, ten years say. Remember that positive incentives are more successful than punishments. Reward the good behaviour and make clear your disapproval of the bad behaviour while never rejecting her for it..
2007-12-05 17:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by checkmate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's 3! They don't do things willingly!!! You aren't doing your job as a parent by letting her get away with throwing fits! Either you choose to MAKE HER MIND YOU or you continue allowing her to be a spoiled brat! There is no inbetween! It's YOUR ATTITUDE about how you dicipline her that's the problem, not her or her attitude!
2007-12-05 17:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably because you didnt' control her over the last 12 months. Now, she's in control. Get it back.
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2007-12-05 19:29:16 · answer #9 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this kid needs to get more attention, she needs love kisses and hugs from her mom and make your delf some time to play with her a little you will see the difference day by day
2007-12-05 17:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by gutmadonehalf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋