My boyfriends mother is mad because I wont allow my son to believe in Santa Claus! Growing up in my family we didint do that sort of thing because my family takes our faith very seriously. She didnt want a fake man to overshadow our saviour. I repect her for that. My boyfriend doesnt have a problem with it. She wants him to take pictures with Santa and I said no. Am I wrong for standing by for what I believe in. I have asked a question similar to this before. He is 7 months old and he shouldnt be lied to now or when he grows up. He can have an imagination when it comes to othere "holidays" but I dont mess with Easter and Christmas! Do you agree she should back off. She raised her sons I think she should finally allow me to raise mine the way I want.
2007-12-05 07:26:25 · 20 answers · asked by littlemissmay 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
EXCUSE ME EVERYONE but I was married when I had my son thank you very much and we arent together so back off and start being CHRISTIANS if you are and stop being so judgemental I asked a question about Santa Claus not about my personal life. I dont feel like being attacked by people who sin as well God is my only judge. Stop making assumptions about people you dont know
2007-12-05 07:46:17 · update #1
First of all -- I can't believe what that one girl said about you not being married, and we know that you were married. I don't understand why that would make a difference anyway!! I mean - I'm not married (never have been) and have 2 kids... and we don't believe in Santa Claus at my house. Does that make me any less of a Christian? Does that mean I cannot ask forgiveness of my sins? Does that mean I'm not allowed to raise my kids with any beliefs? No, only God knows me fully ... not anyone on this web. I don't know why people even answer questions if they aren't going to be polite about their answers. Do they think they're gonna get the points from the asker? I doubt it, but who knows right.
I am dealing with this same thing too. I don't allow my kids to believe in Santa Claus either. I applaud you for it too!!! Stick to your beliefs honey! I sat down the other night and had this very conversation with my kids who are both under 4 years old and they understand it well too. Your son will like that you were honest with him and if he ever has any questions about you and his dad - he will believe you more because he will know that you won't lie to him.
It is so hard now to raise you kids how you want. I'm sure you don't tell people how to raise their kids - so why should they tell you how to raise your son? They shouldn't!! You keep on standing on what you believe in!! God knows your heart! An you will be in front of him on judgement day, only you will have to answer to how you raised your children.
Good luck. (I have always heard that Santa was a pervert too... that he gave toys to kids because he had a perverted mind. You should find that story on the web and print it out for your boyfriends mother.... see what she has to say about it? It probably wouldn't change her mind, but I'm sure it would make you feel a bit better that there are other beliefs besides hers.)
2007-12-06 00:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by get_it_right 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally see no problem with Santa Claus.
Saint Nicholas was a great Christian saint who exemplified exactly the kind of humble and meek leader Jesus called Christians to be.
At our church, we have Saint Nicholas come in, full Santa suit, and he bows to the creche, to indicate the fact that the real St. Nick was a servant of Christ, and that we must keep Santa in a subordinate role.
But as a great Christian man, Nicholas of Myra was an example of exactly how to be a Christian. His feast day was Dec. 6, which is why he's kind of been mixed in with the whole thing...
Santa allowed me to teach my daughter a great deal about what it was to be Christian, when I finally told her the story of how there had once been a real St. Nick, a pastor who climbed up on the roof of a poor man, to drop a dowry down the chimney and into stockings so that his daughters would be able to afford to marry. He did this out of humility, not wanting credit for his generosity.
As such, my daughter now has a very healthy and Christian understanding of the "reason for the seaon" - all the reasons!
2007-12-05 07:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by evolver 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You must always stand for the highest truth you Know in order to be given more. It is sin that our institutions today promote the celebration of Christmas without being upfront as to its origins and what it symbolizes. If the churches and governments would admit that Christmas was around for centuries before Rome kidnapped Jesus and his teachings to insert them into their own Pagan traditions, then some people may choose not to partake in Christmas at all, and for those that did choose to celebrate it it would have greater meaning and purpose.
When Christmas and Easter were created and made law in Rome, all the disciples of Jesus' true teachings were slaughtered and the other citizens remained complacent and fell into confusion. People are still complacent and still therefore deserve the confusion that reigns in the world today.
Stand for the Truth and seek greater Truth. This is the only path for anyone sincere about wanting to connect with God.
2007-12-05 08:27:20 · answer #3 · answered by Alioth 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to the stores, they don't even play a lot of the Xmas songs anymore. I like the old way better with the church Xmas special for the kids to each have a part and believing in Santa up until they reach a certain age. To me it does not seem like Xmas any more.
2016-05-28 07:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you told your son there was a Santa Claus you would be lying. The Bible demands that those who serve God be truthful about all things.
I won't lie to my children about anything because they deserve truth from me if I am to be a good father.
One other thing. Christ was not born at this time of the year.
Best estimates are around April. Celebrating His birth came after the Catholic Church began to celebrate "Christ's Mass" to counter the pagan celebration of the Winter Solstice.
So it continues to be celebrated as in the past.
Another thing concerning the commercialization of Christmas is an interesting thought. Santa slightly modified spells out Satan. While Christ was not born during this time of the year He did used to get top billing. I am sure the devil hated that intensely, and can't think of anyone in existence who would like to blot the name of Christ out of everything if he could.
2007-12-05 07:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
We grew up knowing the truth about Santa Claus. We knew he was a fictional character and when we saw him we took pictures with him. It's no different then Mickey Mouse, we know he's not a real mouse. I think it's fine to let him take a picture with Santa, but it's your convictions. Whatever you choose is fine as long as you're honest with your child. Good luck. 2D
2007-12-05 08:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by 2D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Explain to your son who Santa Claus is. Then he can understand the purpose of the figure and what it means. Once he understands that, maybe you can lighten up on this holy time of year. Santa Claus is about love and expressions of love. His origin is with Saint Nickolas who gave to the poor above all else. He was loved so much that people wanted to remember that person. What better way to celebrate God's love than by giving to others. PS I think that your mother in law should respect your feelings but there are compromises.
2007-12-05 07:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ann E 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You are the only person who has the right (legal and otherwise) to make decisions about your son. Others must respect them or at least be quiet.
I happen to agree with you, but that wasn't your question. That's just a bit of support. :-)
With regard to your marital status when you son was born, that is absolutely nobody's business but yours. I can't believe that anyone brought it up here. There are some huge motes in the eyes of our friends at Yahoo on this one.
Peace
2007-12-05 08:30:06 · answer #8 · answered by cmw 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I grew up in a family that done the santa, and easter bunny thing, and it was fun, but I didnt understand that this is wrong until I joined church a couple of years ago,,santa and the easter bunny are not real, and it is lying to tell them there is one..Hang in there and stand up for your beliefs...God is the only person you have to stand before..God bless you...Good Luck..Family is the hardest to convince...
2007-12-05 07:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by Wanda S 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think you are making a big deal out of nothing. She is not trying to force Santa on you....it is only a picture. I am glad that your son will grow up knowing the true reason we celebrate Christmas...but it is OK that he know about Santa and why he is so popular. If you raise him right he will know that in your family Santa is just pretend, and it won't be a big deal.
You seem to be very strong-minded in your faith, but it seems you had a baby out of wedlock. Maybe you should get married and send your son an even better message.
2007-12-05 07:38:02 · answer #10 · answered by MonkeyMami 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋