Me and this girl were dating for around 4 months and everything was cool at first. When we were only friends there was no arguing or problems but as soon as we began to date it was going smoothly. Then it turns out she became a totally different person for a while and i knew it was because of the fact that she was steal hurting from her past relationship. Well the girl told me she loved me and admitted that she was falling in love with me. I stood by her but we got into an argument and ended up splitting. I tried to talk it out with her the next day yet she didn't want to. A couple of days go by and she calls me up and we hang out a little the next day. The day after she ignores me and i tell her that i tried to remain friends but it seems as if you don't want to so i will leave you alone. She calls me up and tells me no dont trip i just need to get over my past relationship so that me and you can be together properly. Do I move on and forget about her or move on but don't forget her.
2007-12-05 02:51:39 · 19 answers · asked by Mike J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay i know some of you have read my first question but here is another part. This is the part that confuses me. We don't really talk on the phone because i don't call her and she doesn't call me. Yet when she sees me she runs up and hugs me like its the last time that she will ever see me and we will both look at each other in the eyes and have that connection. You know how you will look at someone in the eyes and know that you both want to kiss. She will also come and sit on my lap and she will hold my arms when i put them around her. She gives me this please don't let go look and thats what makes me want to wait but i am also trying to move on but sometimes its hard. Thats why i am wondering if i should make it a clean break or just talk whenever we get a chance.
2007-12-05 09:34:16 · update #1
Move on, before you get seriously hurt.
2007-12-05 02:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by Lynn 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
From knowing a girl in a similar situation, I think it depends on the last relationship. did it end shortly before you two hooked up? If it has really been a while, then it sounds like she has a lot to figure out on her own.
This girl that I know can't get over her ex- and puts herself in denial, tells herself that she is, and when she goes back to the current boyfriend, can't be happy with him because she realizes she's still in love with someone she'll never have again. it has happened a few times, and the poor guy gets hurt every time.
Stick around if this is the first breakup, if you love her, let her go and give her the chance to figure everything out. if she does it again in the future, just know that it's probably going to be a repeat thing, and that's the time you should think about moving on.
2007-12-05 11:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by stressed to the MAX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, well... you know you cant wait around forever for this girl, but if you love her then you need to stand by her and support her a bit longer. Give her room and ask her to talk to you about the past guy (even if you dont want to hear about it) so that you can understand what is going on. Tell her that you are more than willing to work on a very slow realationship with her, but you need to understand what she is going through so that you can be understanding about it and help support her though this.
If you dont have the patients for her, then you have to walk away now before she ends up getting hurt again, or you getting hurt for her makeing you wait. It all depends on what type of person you are and how much you really want to invest in this woman. If you can see your future with her, children, house... life... then maybe you need to give her the time and space that she needs so that the two of you can move on as a stronger unit. Good luck hun, and Happy Holidays!
2007-12-05 10:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me its obvious this girl is not ready to be in another relationship. She seems very unstable when it comes to what she wants. One day she wants ot be with you, another day she ignores you, thats not healthy for anyone. You need to give her space. Even if she calls you and tells you she wants to be with you, leave her alone for a while. She needs to mature and figure out what she wnats. If she was so hurt from her last relationship is not healthy for her to get involved so fast and not fair to you. Give it time and thinks will be clearere for both. Good luck!
2007-12-05 10:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by sweetcutie1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing, you probably won't be able to forget her. For another, just give her some time and let her contact you. You don't intiate anything. In every relationship there are always arguments but they help maintain the relationship and strengthen it. If you can, do that. It's up to you if you want to take my advice or not.
2007-12-05 10:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by Green Phantom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know do u want to be with her? if you then u need to talk to her, and explain that you are not like the other guys (hope not). lol. Let her know if she needs to talk about it that you are there for her. If the emotional baggage is too much and you her with different personalties, then i think that you need to just be her friends and nothing more, because you will get hurt
2007-12-05 10:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by yayohelpme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KEEP THINGS OPEN WITH HER, BUT LET HER KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT GOING TO WAIT AROUND FOR HER, AND THAT YOU ARE GOING TO SEE OTHER PEOPLE. AND ALSO LET HER KNOW THAT IF SHE DOES DECIDE TO TRY TO GET BACK WITH YOU THAT YOU MIGHT BE WITH SOMEONE ELSE BY THEN. SHE WILL EITHER GET HER SH*T TOGETHER OR SHE WILL BE DONE WITH YOU. EASY AS PIE. AND THEN YOU CAN MOVE ON WITH YER LIFE CAUSE OBVIOUSLY YOU DONT WANT TO BE HER 'REBOUND' AND SHE MUST HAVE ISSUES IF SHE'S STILL STUCK ON A PAST RELATIONSHIP FOR THIS LONG!!! GOOD LUCK TO YA!!
2007-12-05 10:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by joo_0420 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on and dont forget about her she is going to still be there especially if you see her on a daily basis and truth be told she should have not gotten in a relationship with her feeling and emotions is fresh It sounds like she used to forget about her ex and know that you will be her beck and call,
2007-12-05 10:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by beautiful2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her the time that she needs and let her know that you are always there for her if she needs to talk to someone.
2007-12-05 11:02:30 · answer #9 · answered by Jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Move on. She sounds like a drama queen who isn't ready to date.
2007-12-05 10:54:44 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋