I have heard the saying "upstage a bride" and I just wondered how on earth one could do that and why would one want to do that?!
2007-12-05 02:07:40 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Upstage the bride by looking more special than she does, behaving so that others notice you instead of focusing on the bride, etc.
People have been known to do that because they are jealous, love attention, or just don't like the bride. Also because they have bad manners.
2007-12-05 02:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by Woods 7 · 9⤊ 2⤋
Blunt gave you a great list.
Dressing so outlandishly or over the top that what you're wearing is the talk of the wedding is upstaging the bride.
Wearing white.
Making announcements of any type.
Making a scene of any type that calls a ridiculous amount of attention to you versus the bride.
Why do women do it? Because women can be mean, that's why! No seriously, there are some women out there who are so insecure and jealous that they feel if all eyes aren't on them 24/7, the world will end. So they MUST make a statement to be noticed. Even at a wedding that's not theirs.
2007-12-05 03:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by sylvia 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I second Blunt's list, except for the showing up pregnant/labor part. Childbirth isnt an exact science and you can go into labor at any time(with both my kids I was in labor more than 2 weeks earlier than my due date), you shouldnt be made to sit home just because you might have to leave for the hospital in the middle of a wedding. It would be how the mother to be handled it that may cause a problem, if she makes some huge scene then yes, not good, but if she quietly alerts key members of the family that its time(mothers, brothers and sisters) and excuses herself or if she is at a friends wedding she explains to the bride or groom or MOH, whoever she sees first, that she will have to be leaving due to having a baby at that point in time, there is no problem and she isnt upstaging anyone.
2007-12-05 03:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
agree with the other poster who said that making your own announcement at someone else's wedding is a huge upstaging. or, horrors, going into labor or becoming violently ill and stopping the festivities or by doing that take attention away from the bride, or, ahem, deliberately upsetting the bride before the wedding out of jealousy. or, bringing up something upsetting or cruel at a wedding, or starting an argument, or, acting in a way at the reception that calls horrible attention to yourself. or wearing something outrageous, altho this day and age there are a lot of flashy clothes around, so, it is rather hard to dress better than a bride, but it is possible to dress horribly innappropriately, say, a dominatrix dress. ( saw it with my own eyes) or deliberately be the only person in an entire family to not show up and ruin a family portrait by ones absence, horrible things like that.
why would someone do that? jealousy. yup, there is such a thing, although people of taste and class and kindness and generosity could sometimes not even believe such a terrible thing exists. which is many times why a nice bride is blindsided by someone at her wedding who acts in any and all of the above ways. it happens.
2007-12-05 02:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
People are forgetting that a wedding is NOT the "bride's day". It is a union of a couple, a sacrament of marriage (for those who are religious). It's not a day for the bride to be a princess. If this is how you see your wedding, you are well on your way to adding to the 50% divorce rate.
It's fine to have a gorgeous wedding gown and look spectacular (I do and plan to), but to restrict what others wear is just too far in my books. Who cares if someone wears a white dress? If someone doesn't know that YOU'RE the bride, why are they at your wedding?
Provided some nutcase doesn't show up in a bridal gown, I'm cool. In fact, my fiance's groomswoman is wearing a simple white dress with a black bow. My 'maids are in black, and the groomsmen are all in white tuxes. She blends in perfectly, and I could care less.
With the exception of truly mentally unstable guests, most brides are exaggerating when they say that someone "upstaged" them.
2007-12-05 04:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
No, you're purely a new child. no person might evaluate a 14 year previous to be impolite or improper because of the fact she wore a white gown to a marriage. At 14 you're able to desire to not upstage an person bride, nor will all people get you puzzled for the bride. incredibly, human beings, shop the etiquette in context to the story.
2016-12-10 13:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend got married in Sept and her aunt let her have her dress to save some money. On the day, her aunt turned up wearing a long white dress, jacket and massive hat, all white with black roses on the dress, and she was the talk of the day. She totally upstaged my friend and everyone could not believe she had done it. But, my friend was amazingly calm about the whole thing and just got on with the day and complimented her family individually on what they were wearing but simply ignored her aunt. It was a gem of a moment and you should have seen her aunts face, she had wanted a reaction out of my friend and she did not get it. I think her aim was to upstage the bride but it failed!
2007-12-05 02:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Things like announcing your engagement at a wedding or behaving in a way that detracts attention from the couple getting married. Some say "going in to labour" but hey, that's nature and sometimes there is no planning those things, so that would not bother me if it happened at my wedding, neither did it bother me that some of the guests wore cream outfits, I am not precious about those things, but some girls really are, so best not to do that!! Some people just like to be centre of attention!
2007-12-05 18:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The simple and most common answer is jealousy. Take a woman who loves being in the spotlight and is sick of being single, tell her she's going to a wedding, and she'll make sure she's noticed.
Of course, there are times that people will unintentionally wear/do something that's inappropriate at weddings that will take attention away from the bride on her big day, but that's usually because they don't know proper etiquette.
2007-12-05 02:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
ok...when a woman 'upstages the bride' it means she has deliberately gone out of her way to look better than the bride on the day....X
2007-12-05 02:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋