I met a guy on line,we started talking daily and phoned each other for about a week before meeting. We met at a coffee shop and spent the day talking and laughing,got along really well. Second time we met we didn't do too much went for dinner he wasn't feeling well,he thought he let me down. Any-way,he wants to get together again and he says he wants to hold me and tell me how he feels about me. I tried to explain to him that I do not know him well enough yet and I am curious as to why he is rushing this. I have only seen him a couple of times,I am divorced for four years,he is separated for only six months,he says he and his wife haven't gotton along for years.I need some advice,am I heading in the wrong direction or am I being overly cautious. Have been out of the dating scene for a while.
2007-12-05 00:46:16 · 8 answers · asked by deborah h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No I think you are fine, he's the one moving too fast. Continue to take things slow and get to know him before making the next move.
2007-12-05 00:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check the ring finger for white mark.Do some research before you let the stranger "hold " you. Him being in a "rush to hold you? What's that all about?
He could be a serial killer for all you know. How do you know he's left his wife? Are there no men you can meet other than on the internet where your leaving your self wide open to perverts and monsters? I bet Jeffery Darma had a computer too. It's too risky to have so much faith in a stranger you met on the internet.
All your female warning signs are on full alert otherwise you wouldn't be asking this question.
Stay clear of this guy.
You can also request a police report on.
2007-12-05 08:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by gone! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be rushing you too much. Tell him, you need to get to know him first, before you can further. Maybe because he just got divorced and is not comfortable with being alone again and would like to rush into another relationship. You should tell him, it's going too fast and if he wants to build a relationship with you, he has to take it slow. Good luck!
2007-12-05 08:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by tramimaus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a wrong vibes on this..dont be run over by these actions...and worst be gullible...just take it easy and slowly, observe the guy more, the way he presents himself to you, the way he thinks and at least somehow you can perceive his intentions or if he has ulterior motives..give yourself a space and assess the situation more.........test him the way you like but not exactly doubt him , and if you really want this relationship then let time work on it..not in anyway you hurry,,it might only disappoint you ok?
2007-12-05 08:55:46 · answer #4 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to slow down, do not worry if he likes you he won't rush after that. Meanwhile met him somewhere and try to get to know him!
2007-12-05 08:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by Stefo3008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you keeping your eye's open in this. It do seem as thought he is rushing this, you need to tell him before anything else might happen.
2007-12-05 08:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by G4L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a man truly cares about you , he will not rush things. he will
let you go at your own pace.
2007-12-05 08:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should let him ''hold you'' just yet Cu's you hardly know this guy get to know him more and then let him ''hold you''
2007-12-05 08:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋