Im 24 and my boyfriend is 29, we have been dating 4 years now
2007-12-05 04:58:55 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For me, I wouldn't want to be waiting no more than 5 years. After all, you don't want to waste your youth away, waiting for a man you may never marry you.
P.S. 5 year max, this includes the waiting time after the proposal.
Good luck!!
2007-12-05 05:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by TCM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...so if you are with someone for 2 years, and you don't know if you love them or would want to marry them, i think you should move on. But, it also depends on your situation. If there's some distance, well then 3 years is ok. But, if you're together for 4 years, and he STILL doesn't know if he wants to marry you (assuming you both have jobs and everything is settled and the only thing missing is the ring), there's something wrong there. Also, if sex is involved (which is why waiting is important), then like a guy said: why buy the cow if he's getting the milk for free. If no sex is around during dating, then there's only emotional intentions, in which he should have already proposed....I mean, sex IS important, but during marriage....I REALLY don't think it's necessary for dating.
2007-12-05 05:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by coquilocotoco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a great waste of your youth if he hasn't demonstrated an intent. Something should have happened by now. How long are you going to wait, until you're 34?
I hope that you haven't been having sex with him (but fat chance). If you have, then why should he buy the cow if he's getting the milk for free?
And if this is the case, I'd be skeptical to jump into a marriage at this point, based upon his character (especially if he has to be pressured).
The fact that you've felt the need to come on here and present this is not a good sign.
2007-12-05 05:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello, well i knew instantly when i fell in love with my now husband & he did too but we dated for a few months before we moved into a home together & then we just automatically talked about when we got married & what we wanted to do for a wedding & honeymoon. so that was 2 years before i got my diamond ring which i never even thought that i was going to get. we didn't talk about diamond rings. so that was a surprize for me. so u have been dating for 4 yrs. i'm sure that your boyfriend will ask u to marry him this christmas. just wait & see as long as u know that u both love each other there shouldn't be a problem. good luck, nobrethequeen
2007-12-05 05:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by nobrethequeen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't talked about it, you'll likely not be asked. Tell him you want to get married someday and ask him what his thoughts are. I'd say 4 years is a good amount of time for you to know you're serious about each other. Or just ask him.
I'd want to get engaged in probably no more than 3 years, assuming our relationship is clearly moving in that direction and we both want to get married and have children.
2007-12-05 05:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nonetheless multiple adult adult males do wait a on a similar time as, and lots do not cheat, they understand that it somewhat is over as quickly as that paper is signed. Marriage includes multiple issues and infrequently women individuals do not make it much less annoying for adult adult males to ask them because of the fact they're too needy, clingy, or emotional. He enjoys being along with her, yet he's uncertain if he needs to cool down with the bags. i certainly waited 6 yrs in the previous asking, and the advice that I in basic terms gave you replaced into spot on, yet i replaced into youthful and did not understand to any extent further effective.
2016-10-02 06:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had this convo with a girlfriend of mine the other day, she and her man have been together for 4 years and she is insisting he buy her a ring and ask her to marry him....the thing is..i understand that women want to get married and some men do too, but whether youre with someone for 1 month or years and years....if you KNOW this is the person you will spend the rest of your life with y do u have to rush into marriage....sometimes when its rushed things turn out bad....
2007-12-05 05:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that in your late 24's with four years dating, it's ok to ask. Maybe you could bring the subject during a conversation...or maybe he's thinking about how to propose ;-)
2007-12-05 05:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would simply ask him what his intentions are with your relationship. Is he planning on ever pooping the question or is he the type who wants to avoid marriage at all costs. That will give you a better feeling for where your relationship may or may not be headed.
Good luck.
2007-12-05 05:04:21 · answer #9 · answered by Dana B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until I was sure that he was they guy for me. If you can imagine yourself married to him, stay with it and wait.
Maybe you can just casually bring up the topic in a conversation. But be careful not to scare him! You know men... ^_^ good luck!
2007-12-05 05:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by Katara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋