SERIOUS answers only please.
on her withdrawal day, the day this student decides that it is her last day and is. Why would a professor still feel a little uncomfortable even after he said he would a week before.
Is it because he thinks my friends and I are close enough for me to share any insight between him and I.
He said to keep it on the "down low" or secret .
This professor said he wanted a relationship with me but only after I graduate or no longer attend the college.
He always made it clear to me that he could get into deep trouble if I exposed the conversations we would share.
We had something going on but no physical contact.
He was very shy and quiet, 27 years old.
But with me he was pretty open and relaxed, but still
a little reserved.
So why would he feel uncomfortable giving out his number... if let's say HE really did like this girl and she really liked him
(over 18) ?
he is single and not married
2007-12-05 08:58:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a big risk for the guy, even if he doesn't get into serious trouble then it will still be frowned upon if his colleagues found out. It would be an embarassment to himself and his superiors, and will damage his reputation and professional integrity.
You've gotta be something really, really special to him if he's going to risk his career over this, even if he was madly in love with you he may have the "good sense" to avoid an inapropriate relationship.
Don't mess him around, understand the risk he's taking, and don't do this on a whim.
2007-12-05 09:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mantrid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He feels uncomfortable because he probably isn't sure if he can trust you. I mean, he worked very hard to get where he is today and if it were to leak out that he hit on and wanted to date a student of his after she withdrew or graduated, it really would not look good for him. It doesn't matter if you're not in his class anymore---what matters is that his reputation could be on the line and he doesn't feel ready to risk it. If he gives you his phone number, then there will be proof positive that such a relationship exsists, and maybe he feels worried that you might get mad at him at some point and make up a huge story about him having a relationship with you while in his class. Women do that sort of thing a lot! I don't blame him for being cautious. I wouldn't risk my reputation or job either!
2007-12-05 09:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of common because there isn't usually much of an age difference. Now if he was 27 and the student was over 18, I guess its okay, but It's not allowed at 90% colleges.
2016-05-28 08:19:21 · answer #3 · answered by bobby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's still afraid it might look inappropriate. Because he doesn't really feel the same way about you and is too shy to say right out that he doesn't want to date you. Because he's seeing someone else. Because he's afraid of becoming a subject of gossip. Because you say "him and I" and he can't date a girl with bad grammar.
But the point of all of this is: he's clearly not all that into you or he would happily hand over his number--or better yet, ask for yours. He hasn't though. So I'd probably move on if I were you. Find someone who can't wait to date you.
Good luck.
2007-12-05 09:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by July 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a personal relationship with a student is a big no no for a college professor, his job could depend on it. Or he could just be lying to you about being single. 27 is bit young to be a college professor, an instructor maybe. At any rate, this is considered unprofessional behavior and subjects him to dismissal.
2007-12-05 09:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by Wiz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this professor sounds completely unprofessional and should be fired.
The most likely reason he doesn't want to give you his number has to do with the fact that you will call him and if you call him it most likely will lead to others finding out about the situation and him rightfully loosing his job.
Besides if you feel comfortable about talking about it on a world wide service such as this, what would stop you from exposing him after you had his number.
2007-12-05 09:07:17 · answer #6 · answered by t-bomb 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He can get fired and it's unprofessional for a teacher to discuss anything personal with a student, I feel for him though, i'm single, 20, and i run a modeling agency. there have been some girls that i've really liked that model for me, because i run the agency I AM allowed to date my employees but i don't because i'm too afraid that i'll get blackmailed after we brake up or taken to court by my other models because i might show the employee i'm dating more privilage. Its tough!
2007-12-05 09:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because most relationships come to an end, and usually someone is bitter. If she was to tell on him it could affect his professional standing and hurt his reputation, and may keep him from being employed at another college.
2007-12-05 09:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it is a huge No-No for him professionally. Without tenure - which he probably doesn't have given his age - he can get fired.
2007-12-05 09:02:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably because he is afraid of what the consequenses would be if his Bosses would find out. Probably just fear.
2007-12-05 09:02:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋