how do i cope when the one person in my life who really cared and loved me has died? I was closer to him ( my grandad ) than anyone else in the family and as I lived with him and he brought me up its like my dads died because he was like a dad to me. i dont get on with the rest of my family and although this happened 2 months ago I can't get over it, has anyone else ever been in a similar situation? and if so how can you cope with it? thanks
2007-12-05 04:31:22 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I to was very close to my grandpaw. When he passed I thought I would never get over it. It does take along time to deal with it. Just remember he wants you to be happy and to pursue your dreams. I know there was things that I promised my grandpaw that I would do and I did try to do all of them. If I was you I would take a few moments every morning to think about what your grandad would want you to accomplish that day. And always know that he wants you to keep going on. He loves you and wants you to be happy and to exceed in life. Remember he will always be with you know matter where you are.
2007-12-05 04:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my Grandmother this year, August 23, and my life is forever changed. I know that time is the only thing that will make this better. She was my rock and my strength. I like to think that she is with the angels now and she watches over me. I have three daughters and my two older daughters, ages 3 and 5, say that they see and talk to her all the time. They tell me Big Granny says she loves you and she'll come back and see us tomorrow. It brings tears to my eyes, but I am joyed to know that she is still very near to me even if I cannot see her. Crying helps,praying and talking to relatives also helps. My family recently went through my Grandmother's things and I asked for her vanity; as a little girl I would sit at her vanity and play with her makeup. Now, the smallest memories mean so much. This will get easier, but you will always miss him.
2007-12-05 06:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by bebeangelsmami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry your grandfather died. Your grief is still so raw at just two months; you are just now beginning to deal with the reality. I lost my grandpa when I was just 12 years old. He was my hero and since I lived with him, followed him everywhere, and hung on his every word, I felt for a long time that I would never be happy again. I am 66 years old now and just last week, I celebrated his birthday by thinking of him and thanking God for the gift of such a good man. I know he is with me still.
At some point, perhaps months from now, you'll begin to find comfort in knowing that not even death can take him away from you. One of God's nicest gift to us is memory.
For now, let the feelings come, whatever they are. Don't try to fight them. They bring healing. And don't try to hurry the process of grieving; that doesn't work.
God bless!
2007-12-05 05:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother died 3 years ago she was like my mom. it a long process. and it ain't easy. Try to keep your self busy and what ever you do don't draw away from the people you love. It makes it worse. talk to a close friend about how you feel. If cry you cry. don't hold it back. you will regret it later.
2007-12-05 04:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to,my GOD be with you, i lost mother and dad also some brothers and a sister, it's hard but you move on take it one day at a time. you sound like a good person. and that my friend is something. He gave you something nobody could, good steps in life. Jesus Christ Loves YOU:
2007-12-05 05:43:27 · answer #5 · answered by Badboy-Out-Law-Just-Man-Standup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋