how can i really tell what my bf is doing?

Question

have a bf and yesterday i went to the mall with my friend and we seen him sitting down with this blonde chick he works with, she had the shortest skirt ever, made me feel so low-class...and my friend said he looked stunned to see me, then when it came to him saying goodbye, he didnt hug me or kiss me....my friend even went to go ask if there was something going on between them, and she said they are just friends....but im worried he might like her or something else is going on, how can i tell? i may be overrreacting but my subconcious is scared hes going to leave me for another girl and hes tired of me....and seriously i want a guy's opinion on this, i just want to know the signs if he would want to cheat, plzz answer

he wasnt even working at the time
im 17 hes 18, just in case ur wonderinf i the age makes a difference to the way he is?

he didnt introduce me as his gf, yet she knows we are dating?

and i sent him an email about how i felt, like i want him to know im not stupid here.....i didnt ***** at him though i was just honest about that blonde and how i felt so low-class

Answer 1

LOL!

Your asking the publics opinion so you can browbeat him about allegedly liking someone else?

Perhaps he has a reason to seek love somewhere else, because you give him too much grief over trivial matters.

Answer 2

Honey, just because she was wearing a short skirt, that doesn't make you low class, that makes her low class. It is highly possible from the sounds of things that he's trying to get this girl to like him. Guys have a tendency to want what they cannot have. There may come a day when he moves on to someone else, but try to handle it with class, let him go, and there is more of a chance he will regret it when the blonde chick in the short skirt is discovered flirting with a better guy than him. Love is funny that way.

Answer 3

Well,I'm not a guy but I think being a young guy he can't help but be attracted to other girls. What ever you think, it is best to be hones with him and tell him what is bothering you, don't nag but be very calm about it. The more you trash the other girl, the more he will be inclined to head her way. Be nice and say you are a bit worried. But if he goes then youw ill understand him or things like that. Do remember that guys don't make you what you are, you do. You are good enough for anyone, not just this guy no matter how much you fancy him.If he does go, so what?? Plenty more where he came from. Be strong.

Answer 4

Even though Im a girl.....You have to consider all the options....Maybe they are really just friends, shes flirting with him trying to see what happens etc.....Sometimes boys dont like showing emotions & displays of public affection, but if hes never been like this before then I would, ask him up straight, or spy on him.......besides if he is cheating on you with that girl, he just an idiot for leaving you, cos im sure your an excellent girl. Its happened to me before, my boyfriend of 1 year left me for this girl who was a sl**, he kept denying they were together when they were. In the end he left me for her, only to come back crawling a week later. Of course I didnt take him back.

Just remember that might not be the case with your boyfriend, but I do understand what you are going through & its normal to feel insecure about your relationship, when there is another person involved in your partners life.

Hope this helps.....If you need anything, just message me.

Answer 5

all anybody can possibly do is guess but you could contact

the television show cheaters and if they take your case
you would know for sure.
it seems odd to me when it came to saying bye there was
no sign of affection.even your friend asked if there was
something going on and he replied were just friends..
your friend was even suspicious and looking out for youbut
the answer he gave was what he more or less had to say
if he is cheating on you he would not admit it to your friend
who would come back and tell you.
as time goes on you may catch him in some lies.
its a girl he works with clad like that and their in
public and you have your doubts chances are if he
is cheating you will find out yourself or from friends.
best of luck.

Answer 6

If I was you I would not say anything to him just yet. He is expecting you to over react about this chick and make a big deal. You did not say if he acted happy to see you or if he introduced you as his girlfriend.

Actions speak louder then words if he shows little to no interest in you and your relationship he could be one of those guys who needs a new gf before he breaks up the old one.

Answer 7

Looks like you need to make some more visits to the mall UNANNOUNCED! You see when people cheat, you do not have to go looking for it it always falls into your lap. You see when you visit him surprise him bring him lunch, snack, or flowers. Make sure when you show up you are seen by other coworkers to let them know your place. Do not stay long when visiting but do make him kiss you good-bye. Never let them know you are suspicious for males always want to be caught with evidence. Last do not let your friends ask questions you should be asking yourself.

Answer 8

Seriously just break up with him. He didn't hug or kiss u because he doesnt want her to know or think theres anything serious between u two.. if he cared he wouldnt have went without telling you at least. he sounds like a waste of time

Answer 9

How old is he? 18?
If he works with her, it's not a big deal that he's sitting down with her. But why didn't he hug or kiss you? It could mean a lot of things, most of which aren't good.

He should have kissed you real big, to show you he was proud of being your boyfriend. Why didn't he?

Who knows. Just be strong and don't give yourself to someone so easily. Not until they earn it. :)

Answer 10

he probably likes her so hes like preshopping fr another girl or he might be trying to hook up with this girl and lying to her about who you are to him to burst the bubble go to his work when she is there and bring him something (lunch, a new CD/DVD) something nice but not girlie and cute then tell him u love or see ya later and get your damn hug and kiss that you are entitled to as the gf and if he doesn't then some thin is up oh and try this if that girl comes around when you and your man are talking just say" wow it smells like fish all of a sudden hunny do you smell that awful smell?"

Answer 11

Well, there could be an attraction since he sees this girl a lot at work and because of the way she dresses.. I would be concerned to.
But, don't worry unless he stops calling you as much, doesn't pick up your calls, and doesn't want to spend time with you.. Then, you should start worrying.