Im a non - Jehovah's Witness....I love a JW. Can it work?

Question

What are the rules? I am also a single parent. will they accept us?

He was df'd from the congregation a while back but has expressed interest in getting back "on track". I know he feels so much pressure and is torn.

I support him totally but am worried that he will eventually feel that he has to let me go.....

Answer 1

Many Jehovah's Witnesses are married to non-Witnesses. As long as the non-Witnesses are respectful, they are generally accepted and can hope to enjoy nice association with the local congregation. A child with one Witness parent or step-parent is specially mentioned in the bible.
...(1 Cor 7:12-14) If any brother has an unbelieving wife, and yet she is agreeable to dwelling with him, let him not leave her; 13 and a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and yet he is agreeable to dwelling with her, let her not leave her husband. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified in relation to his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified in relation to the brother; otherwise, your children would really be unclean, but now they are holy.

Of course, this applies to legal marriages rather than informal (or "common law") marriages. A Witness who continues to engage in sexual relations without the benefit of marriage will likely be disfellowshipped.

The Scriptures clearly instruct a true worshipper to marry only another true worshipper.

(Exodus 23:32) You are not to conclude a [marriage or other] covenant with them or their gods.

(Deuteronomy 7:3) And you must form no marriage alliance with [unbelievers]. Your daughter you must not give to his son, and his daughter you must not take for your son.

(1 Corinthians 7:39) She is free to be married to whom she wants, only in the Lord.

(Nehemiah 13:25) You should not give your daughters to [the unbeliever's] sons, and you should not accept any of their daughters for your sons or yourselves.

(2 Corinthians 6:14) Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers.


The Scriptures also warn against elevating human desires above godly teachings.

(2 Thessalonians 2:1-3) We request of you not to be quickly shaken from your reason... Let no one seduce you in any manner

(Romans 16:17-18) Keep your eye on those who cause ... stumbling contrary to the teaching that you have learned, and avoid them. ...by smooth talk and complimentary speech they seduce the hearts of guileless ones.

(2 Timothy 4:3-5) For there will be a period of time when they will not put up with the healthful teaching, but, in accord with their own desires, they will accumulate teachers for themselves to have their ears tickled... You, though, keep your senses in all things, suffer evil, do the work of an evangelizer, fully accomplish your ministry.

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Answer 2

Well, I married a JW a year ago. We've been together for 2 years... My husband was raised a JW, but has gone in and out of the church for years- not because he doesn't believe, but because he feels that he cannot live up to the expectations of his faith. While this sometimes has a negative impact on his self perception & behavior (if he can't be saved because he smokes, then why not self destruct on everything else), the principles by which the JHs live their lives have guided his efforts to be a good person. We only get into trouble when discussing certain spiritual beliefs- such as the celebration of Christmas. I am a very open minded person, and I will not denounce his beliefs, even if I don't believe the same thing. His faith is very literal, however, and occasionally a discussion has become a serious arguement. I have children of my own, and I am very firm that he not discuss his beliefs with them as "truth"- their father is Catholic, and I'm a Congregationalist, and we have enough balancing to do already with our traditions. I do explain to them that my husband does not celebrate Christmas or birthdays, and emphasize that everyone has their own beliefs and we need to respect that. We walk a fine line, though. He holds to the belief that if he tries hard enough to live in the truth that if Judgement day comes while we are living, Jehovah may save me for my husband's sake. Of course, if one of us dies first, the marriage is over anyway, and all bets are off. You will probably find that JWs run the full gamut of personalities, but that many of them practice what they preach, and there are worse codes to live by than those laid out in the Bible. As long as he is commited to loving you and respecting your right to believe as you wish, then you have a chance.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

If he is still disfellowshipped he is no longer considered one of Jehovah's Witnesses by the religious authorities, so he is free to marry you if he wants to.

I knew one man who married a non Witness while he was disfellowshipped. He decided he wanted to come back to the religion and encouraged her to study the Bible with Witnesses and she did. She is now one of Jehovah's Witnesses and he was reinstated.


I knew one Witness woman who divorced her Witness husband after he committed adultery. She married a non Witness man and was publicly reproved for it, NOT disfellowshipped. He doesn't try to prevent her from attending meetings or going out in service, in fact, he attends meetings with her and studies.

Although congregation members are friendly and encouraging to the husband (in the hopes he'll become one of Jehovah's Witnesses one day) she is not considered a good example in the congregation because she courted and married a non Witness. That's why she was publicly reproved.

I never heard anyone say a bad word about her second husband though, because they don't hold him to the same standards they hold to her.

As long as your boyfriend remains disfellowshipped, he is free to marry whomever he wants regardless of his or your circumstances. IF you marry AND he is reinstated, they will probably be friendlier and more accepting of you and your child than of him.

Answer 5

first of all its not that you wont be accepted! The fact is Jehovah looks out for his people. He wants whats best for us and in this case its a happy successful marriage.

There is a principle in the bible which states that we must marry in the lord meaning with someone of the same faith. This is something that we follow because it will not only gain us the approval of our creator but he establishes these principle and his laws always for a reason. Jehovah encourages us to marry someone with our same beliefs since it will make it easier to worship him.
2corithians 6:14
- Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship do righteousness and lawlessness have? Or what sharing does light have with darkness?
You have to understand that two ppl of different religions will clash especially when one of them is actually practicing that religion not just saying thats their denomination. THere is a big difference between a JW and ppl out there who call themselves christians without really applying what the bible says.

If the man you love is sincere about being a JW again and pursuing worship of Jehovah then you should really think if this is something you are willing to support.
His worship is going to be a BIG part of his life. Will it be a big part of yours. If not you might be facing a lot of disagreements and challenges in ur marriage..assuming you want to marry him. We take dating very seriously.

Dont just base ur actions on emotions. THat is alot to think about as u have a child and u have to think of your child as well.
I love being a JW and i think u should think about studying the bible and doing ur own investigation before pursuing any relationship. If you love this man it might be because of qualities he may have acquired from learning about Jehovah.

Answer 6

One of you would be compromising your own beliefs..either he will give up the truth to be with you regardless of the consequences or you will accept his beliefs..

It will not work if each one of you is determined to be an individual and stick with what you believe. You must become one by marriage. There will exist division before you even get started in your relationship if you proceed. He knows what is expected of him as a worshiper of Jehovah and only he can make the choice to remain loyal or jepordize that relationship by being disobediant, forget about the consequences he will face for this act as far as the congregation is concerned, but I'm talking about the consequences he will endure on judgement day. Think about what your asking of him to do! that is to jeopardize his relationship with God.If you are Christian women you would understand the severity of those action against God..

I would suggest you start studying with a female witness, learn what our beliefs are so that you can make an educated desision to continue in this relationship rather than asumming what we believe. Who knows you might like what you learn about the marvelous qualities of Jehovah. You might even not like this man after you study, just a suggestion, you can contact his congregation and ask the elders what type of man he is. Is he a wife beater, a child molester, etc. before you commit to a marriage with this man!

Answer 7

Can it work?? Sure.

Honestly this type of question is asked on here ALLOT.

As he has most likely told you, as Christians, take our beliefs very seriously. I've known Witnesses who married those outside our faith, to disaster, others to some levels of happiness. The same is true of those who marry others of the same faith.

In the world we live in Marriage is NEVER "easy". What matters greatly is commitment. Your commitment to him, his to you, his to his beliefs, you to yours, etc.

The Bible makes it clear that getting married is Very serious. I hope you both discuss things thouroughly. I suggest marraige counseling, as I would suggest for any couples.

As for being a single parent, many who become Witnesses are single parents, it is not a bad thing, persey. Both my Grandmothers at varying points were single Moms. Some of my dearest friends are single Moms.

I hope things work out.

Answer 8

No! One rule of the JW's is marry only in the lord a one that is like minded, either you will convert at some time or another or there will be friction.

Answer 9

I would be very surprised if a JW was willing to marry a non JW. Personally, I don't think it would work. You know they don't celebrate holidays or birthdays, so your kids wouldn't get to either. There are too many differences, yours and your partners morals and beliefs would have to be compromised. I would strongly advise against it, though it has been done.

Answer 10

Why are you posting this question? You probably already know the answer. It is in your spirit, not your heart or your mind. I love a Christian who is the reason I got saved, but is a habitual sinner that I can't be with. Sorry sweetie. It's a rough one.