ok so me and my boyfriend split up with each other nearly 2months ago.
we were together for 3 and a half years.
i finished it with him because he cheated on me but then i wanted him bk but he said no.
2 weeks after we split he was sort off seeing another girl, she had just come out of a long relationship aswell, he says he really really likes her and she aint like any other girl hes met.
they have decided to take things slowly.
im apsolutley heartbroken and its hurting me so much.
he coming round to mine at some point this week to watch a dvd together as mates but do u think i should try it on with him?
i need to get him back before he gets with this other girl!
is he on a rebound and if so should i tell him this.
i want him bk soooo badly - need lots of advice!
2007-12-05 04:42:46 · 9 answers · asked by danni d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well yea you do need lots of answers. first, he cheated on you! i mean yea forgiving is nice, but your telling me you wont always have that in the back of your head? he prolly deffiently is on a rebound, and if he is... let her have him, you deserve better, and i know thats soo much eaiser said then done, but really no one deserves to get there heart broken like that, that sucks! if he cheated, obviously something wasnt right in the relationship, even if it was that he got bored, but.. so now you have to worry about always entertaining him, and wondering what happens the next time he gets boreD?? dont do that to yourself.
second... i know youve been together for a long time, but all that is, is making it harder for you let go, bc of the attachment. go out with your friends, go shopping, get some new clothes, and go out to a club and just dance with your friends! let loose, have an aswesome girl night, go get your nails done, and your hair... feel good about yourself, the better you feel about yourself, the better you feel in general, and people can sence it in someone. but you cant just want to be with him anymore after all hes done to you, and you want him back prolly because he is seeing someone else, which makes u want him back more! i've been there, done that, it's a big game, and believe me either way you will come out the loser.
soo..... toughen up, stay strong, andbe independent... ya dont need him, let someone else deal with the drama!
2007-12-05 04:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, don't try! Actually just say no to the while dvd thing. If he does get with you that makes you 2nd best to that other girl, why do you want a guy who cheats and could leave you just like that just cause he thinks he found someone better? There are good guys out there, and this guy is bad. If he can cheat once he can cheat again, you should just never speak to him, and work on yourself, get your hair done or something. Make him regret his decision! Ignore him altogether and let him see what it's like not having a nice girl love him everyday. Just don't beg for him back, that's just feeding his ego and having you right where he wants you.
2007-12-05 12:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey if you can forgive him for the cheating and he means that much to you then go for it. I have taken women back who have cheated on me before. You are correct about one thing however, you had better move quickly before someone else gets him. Regardless of what the reasons may be for a break-up, any person is vulnerable when they first break-up and may fall under someone else's spell on the rebound. Don't suffer anymore hurt. If you want your ex back, then get him back. Another piece of advice is that you need to find out why he cheated on you in the first place. If it is something that you can fix, then fix it to assure you that he will never stray again.
Good luck to you.
2007-12-05 12:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to date another guy. If he has competition then he might try to get you back. Hate to tell you this but if you come on to him it is going to drive him into the arms of this other women faster. Because in his mind you are not listening to him when he says he doesn't want to be with you. Also, if you do try and get it on with him... he is getting his cake and eating it to. He is going to be thinking of this other girl while being with you because they are taking it slow and he hasn't gotten any from this new girl. I say watch the movie and don't even let him hug you. By the way, you might want to mention that you have a date with another guy. Best of luck.
2007-12-05 12:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by L A 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u let him go becuz he cheated on u and u wanted to get back with him? dont u think u'll be wasting ur time with him?
at first, why did u even make that move on letting him go? why dont you just let him be and sooner or later he'll come to his senses! the more u chase after him, the more he's gonna runaway from u!
just dont prove too much to him~ its gonna hurt u more~ just treat him as a friend.....
move on with ur life~ i think ur wasting ur time....
just stay put with ur feelings but dont bother him that much...
if u were meant to be together, he'll look for u....
just give him a break~ i think he needs to have some fresh air.....
here something for u to remember~
"the more u chase a butterfly, the more it goes away...
if u just stand there... it will come to u"
2007-12-05 12:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by the mind and heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like scum. Let the other girl deal with his cheating, go find yourself a real man.
2007-12-05 12:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Leigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I believe you may have put a heck of a lotta pressure on his shoulders, you may have been too pushy, constantly asking him for a more serious relationship that is marriage or I dono. You should show him that you have changed if you have really.
2007-12-05 12:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by Soroush 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is cheating--I know it hurts, but you have got to move on. Your heart will mend. Careful what you wish for.
2007-12-05 12:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by Scott M 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think Jerry Springer's in order
*gets popcorn*
2007-12-05 12:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by Mellissa 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋