i cant walk through the door without getting the evil eyes from my step mom
every one says its because i resembel my mom i look and act like her in many ways
my step mom has never liked me and i know i dont want to talk to her becuase she has always has a discust twords me and i have never done any thing besides be me!
i walk through the door and she wants nothing to do with me
what should i do about this should i just leave it i mean im moving in with my mom on friday
2007-12-05 01:18:09 · 20 answers · asked by Kaylee M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank god you are moving to your mother's!
Give her a hint, if it's not too dangerous for you: Cross your fingers to her face as you walk in, get a chain of garlic around your neck, etc. Ha,ha I can think of more if u need to, let me know! There are also, quiet cute, little eyes you wear as charms, I prefer ones with eyelashes, we have them in Greece to guard off the "evil eye".
I suggest, (even though I don't know the situation exactly, or how old u r), you tell her off in front of your father when you move out. and also, convey this to your father whenever she makes you feel bad when u r around her. Except if your father is only on her side ;)
Find something she feels bad about and look at her with a very penetrating eye, after you expose it!
I always feel sorry about divorced children. I want us to find a new family model, but not many seem to be ready in society to do that. I am sad when most of the children in school today are from divorced parents, who cannot take care of them. I wish it's good for u at your mom's.
2007-12-05 17:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by Is that all there is? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me i know how it feels. I was adopted and my mom also did foster care and had her own kids. She treated us like crap and took all our money and spent it on her kids. When she would get mad at me ahe would have my brother and sister tell my bad thing like i was a w h o r e. It hurt me. I would walk around my house on egg shells. To be somwhere where you dont feel like that person would ever be there for you is really hard. Im sorry that she does that. Everything will work out in the end. Take it one day out a time. If tomorow Comes its another day. Do you baby girl, Be batter than her. God will get her. Go to school get your education, be the best you can be. Succsess is the greatest revenge!!! I really hope it helped
2007-12-05 01:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by melissa s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad that you are moving in with your mom so you have a place to feel more comfortable. Just let it go until your step mom or your dad asks you about it then tell them the truth about your discomfort. It will show maturity as long as you don't put the entire blame on her. Did you ever give her reason to feel she wouldn't be wanted in your life? Honestly think about it.
2007-12-05 01:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by bellgoddess1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your father first and telling him how you feel, but don't accuse her, just let him know that you want to work on your relationship with your stepmother. Ask him for suggestions on how to mend the relationship. Maybe suggest that the three of you sit down and talk through everything. Without talking about it, you can assume too many things which affects your behavior towards her as well.
Good Luck!
2007-12-05 01:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope living with your mom helps the situation.
There really isn't anything you *can* do to change your step-mom's mind - her "stuff" is hers to get handled and I'm really sad to hear that it's getting in the way of a relationship with you.
Being polite and respectful and accomodating toward adults is always smart. If you've got that down, I'd say you are doing all you can. After that, let it go and remember that *It's not about you*.
2007-12-05 01:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same things with my step hag. My dad and her got married when I was in 1st or 2nd grade and I am 32 today and she still acts the same way no matter how nice you are to her. So I just have nothing to do with either of them, he seems to like it better that way anyway.
2007-12-05 01:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by zena1129 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you did not do anything wrong i think you need to speak with your dad first about this situation. and than maybe you and your father can speak with your step monster Oops! I mean your step mom. Maybe things can get resolved or maybe you should stay with your mom until your dad can find a fix for the situation. I hope everything gets resolved!
2007-12-05 01:26:00 · answer #7 · answered by FrostyCarey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. Your father did something wrong when he married a woman that cannot accept his daughter. Have you tried talking to your dad about this? That would be your first step. If things do not improve, I would recommend talking to a school counselor or your pastor. Find someone to talk to that can make recommendations.
I'm sorry that you have to go through this.
2007-12-05 01:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by T. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family relationships are a 2 way street. You can not fight "fire with fire" and expect no counter reaction. Try sitting down with your stepmom and have a meaningful dicsussion. Try to see things from her point of view.
2007-12-05 01:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by tiemeon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't do anything wrong!
it is all on her, she needs to grow up and act like an adult.
don't stop being who you are... even if it reminds her of your mom. those are her problems, not yours.
Since you are moving in with your mom, you don't have to worry so much about feeling bad in your own home now.
But you should def talk to you father. Because you and him should keep your relationship going strong, even if you don't live with him anymore. Make sure he understands he is still welcome to take you out and spend quality time with you.
2007-12-05 01:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by kaddykat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋