So I am a Christian and I just asked a question about my son not believing in Santa Claus! The Question was direct but people had to examine that I was not married to his father. They dont know anything about me yet the condemn me for not being married and they criticize me for my lifestyle. Just because im an unmarried mother doesnt mean im not a Christian. Now I understand how atheists feel and thats really sad. People who are supposed to be filled with love being so hateful. She is saying im not a Christian. They dont even know what happened between me his father. WHY ARE CHRISTIANS SO FAST ON HANGING UP THE CROSS FOR EVERYONE! I know there are alot of Christians that are supportive but im speaking out about the wolves in sheeps clothing. God Bless all who support single mothers! I finally understand how mary and joesph felt!
2007-12-05 07:42:18 · 36 answers · asked by littlemissmay 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I want to say im sorry to anyone I have offended but I have asked many questions like this and atheists are fine with me being a single mother but christians and catholics say im going to burn in hell im not a good example it just doesnt make sense
2007-12-05 08:16:30 · update #1
It is amazing how some who claim to be Christian immediately assume that a single woman with a child had the child out of wedlock et cetera et cetera . . . yet maybe you are a widow or maybe the father is an abuser of people &/or intoxicating substances or maybe you adopted a child who otherwise would not have had a good home or maybe you chose (like someone I know) to not abort a child conceived as a result of a rape (in which case you'd get picked on no matter what you decided about having the baby by people who can't see shades of gray). Life is not black and white and how some can read the Bible and think it is, is beyond me (and I've read the whole thing cover to cover more than once).
Only God can decide if someone else is or isn't a Christian, but one can watch what a person does and says and if a person spews hatred then 1 John 4:7-8 gives one a pretty good indication of where that person is coming from.
For what it is worth - Rahab the "Harlot" of Jericho and Ruth the Moabite widow (what do you think she was doing when she "uncovered" Boaz's feet) and Bathsheba who was still married to Uriah when she got knocked up by David (who then had Uriah placed on the front lines in battle where he was sure to die) are all in Jesus' family tree. And so is Tamar who being childless pretended to be a prostitute in order to conceive a child.
2007-12-05 08:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by An Episcopalian+Anglican 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
some people are so miserable,they have to start trouble every chance they get.they're jealous,resentful,competitive,and sometimes just plain hateful.putting other people down,and judging them,gets their mind off their problems.there's no justification for them doing it.but yet,they don't stop to think about that.they think they know everything,and they feel it's up to them,to point out to people ''the error of their ways.''if they were truly secure and happy with themselves,they wouldnt do these things.a truly happy,contented person will not judge you.they will most definitely support you and treat you with the respect you deserve.remember,christians have sinned also.none of them have any right to judge you.because they've done things they're not proud of.but you're the bigger person,because you have compassion and understanding.think of these judgmental christians as modern day pharisees.and remember how jesus confronted them over their self-righteousness and hypocrisy.you are a christian.they,they are wolves in sheeps clothing.pay them no mind.we've all made mistakes in life.nobody is perfect.dont let those people bring you down.remember,satan is ''the accuser of the brethren.''these hypocrites act more like satan than they do jesus.and they hurt other people with their comments,and they cause division between people,both christian and non-christian.i myself have been guilty of being a hypocrite.the way to deal with the hypocrites,is to listen to people who are kind,supportive,and non-judgmental.the hypocrites will only accuse you and try to condemn you.dont listen to them.because they really dont know what they're talking about.
and bless you.because you are a single mother,and you're raising your son alone.there's other single mothers out there,who can support you and who understand your struggles.and they wont judge,or criticize you.people should look at the heart.the hypocrites judge from the outside.try to ignore them.and,remember,jesus himself was disgusted by their actions.so i'm sure he's not pleased with how some ''christians''treat people today.
2007-12-05 08:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by Miss yavatar girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so fast to think that only Christians are the ones saying this. So you are a single mother, what's the big deal? I am a Christian as well, as supposedly you are too, but some people might find that question more offensive than I do.
Besides, what does believing in God have to do with people being critical? God doesn't make us critical, we decide that for ourselves.
Also, don't be calling Christians critical right NOW when you're being critical to Christians yourself! I happen to know a lot of Christians that have never critisized me in my life. You are not thinking about what your asking first before you ask it. You need to do that-think about how it might make some poeple feel before you ask it.
Another thing is, you're saying that they're being critical about your PERSONAL life... Well, if it's SO personal, than why are you asking about it on Answers?
Oh, I just noticed something. It says "she" as in one person. That reminds me of how unfair it used to seem when I was younger when the teacher kept the whole class in when just a couple of people were talking. You're blaming THE WHOLE CHRISTIAN SOCIETY for one voice. Now, THAT is unfair!
I'm not trying to be "critical" like that ONE person, but I think you should think about what your voicing before you voice it. Thousands of people go on Answers...that means you might be offending hundreds of people that are reading over your question. Don't be so quick to judge others just because ONE PERSON judged you.
2007-12-05 07:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Certain Christians joined the religion for the express purpose of being able to justify hating certain groups.
I had a coworker a while back who was like this.
He was one of the most despicable people I've ever met. He hated a number of different groups, such as gays, illegal immigrants, blacks, etc. And one day he found "religion".
Whoo boy that was a happy day for him! He found a right-wing fundamentalist church that told him god hated all those people, too. And the peace and serenity he found in that was immeasurable.
I watched the whole episode from the outside, knowing that there was nothing I could do for this bastard.
2007-12-05 07:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian & don't recall judging you in my answer- Be careful how you word things-- I to was an unmarried mother at one time-- Those that sit in judgement over you are NOT Christians! Learn it ---Live it!!! Then move on--
Focus on the love of Jesus--- NOT humans!! They tend to fail on a regular basis.
Funny how the general concensus is that a Christian should be perfect...... You must look in the mirror and ask yourself as a Christian...........are you perfect?? I know I am not..-- The moment I admit that-- it makes me more tolerant when others they fail me as a brother or sister in Christ.
2007-12-05 07:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by darkness breeds 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I JUST FEEL THAT I NEEDED TO POST MY RESPONSE TO YOUR PREVIOUS QUESTION HERE...
"Well since you decided to get personal here...let's continue....
.... you say that you have a 7 MONTH old son.
..... you say that you BOYFRIEND doesn't have a problem with it.... which means that you are not married
... you say that your boyfriends mother is mad.. which leaves us to assume that she is the grandmother of the baby
..... then you turn around and say that you were married when you had your son..
...most importantly.... you are a Christian.....
maybe i'm a bit slow here.... but is there something wrong with this picture? But given the sketchy details I just wrote here..... I too have to wonder what is the big deal in taking pics with SC?
Basically you are saying that you were married 7 months ago... to your son's father or your boyfriend(i hope they are one and the same).... then after you gave birth you got a divorce..... and again assuming that your current boyfriend is your son's father..... why would you get a divorce after birth and you still consider him your boyfriend?
I'm not saying the you have to oblige with the grandma ok....
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Hey don't blame me.... my answer here is in reference to your follow-up question to this one where you are annoyed that people tried to "judge" you.....
You have to admit... though some critisims may not come out as being constructive..... it does lead one to think alot which inturn brings out something positive in the end....."
2007-12-05 09:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by ARIZONA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is "fear". The typical Christian denies negative thoughts by pretending they don't have them. They feel obligated to criticize the actions of others because to not criticize them would be to give their MINDs permission to engage in such actions themselves.
Is this hypocritical? Of course it is, but the same denial one uses to deny the negative thoughts repressed within oneself also provides the delusional thinking that allows the Christian [and those zealots of all other religions as well] to castigate others and remain in denial of the same desires being repressed within themselves.
Peace
2007-12-05 07:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by docjp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are very quick to jump to conclusions.
I went and checked your Q&A and found this question.
People get this idea at first because you are talking about your son and then mention your boyfriends mother geting upset. People will asume that is her grandchild because she is upset. All the facts were not there at first.
You are doing right by telling your son the truth about Santa Clause.
These people are wondering (not all of them appeared to be christians) why you were concerned when they thought you had a child out of wedlock.
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This reminds me of a story a friend of mine told me.
He was watching a video of a friend of his, whose daugther, Kim, had recently given birth to a little girl.
The video was of the baby's dedication. (Christening)
The baby was born out of wedlock the parents were not getting married any time soon. In the video at one point he could see the unwed parents.
The Grandparents Kim's father and his live in girlfriend who was pregnant and Kim's mother and her lesbian lover.
And the whole time he is wondering WHY?
Why the dedication to the Lord if none of the adults involved want to live for the Lord?
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Your situation is nothing like this but maybe these folks thought it was at first. It is a bad misunderstanding.
2007-12-05 08:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by Old Hickory 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Self-consciousness
2007-12-05 07:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by ha_mer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame it all on Christians--every religion has fanatics who will use their religion to condemn whatever they don't personally agree with. Look at the Muslim extremists who claim the Koran says to kill all non-Muslims, even though it refers to Jews and Christians as "People of the Book" (i.e., others who follow the Bible). Christianity has its share of nut cases, but you're going to find them anywhere, no matter what.
2007-12-05 07:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by cross-stitch kelly 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋