I think it's about to end which is a real shame as we've been living together for a year and make a great team most of the time. But he just doesn't seem to care.I'm 23 and have made some stupid decisions in my past but try to be alot more careful now.I think I do alot for him and always happy to hang out wiht his mate etc and I used to model so I'm okay looking. BUT he just never seems to be over the moon with me, I wrote 'love you tonnes' to finish off an email before and he wrote nothing back. I know this sounds silly and I'm really insecue, I think maybe I should just end this.We are travelling and a long way from home though so I wonder if things will change at home.I don't have as many mates as him and I'm not as trusting so I would feel very very alone if we were to break up but I know thats not a fair reason to stay with someone. Please give me some advise, I feel really sad
2007-12-05 02:53:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to take a deep breath, write down all the things that are bothering you about the relationship. Find out what you might be doing wrong as well as he. Then when you've sorted it all out, wait for an opportune moment when you're together and he's feeling close to you, and gently open the conversation. Notice his reaction and body language and his eyes. They will all tell you a lot about how he feels. Please don't end the relationship without talking to him first. He might have something to say about that. Only then will you be able to make a decision.
2007-12-05 03:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are not aware of it but you are becoming more possessive in the relationship! Love is like an elastic band, some weeks you need alot of time together, others you feel more comfortable alone. When you say 'you are happy to hang out with his mates', does that mean you don't allow him time with his mates alone? do you trust him? do you have quality time with your mates? Ask yourself this. As you live together you especially need time apart!! Also, go out together, amybe you are not doing the things you used to. surprise him...even in bed. Some sexy underwear!! Don't end the relationship, try to make it more exciting. As for the 'model', 'insecure' bit. A good relationship will never fail for the way you look. It will only fail if you stop trusting, become possessive and controlling.Men will run a mile x
2007-12-05 11:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have already identify that at this very moment you and him are not happy in the relationship. Living with a person is difficult at times, if you want the spark to come back both of you need to give each other space. Try doing different things, no more writing and expecting a nice note back. Just sit down talk and give each other space to breath so that things could be better. We all need a break sometime to reconnect with ourselves and be able to understand why we make each other unhappy. This is exactly what happened between my boyfriend and I, it got to the point we couldn't even talk. We have given each other a break and at first it's hard b/c we miss but i am so happy we did. I have realize that my happiness is in my hands and we all deserve to be happy so if you both care give each other the space needed.
2007-12-05 11:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by Diva1980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you two just need some time from each other. I know that when me and my boyfriend are together all of the time we get on each other's nerves. But if we just have a day or two from each other things go back to normal. I think you should just wait til you get home and see if things change, if they dont, then go out for the day, but if things dont change after that you should really talk to him and tell him how you feel. If he still acts like he doesnt care then maybe it is time for you to move on and find someone who is over the moon for you!
Good Luck!
2007-12-05 11:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe some time a part could help your relationship. It sounds as if you may need/want to work on yourself for a while. Considering you used to be a model I'm sure you are very pretty and have no need to be insecure. As far as him though maybe a break would suit you well. Don't be sad love comes and goes.. If you really love him let him go and if he comes back you'll know his love for you is very true.. Good luck try not to be so sad. =)
2007-12-05 11:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel....too many times I have gotten involved with a guy...only later things didn't work out(because of their attitudes)......and it is like why do guys have to be this way....
...like I don't hardly even want to date anymore...like why get all involved with these guys and then they just do nothing or it is breakup time....so it is why bother....
...maybe that is why there are so many people....so always have a chance to meet the right guy...just takes time to find them...and sometimes I have talked to people who never dated or never were in love...at all...so no matter what...have fun...be you....enjoy all the things you can about life...and if a guy doesn't make you feel loved....don't feel sad about leaving him...be happy!
2007-12-05 11:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by answergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Notice that some guys aren't as emotionally intelligent. I recall this one girl friend of mine explaining to me she's been out with this guy for a year and he can't read her expression (sadness, anxiety, et cetera).
It shouldn't matter about how many friends he has or has not or vice versa, and if it does I wouldn't call that love.
The best thing you could do is talk to him about this. Communication is key. Rely on emotions later.
Do you have any evidence besides the non-replying that he could care less about this relationship? Have you thought that he might have been preoccupied at the time you sent that message?
2007-12-05 11:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by Will C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try talking to him. It's not written anywhere that when you write "I love you" in an email that he has to write it back; maybe he got busy or didn't need to respond to anything else in the email. Some people just aren't expressive, and since you've been together for a while, you should know this about him already. If it's changed, you need to talk to him about it, rather than assume it's over.
2007-12-05 10:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should try talking to him.....i wouldnt throw a year long relationship down the drain because you feel ignored.....all relationships go through phases where the so in love feeling and over the moon craziness dies down but you should still be happy with him. My advice is to first talk to him about it and see how he's feeling about things.......
good luck.
2007-12-05 10:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by Jami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to me?... tell him whats on your mind and ask him how he feels.. maybe he just not a loving type of guy? maybe you guys need a little break from one another.. the only advise i think anyone can give you is to just open your mouth and let everything out... good luck
2007-12-05 10:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by Guess Who 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋