My long distance boyfriend and I are planning on me coming to visit him this summer. He wants me to meet his family and his friends and that scares me. Part of me wants me to tell him that I don't want to come but the other part of me wants to go and spend some of the summer with him. He really really wants me to come to see him. I am afraid that his friends and family won't like me and every time I talk about it with him he tells me not to be scared because his friends and family will think I am wonderful just like he does. What should I do? Do I stick with the plans and go visit him or do I just forget the plans and not go?
2007-12-05 03:28:09 · 15 answers · asked by raidergurl2008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If his friends and family love and care about him, they will be happy for him and glad that you have come into his life
don't ruin time you could have with him because of fear of meeting people that are important to him
be glad that he wants you to meet them, he values these people and wants to share you with them
2007-12-05 03:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by woman38 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you two are long-term partners, you are going to have to meet his family one day. You can't stay in isolation forever can you. It sounds like you are just rather shy and a bit under-confident and there's nothing wrong with that. I suggest you tell your boyfriend your fears and ask him not to swamp you with lots of people all at once. It would be better to meet just his parents to start with and then gradually introduce one or two relatives or friends very informally at staggered intervals rather than have a HUGE gathering where they can all view you at once. The prospect of that sounds pretty daunting. Don't let him fob you off with 'I think you're wonderful so everyone else will too'. Make him understand that you are apprehensive about it and need to go slow. There is NOTHING wrong with you as you sound pretty sensitive and nice so I'm sure you won't have any trouble at all. After the first meeting, you will wonder whatever it was that you were frightened of.
2007-12-05 11:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by chris n 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you are just nervous, I think you should go. You will probably end up regretting it if you don't. I have only been seeing someone for a month and we are going out of state for 3 days to his hometown, where I will get to meet his family. I am excited but I am nervous too.
There is also a chance that they will like you very much and will want to see you again. Stay optimistic, and think of it as a chance to make new friends.
2007-12-05 11:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how long hav u guys been 2gether? hav u met him before? d reason y he wanted 2 show u 2 his family n frens is bcuz he's proud 2 hav a gf like u n he wanted d whole world 2 noe, especially 2 d ppl who is close n dear 2 him (family n frens) but then if ur not ready 2 take d big step then he shud respect dat.. go n see him dis summer n hav a great time. he'll understand if u explain it 2 him nicely, assure him dat u are serious in dis relationship as much as he is. Gudluck~ ^^
2007-12-05 11:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by Scarlett_Jane 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he likes you, Im sure his family and friends will. Its always hard to meet them the first time. Tell him you will meet them, but dont make a big deal about it, no big party or dinner to meet them. If you really like this guy and you can see a future with him, you will have to meet them sometime. Go see him and enjoy yourself.
2007-12-05 11:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by tarie75 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, you will come see him and meet his family. If a girl didn't want to meet my family, my family would not accept u to my family. Just women up and take one for the team.
2007-12-05 11:32:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mike L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go and have a good time. If things dont work out when you get there you know the way home. I think it sounds like a great idea to go and mingle with the family and his friends. If you dont go you will regret it. Good luck and enjoy.
2007-12-05 11:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless his parents and friends have done something to indicate they disprove of your relationship, there is no reason to worry. You should go and have a great time. I'm sure it'll be a summer to remember.
2007-12-05 11:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go visit. You love him don't you? No matter if they like you are not, he loves you just they way you are. They can hate you all they want but life goes on with or without them.
2007-12-05 11:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by - -Ladii TK- - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and visit and be determined to enjoy yourself. Just be yourself and let his family get to know you., good luck.
2007-12-05 11:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋