whay am i like this with my parents?

Question

okay my parents and I do not have a great relationship.
mom-we joke around and laugh but 5 min later were arguing about something and this is everyday. and i talk back and everything because i just get soo pissed all the time.


dad- no relationship what so ever. i don't even try to please him because i don't care. He's been gone away with his job every week and doesnt come home till the weekends (since i was 4)
but when ever he tells me to do something i will do it then and there, but it wouldnt have happend so quickly with my mom. (im most likely afraid he'll hit me)

I'm not sure what to do i try to be this down to earth person and I am. I treat people with so much respect, im smart in school, i don't get into trouble, and im very spritual. what more can you ask for. but yeah there is more. Respecting your parents. I try to do that I REALLY do but it just does not work out. I'm not sure what my problem is or how to fix it but i need to do it fast before I get in "trouble". HELP?

Answer 1

This is what I think. I'm 17 and the same **** happens to me with my parents. The reason I get in arguments with my mom is just because if she shows me respect then I will show her respect. If my mom doesnt show me proper respect than she is not going to get any. And as for your dad hitting you, I dont know how old you are and how big he is but honestly I would just hit your dad back or at least tell someone about it because no matter if your a child or some other relation no one deserves to get hit.

Answer 2

Your problem is that you are a teenager. Fear that you are like your parents will drive you to do just what you are doing. It will take you a while to figure out that you aren't them, aren't going to become them, but actually that wouldn't be so bad because they are actually good people. They must be doing something right, they had you, a smart, down to earth, spiritual kid.

Look at things from your dad's point of view. To support you, to give you the things you have and the life you live, he had to sacrifice being at home with his family during the week. Your mom made that sacrifice too, she has had to be the one taking care of things. I don't know why they made this choice, but let's assume the job market forced him to do this.

You are fighting with your mom because she's safe. You are growing up, and as nice as you are in school, at home you get to deal with all that confusing stuff going on inside you right now. Your mom is literally seeing her baby boy become a man before her eyes, and let me tell you, its the hardest part of parenting. No one tells you how to gradually seperate from your child as they grow into an adult. Its a very delicate dance of not to much but just enough.

My guess is that you do love and respect your parents, but you are in the phase where you have realized they are people and people are not perfect. Little children idolize their parents, and I think if you look back, you will see just a few short years ago, you did. You will again, but you might have to grow up alittle more.

Make the assumption that what they are telling you is in your best interest and try to simply do what they ask you to do. You won't get into "trouble", you're a good kid.

Answer 3

Sounds like the house I grew up in!
My mom hit then asked questions. My dad wasn't home much
He worked construction so where ever the job was he went.
My advice to you is,,, don't argue with your Mom, keep doing what your dad asks of you.
I don't know how old you are but when ready to be one your own go for it!
For what ever reason your being prepared for what ever is out there.
You all ready have coping skills, you have learned to respect others even when they have done you wrong.
keep in mind everything for a reason and a lesson learned!
You won't get into trouble if you haven't been all ready.
just please keep your head up high and ask what you need to learn from all of this.

Answer 4

We all need to know the difference between the things we can change and the things we can't. This is not just so that we can be spared unnecessary angst; there is a practical purpose. If we use up our vital time and energy pursuing impossible objectives, we will end up wasting the resources that might otherwise have been put to a truly constructive use. One of your current problems will sort itself out in time. The other sorely requires effort right now. Find the courage to make the right choice.
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Answer 5

I would start keeping a journal of your feelings and end by adding three things that you are grateful for from your parents, family, life, and/or lifestyle. It will help you to appreciate the things that you do have and what your parents provide for you. I think you would benefit from talking to your mom, after you've gotten everything down, (your feelings) on paper. Tell her that you don't want to disrespect her, that you appreciate her but this is what you're feeling and your don't like feeling this way. Best of luck

Answer 6

love them, they raised u with all their money, they gave u love, and take this 4rm me bro no1 ever in this world will love u the way ur mom loves u. there r alot of kids whom where thrown out when they are as young as 5 yrs, but ur lucky ur dad went 2 do job so dat he can bring money for u 2 eat well and study well, ur mom cooks does ur bed myb, they buy u everythng u want, try goin away for a week n take a look at the real world am sure u'll love ur parents more.

Answer 7

you sound a lot like me.
i only live with my dad and its like I'm walking on egg shells.
lately i have learned to bite my tongue and i just go to my room and talk under my breath.
i also tend to write everything down. it helps you should give it a go.

Answer 8

May-B u want attention
May-B u resent them for wut they did n the past
May-B if ur a teen then all teens have a resentment of their parents
May-B u should talk 2 them
May-B thats how they were raised and they are raisning u the same way