Just what we needed before the holiday he gets into a fight at school. By the way he is a senior.
What happened was is that he was being made fun of and verbally attacked by a couple of kids in the hallway. These other kids happened to be black and my son is white. My son is not totally innocent but this is what happened.
When the kids were poking fun at him as he was walking down the hallway, my son begins shouting racist things at them, calling the other guys dumb ****ers with the hopes that they would come to attack him so he has an excuse to use self-defense. Of course the other kids charged at him and my son was able to block the other guys hand from hitting him and he pushed the other guy so hard that he fell into his friend causing him to break his hand. The school has a strict policy on fights but since the issue was brought up that my son specifically said racist things he is now in more trouble than the ones who had attacked him. Shall we get a lawyer?
2007-12-05 05:00:08 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
In my opinion, your son's self defense was justified by the kids' physical assault on him.
But the kids' physical assault on your son was not justified by your son's verbal assault on them. Nor was your son's verbal assault on them justified by their prior verbal assault on him. Verbal assaults do not require a response of the same kind.
Your son did provoke the attack, which was a stupid thing to do. He needs to learn to use his brain. This is a good lesson if he will learn from it.
Schools have their own rules. Even if you don't agree with some of them, they still need to be obeyed. You can work to change the rules if you like.
If your son's punishment is suspension and the kids' punishment is also suspension, I think I would just accept it. If you don't think it's fair, discuss with your son the fact that life isn't always fair, and that we need to take responsibility for our own actions in spite of this unfairness.
Many schools punish the student who defends himself from physical assault, as well as the student making the assault. This is not fair in my opinion, but I can understand that the school may have trouble finding out who is at fault. They are not a law enforcement agency, they are just trying to maintain order at school.
The most important thing now is that your son learn how to behave in the future. Getting into shouting matches and fights is not a good idea.
2007-12-05 05:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. In this particular case, your son should be in a little more trouble than the other children. There is no excuse for racism. He had plenty reason to be upset with them without bringing race into it. We all know from history and especially with the recent issues in the South with the white students that hung nooses from trees and then when the black students responded and beat the white students, the black students were put in jail, that racial issues can really get blown out of proportion.
I suggest your son take his punishment, making clear that is was the other students that started it and that you talk to him about never making it racial and your feelings about racism. It just made a bad situation, worse.
2007-12-05 05:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did they say anything about pressing charges? if not then i would wait and see. im going thru same thing with my son right now.he got in fight. kicked the bullies tail. but bumped a teacher with his shoulder. my son got exspelled for the rest of school year and has to go to court to for assault on a teacher. my son is in 9th grade and is a great kid. at least he was before this happened. we go to court on the 18th to get a court date. at that time we will get a public defender. the school dean should of told you if charges were being brought up.
2007-12-05 05:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only if the other press charges but if it was me i would have done the same thing so dont get mad at ur son he just has an aditude alot of us kids do so just try to listen and tyr to see it on his side and the other people if he thinks they disserved it then they probably did so Good luck
2007-12-05 05:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by may92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋