Parents with ADHD?

Question

I have ADHD and plan to start a family soon. I have the option to move to Germany for three years for my husband's job. We would be able to save SO much money and I could focus on just being with the baby(ies). However, I usually get bored and depressed when I'm home all alone. Plus, the ADHD means I will be much less patient than average mother. I'm worried I'd make a bad SAHM. If we stayed here in US, I could work part-time and have the best of both worlds. However, I love the idea of going to Germany but don't want to regret it. What should I do?

Answer 1

you DONT need medications, thats the first thing everyone else tries to do, they dope ya up then you get used to being doped up everyday that when you dont take you are wack and worse, who wants that? you know if you go to germany it would be a beautiful experience, you Can always move back if it didnt work out, and if youre worried about patience at home 24/7 take a language class you know to get out while your in Germany, even if you dont move ! you can still do that, if you get a part time job it could be more stressfull because you are a new mother and miss your babies which happened to my sis lol

Answer 2

Have you tried ADHD medication? I would consult a doctor to when you could start them after having a baby though. Specially if you'll be breast feeding. But that might help you with staying at home. My mom had ADHD, we didn't get along and she made mistakes. I still love her and that's really all that matters. We get along great, now that I'm out of the house. I'd say go for it. Try some supplements too: Inositol. It's natural and found in most foods. If it helps, you'll know in 4 days to two weeks. Try it now, I got mine from the Chiropractor. If it works (Fish oil is another) then you should take that when you're pregnant and breast feeding, maybe skip the whole medication aspect. How many times are you going to have that option? How many times will you have the option of returning to the US? You might regret the not giving it a chance and going. So why worry about regrets? Just prepare for it and try to make it the most, if that's what you want to do. If it doesn't work out, you can always return. And the same goes for being a mother, don't worry about being a bad one just because you have ADHD! My mom was never diagnosed, but it's obvious she has it lol. She was a good mother, even if she was annoying... but that might have been because I have ADHD too lol. And don't listen to people who say that you don't need medication. Some people do, I do. It depends on the person. Some can do the supplements, others can't. I can't remember to take them (4+ pills a day vs 1 adderall xr a day). Hell I can hardly remember to take my beta blockers... which I need for the adderall xr and vice versa. And I'm VERY anti-medication, but I am also a Psychology major (and "been there done that." I tried it without meds... didn't work). But I'm very for going for supplements first, and go to a Psychiatrist! They can help you get in routeens and behavior therapy (I don't have enough money for that ATM... barely have enough for meds. If I did that, I might not need the meds but I don't know since I've never tried. I'm planning on doing that next semester, when I have insurance). Oh yea and then there's the fact that I need the meds to counteract the beta blocker's depressive side effects... wondering if Inositol will fix that though (Helps with depression; but then again mine was a weird kind of depression lol... I wasn't fatigued or lack of energy, just suicidal and depressed/pessimistic thoughts). But try those: herbs/vitamins and medical professional help, then go for the medication as a last resort. But on meds, you're not dopped up. They make ADHD people normal, or as close as we can to it anyway.

Answer 3

Sweetheart only you can really answer that question. Do you plan to be on medication to control your ADHD. Which I would highly recommend.

You do not say where in Germany you would be, is housing furnished for you? Will there be other Americans in the company there that you could befriend the wives?

This is a lovely opportunity to see a part of the world you might otherwise not get to see.


But if you feel you would under too much stress by being home alone and need stimulous to not get into the boredom and depression then you need to stay home...

Answer 4

you could always start a hobby or get a part time job in Germany. I would go to Germany with your husband. If your on medication for the ADHD you should be fine with the babies.