I met a great girl at a networking event, how do I pursue her without looking creepy?

Question

I am pretty new to the whole networking thing. Today, I went to lunch in place of my boss with a really cute girl. He's talked to her a few other times at networking events but this was supposed to be their first one-on-one. She's single, lives by me, is attractive, and very nice. I'm not saying I'm in love but I'd like to see her again. She works part-time by me at a resturant but I think going there would be stalking. She isn't a client of our's so I can't depend on that. I don't want it to be weird though if I see her at something again if she doesn't like me. I did say I was interested in going to other networking events for young professionals (since we are both in our mid-twenties) and she is a sales rep. What do you think? I don't want to seem creepy but I'd like to see her again and see how it goes. Any advice?

Answer 1

You know this whole stalking thing has gotten way out of hand. By you going to the restaurant where she works would not be stalking her. It would be expressing interest in seeing her again. Stalking her would be following her around, leaving weird notes on her door, sending weird e-mails, etc.. Going to her restaurant would be a perfect place to see her again. Your line is really easy too. "I was in the neighborhood and I thought I would check out your restaurant." You guys have already broken the ice with the business meeting so you have stuff to talk about while at the restaurant. If the conversation goes well at the restaurant then you exchange numbers. Don't give her your business card either. That is lamo and it comes off very businesslike. You are not interested in doing business with her so don't give her your card. Personally write it down for her or exchange cell phone #'s. Listen, you like this girl then you have to go after her. If she declines your offers to take her out sometime then that is where it end. Don't go back into that restaurant and don't call her or anything. If she says "No" then that means no. If you pursue after she gives off the "Not interested" vibe, then that comes off as stalkerish. But, going to the restaurant is the perfect place to have a chance to feel her out. It is not stalkerish or anything. It is "I am interested in seeing you again." You will not seem creepy in fact, I bet she will be flattered. She told you where she works(Meaning: Come in and see me when I am not in a business type setting) She told you she was single(Meaning: I would be interested in seeing you again too.) The worst that can come out of this is a friendship with her. So I say, "Go On and Get her Boy." You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Good luck, not that you will need it though. Take care and Happy Holidays.

Answer 2

Stalking is continued unwanted contact. Stopping by the restaurant to ask her out wouldn't be stalking unless she'd already told you to leave her alone! Just go by there and tell her you enjoyed your lunch together and would like to spend some time with her socially. You don't have to wait an entire week, but giving it a few days wouldn't be a bad idea. Don't wait too long, either, or it will seem totally random. Just go see her, and be yourself. Good luck!

Answer 3

You don't have any way of reaching her (phone, email, etc.) other than knowing what restaurant she works at, right? As long as that is your only option, i think its fine to go in to eat sometime and hope she'll be there. Just don't go alone, and don't go with a big crowd or with another girl. Take 1 or 2 guys with you to eat and be casual about it. Strike up a conversation with her and ask her if she wants to go to some upcoming event (concert, bar with live music, etc) with you. don't ask her to go to another networking thing with you or it might not seem like you're interested and it could send mixed signals.

Answer 4

Honestly, there is nothing wrong with going to the restaurant, especially if it is near you! However, I would wait a little before going there. Like if you met her on Monday, I wouldn't go to the restaurant on Tuesday. That's a bit stalkerish. Maybe a week or so.