ladies .... where is the fine line between someone trying to prove their love and being a downright stalker??
2007-12-05 08:41:04 · 33 answers · asked by curious question 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To the corner with a 50 in his hand.
2007-12-05 08:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by Steve is cool 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Aha - we have unrequited love here eh? So, are you trying to prove your 'love', or are you just wanting to get in to her knickers? Have you sussed out the difference between love and lust first? Get that answer right first. Most men can't tell the difference.
Then, if you truly feel something warm and tender inside your heart for someone, and not just between your legs, then just ask her out for a coffee, or take her down to the river with a picnic, or whatever you like doing that's non-threatening and open. Tell her you have feelings for her, and want to know if she could feel the same. Be, at all times, honest, humble, polite, respectful and a gentleman.
Treat her with respect and dignity, communicate, and if she still seems ambivalent - then let it go. But, if her eyes lower, and a small smile creases her lips, then you just might have a chance - so, again, ask her out, but take it slowly - don't try to win her over with the full on romantic dinner, candles and wine yet. Use the KISS theory .... 'keep it simple stupid'.
But, remember this lovely old phrase " faint heart never won fair lady". And remember this also .... "To a man, sex is a thing apart, to a woman it is her whole being".
2007-12-05 08:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by Earth Mother 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fine line is if she tells you to back off. For every woman that line is different...and it depends on her feelings for the guy as well.
I really liked this one guy a lot...so it was cool that he called me 3 times a day to talk, and drive over my house without calling etc. If I didn't like the guy I would have been calling the cops.
Some people like to receive flowers anonymously....for me that would freak me out.
It simply just depends. And the best way to "prove" your love...is to be there when she needs you, to listen to her and to be a good friend. And be trustworthy.
Beyond that....take it one day at a time. Love isn't something that can be "proved" in a day....it takes time, patience & about all her love for you. Because if she doesn't love you....nothing you do will make her fall in love. And it can drive her away.
Just take it slow.
2007-12-05 08:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny you should ask. I happen to know it depends on the woman. If a guy doesn't call me at least ten times a day plus drive very slowly by my work at least once a day I just don't think he is all that interested. I love the little shock of seeing my newest crush sitting in the corner of the deli where I am eating lunch brooding and watching me. I adore the fifteen dozen roses that are covering my living room, not to mention all the teddy bears that now cover my guest room bed. As for the late night serenades where he stands outside my apartment with a booming sound system like a real live John Cusack from "say anything"............oh take my breathe away, I just might be in love. So I say go for it and show her how you feel to the intensity that you feel it, it isn't stalking, its true love. I hate how law makers have scared true romantics with these silly "stalking" laws. I say take back your romance and go for it. Good luck!
2007-12-05 08:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by frazzled_in_bama 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that men or women should have to resort to extaordinary feats to prove their love. Fidelity, constancy, companionship, kindness, passion and respect should take care of it. We all enjoy the extra "perks" - compliments and gifts,etc... , but when they are occassional they are more meaningful than when they become the expected. Stalking signifies that the other party is not receptive to your attentions on any level - and that is where that line is drawn. The other day out of the clear blue my guy said to me "you really are a good woman"-- that just me fall in love with him all over again, that one simple perfectly timed unexpected phrase. My man doesn't have to go far, he just gets right into and head and then my heart. PS- Steve: the "to the corner with $50." answer is hilarious, good one !
2007-12-05 08:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by *ifthatswhatyoureinto* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?!
Look again...there's a large, gaping chasm between love and stalking!
Do what you feel you must do to prove your love, but when the other person tells you to back off...then, back off!
To ignore their demand would mean that you are a full-fledged stalker!
2007-12-05 08:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if the girl rejects you 6 times or more in a weeks time- stalker!
and she obviously feels nothing 4 u so u should leave her alone 4 at least 2 weeks after that.
2007-12-05 08:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by smile 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To prove his love, I want my husband to be honest, faithful and true.
Back in my dating days - if I politely declined a man, then I expected him to accept my 'no, thank you'. Persistence is annoying and persistence that continues beyond a very brief period is crossing the line.
2007-12-05 08:47:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't "prove" love -- give the girl some space. Living in her back pocket feels a lot like stalking.
2007-12-05 08:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by Bonnie L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen..... If you get to the stalker stage?,then ask someone to lock you in a dark,quiet room for some time & seek help.Thats very dangerous territory to get too.
2007-12-05 08:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by Sea.... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋