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One of the most common things I hear women looking for is ambition. I can fully appreciate wanting to find a partner who wants to get ahead. But how would feel about a guy who had been with his current job for a long time, liked the company he works for and what he does, and was at the highest level possible in his present company? In other words, are you ok with a guy who is happy where he is in his career?
As a follow up, would you feel differently if he would have more upward potential and/or earning power with a different company, but wanted to stay where he was?
2007-12-05 01:34:52 · 10 answers · asked by Justin H 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's more important to be happy than progressing through a career to a point you don't enjoy it anymore. I'm at the highest I can be in my career, as is my boyfriend. We're both happy. I think by ambition, women are trying to politely say they don't want a guy to settle for working at McDonald's if he has a desire to be a broker on Wall Street; do what you want, do what makes you happy because when you're happy, you're more loving toward us which makes us happy.
I wouldn't feel differently in the second situation, unless his present earnings was affecting how he lived his life. (If he's living paycheck by paycheck and always fretting about money, I'd want him to get a job that paid more, but if he's living comfortably and not beyond his means, that's fine.) Technically, there's always going to be someplace in the world that will pay you more than you're making right now, but that may require relocation, an extra skill set, etc. If you're happy and comfortable in your life, you shouldn't have to move somewhere that would make you unhappy.
2007-12-05 01:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
justin, great question!
First off I am male, so I can't answer directly. But I am around the age specified(29), and ambition is a big point, more or less required.
Here's the thing. It isn't necessarily the job, the money, etc....it is simply ambition.....they need to know that you have goals, objectives, and are working towards something....it can even be hobbies, or extra curricular.
I think it stems from old social conditioning, not yet caught up with the equaility movement, the man is the provider, stability and the rock of the relationship....If he is lost, or running aimless, then it just doesn't seem right. he needs to be working towards a direction, and pushing himself daily to get better.
Some of this may also be attributed to the womens movement and struggle for equality. Women set goals and the objective of working towards equity, and have come a far way, thank god! But everything out in the media today is targeted at womens strength, power, the need to achieve, set goals and empowerment.....they are flooded by the message that they can achieve anything, the sky is the limit etc. They want their men to think likewise (even if I may comment that fairytales are not always true, and real life isn't a movie).
But hey, this is just my 2 cents
oh and hey tesgirl is so very correct. Guys see what they like, girls see potential, and something to be molded.....but they need to realize, maybe not to their liking
2007-12-05 01:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by someguy_in_halifax 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like everyone else is saying, I could care less what a guy does, as long as he is, first and foremost, HAPPY, and then making enough money to support himself.
I suppose ambition is a good trait, but really I would prefer he be a happy, well rounded guy over that. There's nothing wrong with wanting to get ahead, as long as it doesn't get in the way of other things in his life that are more important (in my opinion). Everyone needs a job, whether they love it or hate it.
For me, it's the personality of the guy that's more important than the job.
2007-12-05 01:47:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like ambition, but I would just like a guy with a decent job. I've known a few guys that have crummy jobs and they are happy there, and crummy meaning it doesn't even pay the bills. I just want someone who can contribute at least 1/2 of everything.
2007-12-05 01:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by Casie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 28 and my personal opinion is that whatever makes you happy is alright with me. Because at the end of the day I will be doing my own thing financially anyway so if I were to date a guy in this situation we would put our things together. I have to respect that he is happy where he is and that's it!
2007-12-05 01:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by thunderthighs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such a great question - men accept woman as they are, and women want to change men. Women see "potential," and men see ...I don't know what they see. Looking forward to all the great answers on this.
2007-12-05 01:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by LOVEISTHEANSWER 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see no problem with that. as long as he is happy and has a job then it don't matter what he makes or how high up he is.
2007-12-05 01:41:21 · answer #7 · answered by bluedevilsgirl07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he's happy with his job and makes enough to take care of himself I don't care what he does.
2007-12-05 01:38:53 · answer #8 · answered by christina30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He likes his job and as long as he can pay his way what is the big deal?
2007-12-05 02:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by ღKrissyღ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey a slong as he is happy with his career then im happy and as long as he has no kids
2007-12-05 01:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋