There is this female co-worker I don't see that often only when I go to the other side of the shop and only sometimes then not always ok but when she first started working there she was acting standoffish and would not look at me so I never botherd to say hello just did my work I was not rude to her at all I mean if you dont know someone and they dont seem to want to know you I think it is ok not to say hi. So one day me and my boss were standing around his name is the same as mine she comes walking by and says hi Jeff and my boss says to her what Jeff do you mean and she says when I say HI Jeff I always mean you meaning my boss and not me that made me feel bad I got over it but just stayed away from her and would not look at her thinking she did not want to be around me, but then one time we pass by each other as I was trying to avoid eye contact she would lean in and stare at me in a rude way. Why is she acting like this?? help me please.
2007-12-05 02:05:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You already asked this question! Were you not happy with the answers? geeeezzz
She probably just meant that since she had never said hi to you before, you would assume she was saying hi to the boss. She probably didn't think about the two of you having the same name. She may not have even KNOWN your name since she had never said hi to you before.
2007-12-05 02:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Who knows why women look at you in a rude way, you may have passed gas near her a few years back and she still hasn't forgiven you. More likely it is probably because another co-worker told her something about you that she didn't like, or she is upset that you never spoke to her earlier. Either that or she has taken your intentional efforts to stay away from her as you stalking her. I could never understand that one but apparently if you make it obvious that you are looking away when she looks at you, keeping a distance from her etc. Women can sometimes interpret this as the complete opposite and think that you are staring at her and following her. If you are uncomfortable with the situation I would go to her (in a public place so she doesn't feel you are trying to isolate her) and introduce yourself, then explain how you have been feeling and don't know why the dynamics between the two of you are the way they are. She should tell you her side and if it is trivial you should have a good laugh, if it is more serious then the two of you will need to go to your boss and talk it through with him.
2016-05-28 07:01:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it this way. She was new and probably shy and you missed an opportunity to welcome her. So let's get you passed this. Next time you see her, go over and say hello. Tell her you're sorry you never officially welcomed her to the company and if there is anything you can do, any questions you can answer, you'd be happy to do so. If she's staring at you in what you regard as a rude way, she may well be trying to get your attention.
2007-12-05 02:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lady G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you can do is to find a way to ask HER this. Tell her how that "stare" made you feel and ask what she meant by it. Don't be belligerent, but more curious and remain polite and easy going. Ask her in private, so that in case she goes off on you, there will not be a 'scene'.
2007-12-05 02:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by Marvinator 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go up to her and say " Hi my name is Jeff whats yours? " and when she answers, reply with " why are you so rude to me",and tell her how she makes you feel sometimes. This will catch her off guard and make her take a look back on how she treats you and other coworkers.
2007-12-05 02:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she likes you, but i think she doesn't know how to express how she feels. I guess since you never said nothin to her, she won't say anything. She wants to say hi to you but can't. Don't feel bad. just try talking to her or just say hi..and if she keeps acting that way then leave the situation alone because she has issues.
2007-12-05 02:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by sandra H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may have someone in her life and you are the forbidden fruit. Just nod at her when you pass by, don't try to avoid eye contact. (Maybe she has been in trouble for talking to much on the job.)
2007-12-05 02:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be brave and say hi to her. Before you do pray of course. Pray about everything you do and you'll be fine. You seem shy that is ok. Just pray and God will give you the self confidence you need!!
2007-12-05 02:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by Marina C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time she walks by u and and gives u that look, lean in farther to her and give her the same look back, but more dramatically and intensly. or when u see her, say loudly, HI!!! maybe smile at her and that she better be nice to u.
2007-12-05 02:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by AmicaBella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make an effort to change this persons' idea of who u r! maybe she thinks u r the one who's "stuck-up"! did this occur to u? well,if her opinion of u bothers u and running into her is uncomfortable,show some courage and friendliness and say hello! and smile!
2007-12-05 02:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋