I see that she's been on Match.com searching and more than likely writing to other guys.
She opened the Match.com account many years ago, we both use to be there until I started being with her , then I quit the internet search but she's still at it and I'm curious what you would do ?
Should I stop seeing her cause it hurts me that we are only a romp in the bed once in awhile or do you think I should continue to say nothing (of me checking out her online match.com site) and enjoy the time I do have with her ?
What says you ?
Curious me
2007-12-05 01:26:56 · 13 answers · asked by inbangur2008 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry to be the one to tell you
but she does not think your relationship is "perfect" or she wouldn't be checking out the boys on the web.
Don't bother saying "goodbye" to her, shed her like wet clothing and move-on !
2007-12-05 01:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off if you are checking up on her , then you don't trust her in the first place , doesn't matter how many years ago she opened the account , if she is still using it then she is up to no good. maybe just start asking her if she is happy with the relationship , or suggest taking it to the next level to see how she reacts , but do not continue letting this go on ,it is not fair to you , i don't think you should let her know you have been spying on her however because then she will turn it around on you.Stop being a doormat,if all else fails tell her you are not happy with just the occasional romp in the sack and you are looking for something more consistent and secure. And move on.But do not give up on Internet dating.That is how I met my husband.My very first Internet date is now my supervisor!lol.But it can be fun and rewarding! Take care and good luck.
2007-12-05 09:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by StRaWbErRyLiCiOuS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a bit differently than most of the answerers here, cause checking out a profile on match.com or myspace.com is not stalking or being intrusive, those sites are an open book for everyone, including you to view anytime we like.
I suggest this friend of yours is wanting more time or energy spent on her so maybe that's why she's still on the internet searching for her perfect partner.
Maybe she's addicted to searching on the internet, I was in that same boat, I understand looking for someone else when all along the right person was right next to me. Foolish me lost that guy to another lady who paid him full attention.
I believe this lady that you love isn't ready for a commitment and you should move on & far away from her.
Get back on the dating sites and find someone who will be thrilled to hold you in their arms and has eyes for you only.
Be careful of that broken heart of yours, let it mend with a new heartfelt friend/lover
2007-12-05 09:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well that depends on what you two are...Are you dating or FWB? If she is still searching that has to tell you she is still looking for more than you have to offer. Your not mr right but mr right now........Talk to her and ask her what the furture holds for you two. Dont ask her about the match.com deal! It might make her think your stalking her!
2007-12-05 09:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by victor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you want a realationship and I don't get the sense that she does. Talk to her about it and find out what she wants from you. If you are willing to except where she stands with you than stay, if not than go find someone else who will give you what you need.
2007-12-05 09:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by doctor love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her about the issue make sure she understands that you do not like what she is doing. If she does not respect that then you should definitely move on and save yourself the heartache!
2007-12-05 09:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by thunderthighs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't view your relationship as exclusive; you're likely just a bed buddy. If you want it to go beyond that, talk to her. Tell her you want to take your relationship further and date each other exclusively. If she's not interested, move on.
2007-12-05 09:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she doesn't show as much interest in as her. If you are looking for something more...lose her...even if it hurts...you need more than what she is giving...why cut yourself short for somebody else...there is somebody out there for everyone...its better to hurt now...then waste more time with her to hurt later...
2007-12-05 09:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if shes looking, you should be too, cause obviously she isnt that into you fi shes still looking on match.com
2007-12-05 09:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
u need to ask her what she's doing she might just enjoy to convo with others or even pretend she single which is ok if she not doing more then the internet thing with them! just confront her first before you do n e thing.
2007-12-05 09:29:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋