My parents have a terrible history of fighting and they are currnetly going through a divorce.
Well....Last night, they started fighting REALLY bad. I didn't know what could happen next and my dad was screaming so loud I couldn't take it. He was threatening my mom (which is nothing new to me) but it just really scared me this time.
Anyway, I called 911 and left the phone off the hook. The police showed up and stood outside the window recording everything he said to my mom. THey even said 2 of our neighbors called complaining.
Next thing, they come in our house and ARREST my dad!! I felt so terrible but the cop said I did the right thing. What do you guys think? Did I betray my father??
2007-12-05 01:28:41 · 14 answers · asked by **In Love** 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If your father had lost control and killed your mother, would you be asking this question? I know you feel like you betrayed him, but perhaps its the wake up call he needs to get his anger under control. You did the right thing, don't let anyone tell you different.
2007-12-05 01:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
They got one of the troublemakers out of the house, and away from the other one. From what you say, both of your parents were fighting, it doesn't seem to have been either one or the other who caused it.
You were right to phone the police and get them to come around. You must have been very frightened, and I am sure that your neighbours might well have been concerned for your welfare.
I think you did the right thing in forcing the situation, because it seems like your parents are splitting up anyway, and you created a situation where they had to be apart and thus had time to cool down.
I don't think you betrayed anyone, hon. I think you did the best thing you could have done under the circumstances.
I just wish I had had the guts to phone the police when my family were fighting like dogs after too much drink had been consumed.
2007-12-05 01:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but I do think that you decided to protect yourself in a sensible, non-dramatic way.
Considering the fact that your neighbors also called 911, the screaming must have been terrible. The fact that you and your neighbors called, could have been the difference between a shouting match and a homicide investigation.
My advice for the future, and it doesn't apply just to at home: If you feel endangered, go ahead and call, but do it from a neighbor's house--protect yourself by removing yourself from the situation and let the authorities handle the rest!
2007-12-05 01:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you felt there was an immediate danger or harm to either of your parents than you did the right thing. As for betrayal the police said neighbors called to complain as well, so they might have show up whether you called or not. Your dad maybe hurt but it will pass.
2007-12-05 01:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by Julian 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You did what you felt was right and you know your home life. If there was any possibility of things getting violent at all then you did the right thing. You didn't betray him and if other neighbors called then it was very possible that the same thing would have happened even if you had not called.
2007-12-05 01:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by mrskerlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were totally right in calling the police. I know it sounds a little wierd to you, but he couldve killed both you AND YOUR MOM. I know it feels like you are betraying your father but in the long run, you will be glad you stood up and used your voice. I had a similar problem with my parents. Every night my parents used to fight, and every night thr cops got called, and every time this happend, i thought i was betraying my father. but the only thing you can do is hope that your father changes his behavior. its not your fault,,. never think that. hope eveything goes okay.
2007-12-05 01:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Tyranny[Killa Juggalette] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you did the right thing but it may cost you some resentment from him in the future. If your dad is a responsible man he would accept this arrest and learn from it and move on. You may have a tough time ahead but he will make sure next time he is calm now knowing you are there.
2007-12-05 01:39:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, that really sucks. My mum and dad used to fight a lot and my dad once punched two holes into a door, it's really annoying how parents can get so worked up about things.
But if you really thought that he was going to hurt her then you did the right thing. And, maybe he'll learn his lesson before doing such a thing again.
2007-12-05 02:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes if in anyway you felt that your mother was in danger you should always try and do something that could help. you did the right thing your father is just going to have to except that. Don't worry about his feeling he still loves you and im sure he is upset. He'll get over it.
2007-12-05 01:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by FrostyCarey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your dad should not be doing that you did the right thing. I have a dad like that and I have never has the courage to do that. YOU GO GIRL.
P.S. If he says anything about how you are such a bad daughter blah blah blah don't listen to him it's just a guilt trip happens to me!
2007-12-05 01:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by sillygirl227 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋