Should I start potty training my son now?

Question

My son is 13 months and still in diapers. Lately he has been taking his diaper off by himself,along with that he trys to sit on the "big toilet" and he also knows how to flush it. Is this a sign that he is really to begin potty training?

Answer 1

you could try starting to potty train him, but around 18mths my girls did the same thing, but they werent fully ready to potty train until closer to 2 1/2.
but it wouldnt hurt to go ahead and give it a try, if he starts to resist. stop! you dont want to push him. that could only make him regress into not even wanting anything to do with the potty!

Answer 2

Children need to learn and see alot before they start trying. I waited until my children had bladder control and could signal they had to go before they actually did. What worked for my son and daughter is The Potty Stool http://www.thepottystool.com I started by just setting it at the toilet. This stool makes every toilet kid-sized. My kids immediately climbed up on this stool and discovered that they could safely and securely use the toilet. This got them very interested in using the toilet and they were potty trained very quickly.

My kids like to use what they know mommy and daddy use. And it really is wonderful having your kids independently use the toilet on their own. The handles and sides make all the difference! My son and daughter felt very secure and the sides makes them feel comfortable and closed in when they use the toilet.

I like that I don't have to double the steps of potty training by training them first in a potty and then training them to stop using a potty. And not dumping and cleaning a potty each time is great. The best thing is that kids use it for years. I hope this helps you

Answer 3

It's great that he's showing interest in the potty but I would warn against trying to potty train too soon. I think at this age you would encounter lots of setbacks and a lot of messes. My daughter is the same age and she has just learned to take her diaper off as well- but it's just because she's figured out how to pull the tabs- not because she has to go potty. I recommend talking to your pediatrician about the best times to start potty training but my initial reaction to your post is that it's far too soon. My creds on this (aside from being a mom) are 9 years of being a nanny and mulitple potty trainings.

Answer 4

According to many potty training experts, kids aren't physically able to potty train completely until around 18 months but it doesn't hurt to continue allowing him to "go potty" when the mood strikes him. I have also read that if you start too early, it will take much longer to potty train him than if you wait a little while. Signs of potty training readiness:
1. Staying dry through naptime, nighttime, and/or for 2 hours or more.
2. A desire to use the potty and have privacy.
3. Recognition that he is going, such as telling you about it.
4. Having words he uses such as poopy and peepee.

Good luck! Potty training is a tough endeavor!

Answer 5

How about an answer with a male perspective and the Chinese culture? Billions of Chinese have been toilet trained at ages much younger.

Between the age of 6-12 months my son sat on the small toilet as part of a morning ritual and went #1 and #2. It became habit and routine. Of course he was not really trained and used diapers. After age 1 this ritual became more difficult and we did not push it. At age 2.5 my wife decided that it was time - we introduced underwear and within a few days he was trained with occasional accidents as all kids have. He still used diapers/pull-ups at night but by his 3rd B-day he used underwear at night. One male cousin was fully trained at 2yrs and another at 2.5 yrs (both in Chinese household). The Chinese (and I am sure other cultures as well) use a method of training that usually requires just a 3-day weekend but 100% of your attention. Since I am not Chinese, my wife and I took a more relaxed approach and it took a little longer. Let me know if you want to know more....

** One of the biggest advantages and one of our incentives of early training - many preschools will not accept children who are not yet trained.

Answer 6

honestly if he's showing interest in the potty, then that's ok for him to start up. whilst he sits on the potty, you should tell him that the potty chair is for potty only. And if he's sitting on it with a diaper, he has to get off. Then attempt to coax him to take his diaper off so he can sit down on the potty. If he needs to do it, initiate training. If no longer, then in keeping with probability he only theory it became right into a cool place to sit down down. Having your daughter already potty knowledgeable, could properly be a large ingredient too. she will help. The extra he sees her using the potty, the extra he's going to choose to do an identical. It labored for my 3 youngest sons. all of them have been potty knowledgeable in the previous they have been 2, only by means of fact they had to positioned on the large boy pants like their massive brother.

Answer 7

My son did the same thing. Encourage her and show her that your are proud and pleased when she tries, but don't push. Potty training is a long proccess. She is showing you that shes interested. Still, be patient. You can ask every couple of days if she wants to potty on the toilet (esp after a nap if she's dry!!!)

Answer 8

Not really potty train but definetly let him try to use it when he wants and start telling him that the pee pee and poo poo go in there. I did this with both of my children soon after they turned one. My daughter had just turned 2 when she was fully potty trained and my son has just turned 2 and he is on his way and doing well with pee peeing in the potty.

Answer 9

sure some kids start early.My mom swears I potty trained my self by 1 year old.All 4 of my children were potty trained by 20 months.Potty training really is just consistency on your part.I just made sure i took them alot.Sure it was time consuming but its being consistent that teaches them to use the bathroom.If you are wishy washy about it they will be to.I never got mad at themAnd with my sons I had my husband take them in the bathroom and show them how guys use the bathroom.My oldest son it took just one time and the younger one a few days.They were both trained by 19 months.

Answer 10

heavens no. he is too young

just keep clothes on him to keep him from reaching his diaper


the real signs are staying dry overnight and for at least 2 hours durign awake periods
pulling pants up and down

can verbally tell you they are wet or about to wet
can say and understand potty words
pee poo potty

at this age your baby has little to no control over his bowels and bladder dont even try

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Toilet Training

When is the right time to start toilet training?

There is no set age at which toilet training should begin. The right time depends on your child's physical and psychological development. Children younger than 12 months have no control over bladder or bowel movements and little control for 6 months or so after that. Between 18 and 24 months, children often start to show signs of being ready, but some children may not be ready until 30 months or older.

Your child must also be emotionally ready. He needs to be willing, not fighting you or showing signs of fear. If your child resists strongly, it is best to wait for a while.

It is best to be relaxed about toilet training and avoid becoming upset. Remember that no one can control when and where a child urinates or has a bowel movement except the child. Try to avoid a power struggle. Children at the toilet-training age are becoming aware of their individuality. They look for ways to test their limits. Some children may do this by holding back bowel movements.

Look for any of the following signs that your child is ready:

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Your child stays dry at least 2 hours at a time during the day or is dry after naps.
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Bowel movements become regular and predictable.
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Facial expressions, posture, or words reveal that your child is about to urinate or have a bowel movement.
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Your child can follow simple instructions.
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Your child can walk to and from the bathroom and help undress.
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Your child seems uncomfortable with soiled diapers and wants to be changed.
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Your child asks to use the toilet or potty chair.
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Your child asks to wear grown-up underwear.

Stress in the home may make learning this important new skill more difficult. Sometimes it is a good idea to delay toilet training in the following situations:

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Your family has just moved or will move in the near future.
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You are expecting a baby or you have recently had a new baby.
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There is a major illness, a recent death, or some other family crisis.

However, if your child is learning how to use the toilet without problems, there is no need to stop because of these situations.

How to teach your child to use the toilet

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Decide what words to use. You should decide carefully what words you use to describe body parts, urine, and bowel movements. It is best to use proper terms that will not offend, confuse, or embarrass your child or others.
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Pick a potty chair. A potty chair is easier for a small child to use, because there is no problem getting on to it and a child's feet can reach the floor.
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Help your child recognize signs of needing to use the potty. Your child will often tell you about a wet diaper or a bowel movement after the fact. This is a sign that your child is beginning to recognize these bodily functions. Praise your child for telling you, and suggest that "next time" he let you know in advance.
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Make trips to the potty routine. When your child seems to need to urinate or have a bowel movement, go to the potty. Explain what you want to happen. Encourage your child with lots of hugs and praise when success occurs.
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Encourage the use of training pants. This moment will be special. Your child will feel proud of this sign of trust and growing up. However, be prepared for "accidents." It may take weeks, even months, before toilet training is completed.

If any concerns come up before, during, or after toilet training, talk with your pediatrician. Keep in mind, most children achieve bowel control and daytime urine control by 3 to 4 years of age. Even after your child is able to stay dry during the day, it may take months or years before he achieves the same success at night. Most girls and more than 75% of boys will be able to stay dry at night after 5 years of age.



Published online: 3/07
Source: Toilet Training (Copyright © 1993 American Academy of Pediatrics, Updated 4/03)

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The information contained in this publication should not be used as a substitute for the medical care and advice of your pediatrician. There may be variations in treatment that your pediatrician may recommend based on individual facts and circumstances.





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good luck its not just the mental maturity the physical needs to be there too and at 13 months its not