I mean I love kissing him and hugging and cuddling with him but he's starting to go a little farther than I am ready. I actually want to, a lot!! He is incredibly gorgeous, and very sweet, and I am not a virgin but when he's trying to,it's not the right place. So how do I tell him to slow down without hurting his feelings or having him dump me?
2007-12-05 05:01:29 · 42 answers · asked by prinsisss 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he really likes you, telling him something like this should never cause him to dump you.
As far as hurting his feelings are concerned, make sure you tell him exactly what the problem is and not just that you don't want to do it.
In my opinion, if you tell him exactly what you told us, you will be fine. I can almost guarantee it.
2007-12-05 05:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by SpiderPig 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let me start by saying... If he dumps you for not respecting your wishes, than he is not the one for you.
As the saying goes, 'there's a right time and place for everything', and he knows this. However, his hormones are in control not the head on his shoulders.
Just tell him, even though you love hugging and kissing him, you are not ready at this time to take it to the level.
And what ever you do, don't act like you are being the bad guy, or sorry for what you believe. If he respects you, everything will be just fine.
2007-12-05 05:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by JD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. You should tell him straight up that hes going to fast and that he needs to slow things down. Yeah he might be hurt at first because he wants to go farthur but if he REALLY cares for you he will listen.
You say you dont want him to dump you. I HAVE to say that if he does dump you, all because you tell him to slow down when youre not comfortable with doing something, HES A PIG. Thats no reason to dump a girl. I would never let some guy take advantage of me. If he tries/gets mad because I tell him to slow down, he isnt worth my time. Point said.
2007-12-05 05:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him like that... start with the good points like how much you like him etc... and move on to telling him you are just not ready to take the next step physically....
Do this before you get into a make out session... It makes it harder on him if you stop him midway to tell him this, it feels more like he has done something wrong and this is your excuse rather than this is really how you feel... So pick a time, non related to making out and tell him...
And as the old cliche goes, if he is worthy he will wait, and he will not have a problem with it... If he is not you shouldn't waste your time.....
2007-12-05 05:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. Let him know that you are very attracted to him, and its not that your a virgin or anything, you care alot about him and do not want to rush into a sexual relationship in fear that the relationship might turn sour. You want to wait until you both are emotionally stable because one you start having sex in a relatonship, thing change and sometimes not for the better.
If he dumps you then he wasnt worth your time. If he truly respects you then he will continue to date you and wait until you are ready.
Good luck! :)
2007-12-05 05:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by xoangeleyes23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he dumps you for telling him to slow down, then hes a loser, and you should leave him. Respect yourself first, tell him to slow down this isnt the right time or place. And when something more happens it will be special. Good Luck.
2007-12-05 05:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by tarie75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first if he really cares for you, when you tell him to slow down, he should do so without his feelings being hurt, just tell him you don't feel comfortable going that far at this time or place, when you do you want it to be someplace and time that you would feel comfortable, again if he cares about you and respects you he will understand, if he don't understand then he is not the kind of guy you want in your life, because he is just thinking of his self, and you don't want a selfish guy in your life, or just using you, just talk to him, tell him how you feel, I hope the best for you
2007-12-05 05:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by George 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you like him but your not ready for the relationship to go that far. Or you can try to do more activities like going to the movies or playing board games.
2007-12-05 07:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by Little Sammy Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him how you really feel. tell him you like him, like spending time with him but he's moving a bit too fast for you. if you are not ready don't let anyone force you. if he leave you than he's not the right one for u anyway. have respect for yourself. if he respects you he will understand and slow it down.
2007-12-05 05:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by michelle c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say, "I want to slow down. We're having a nice time getting to know each other, and I don't want that to be overshadowed by the physical." If he can't handle that, he's not worth your time.
2007-12-05 05:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋