My mother-in-law is battling breast cancer. She had surgery a month ago and is starting chemo next week. She is really struggling financially, because she is not going to be able to go back to work for quite some time and has no income coming in, and the bills are already piling up. She is a very tough independent lady and told us that she doesn't want any kind of handouts or benefits because she wants to deal with this in her own way. We respect her feelings, but we would like to know if there is any other way we could help her out financially? Is there such a thing as a "silent benefit" that she wouldn't have to know about? Have any of you ever done anything like that? Or, does anyone have any ideas how we could convince her to agree to the benefit?
2007-12-05 07:23:41 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Your MIL is in an awful position, and I sympathize. I think it is generous of you to offer to help, but it is possible that she is embarrassed that she can't help herself. If this is correct, I could see how she would not want you to host a benefit, because she probably doesn't want her financial issues to become public. Are there other ways you can help contribute? Can you cook a few meals for her every week, clean her house, transport her to treatments? Every little bit will help her, financially as well as emotionally. You can also do some research on patient services in your community. I would try the American Cancer Society (www.cancer.org, 800-227-2345), they have lots of services as well as connections to other resources.
2007-12-05 07:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by HermioneW 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A young boy in our group has melanoma and the tuition did a fundraiser, it was at the neighborhood church. They offered tickets, as well as had gift baskets donated by way of the teachers and the shops in the neighborhood. They were raffled off, by means of people buying tickets once in the occasion. It was a huge success. I'm in my 40s and have simply undergone 3 years of chemo and a stem mobilephone transplant, so I understand the way you consider. I am truly sorry that your self and your loved ones need to go by means of this. Please know that you are not on my own. We're all on this together.
2016-08-06 10:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did she just say to you?
"she doesn't want any kind of handouts or benefits because she wants to deal with this in her own way"
2007-12-06 02:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by thinkingtime 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋