Family Situation?

Question

Throughout the years this certain person constantly argues about every little thing. This person is cared for tremendously and well loved, but no matter what you do or say its not good enough. There ego is truly erratic and they think their better then you. They can be very insulting and extremely rude. Also, when guest or friends are around they go into outburst with them. When it's their friends they don't want you to say a word or say anything about them. This person continues to make attempts to make you upset. I don't know what's wrong with this individual. It's alway a complaint, their never satisfied. What would you do in a situation like this? Serious response only. Anyone that give a best answer will receive the 10 points.

Answer 1

It sounds like this person is one of or a combination of three things: 1. spoiled 2. as ****** or 3. mentally ill or has a personality disorder.

Apparently you are very patient and the kind of person that lets things go or ignores them. This tactic obviously isn't working with this person. You've got to change your approach.
Just because you love someone doesn't mean they can act any way they want, they have the right to be rude or ugly or that there are not repercussions for their behaviors.
I suggest that you confront each little thing as it happens and not let it build up and explode. If they are inappropriate, let them know. Let them know when you think they are being rude or whiny and you don't appreciate it etc..,

It is okay to stand up for yourself and to expect to be treated decently.

Be forewarned, this person is used to getting their way and used to not having to answer for their behaviors and they are not going to take kindly to you putting a stop to it. They will probably throw a fit and make a scene the first several times, that's okay. Don't let them dissuade you.

Answer 2

Have you tried talking to him or her about this? Maybe just saying, hey, do you realize that sometimes you can be hurtful and abrasive--I know that's not really you, but sometimes that's the appearance you give, it it can be hurtful and unpleasant. Or if you don't want to say it so outright, just mention specific situations. Explain what the person did wrong and tell them that it bothered you. If you approach it more from a hey, this bothered me perspective rather than a hey, you have a problem you asshole perspective, it will go better. This kind of environment can be damaging for you, though, so it might be best to try to avoid the person when possible, at least if you think things aren't going to get better. So I would try talking to them, give it a little time to see if that works, and if it doesn't, try to stay away as much as possible. When you do have to be around them, be prepared...don't let yourself get hurt. Remember it's them, not you, and realize that there's a reason they act like that. Maybe they have low self esteem or some other problem inside. It's that that you're seeing, not the heart of this person--that part of them is good. So yeah, just try to understand and say what you can, and maybe limit contact.

Answer 3

my family is the exact same situation, and we are taking care of my aunt. no matter what we do she is still not satisfied. she constantly asks for favors and yells when it is not done right then and there. she only wants wants wants, and never seems to be grateful. i think that it isn't your fault, it is just their fault. the reason that they are acting this way is because they are having difficulty dealing with issues inside themselves, and are having conflict with themselves. don't ever think it is your fault. i would just try to avoid situations in which they have to give their opinion, because it is just a window for them to complain. unfortunately, there is little you can do to change the person, but what you can do is try to understand how they are feeling, which may be impossible. maybe it is something that they missed in their childhood and they are upset and are never satisfied. i am sorry that you are having a difficult time and i wish very much luck through tough situations. i am sorry you have to experience this. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

The person has self esteem issues that is why they need to point out every little thing thats wrong or not right . The person does this because it makes their issues lessen. The person needs to get a serious grip on reality and deal with their issues before it destroys relationships, if it hasn't already.

Answer 5

ok look if this is a famliy member who is close to you or not stand back take a deep relaxing breath and tell them to stop and listen.for one you are you and not them im sorry your feeling this way but if i(you) were the one whos cause you this grief then say your sorry and go on. or you can simply tell this person to shut-the heck up and their not in this damn world alone. and that's nice.loljmo

Answer 6

grow some balls and stand up to them..no matter how bad it hurts you or them they need to know how they sre making you and others feel.explain to them that the world does not revolve around their wants and needs and that they need to accept people and places the way they are and not the way they want it to be....you'll probably piss them off but they will get over it.good luck on this and i don't envy you at all.

Answer 7

that's honestly cool that they get alongside. My parents are divorced and my mom and pop stay in 2 diverse states. I stay with my dad in Philadelphia, and my mom lives in massive apple city. I used to stay in massive apple, yet my dad's job transferred him to Philly.

Answer 8

Stay away from them