it seems, that evrything is just turning against me, no matter how hard i try, and everytime i am happy it just gets taken away from me and replaced with something more hurtfull, i just want to just for once not have to fight for everything, i just want to not have the responsibility for once, i want someone to care about me and think about me, instead of it always being vice versa
i feel like i am having a mental breakdown, i feel trappd and i want to break free. and yes i know i am selfish and self centered for thinking like this, guess ill get punished for this too. none of my friends are true friends they just want to use me and all i do is give and give and i just want a friend in return
i live in a very small town, so i cant make friends, boys are only intrested in me for a while, then they just hate me. i dont want to go on with this life of mine, i want to escape and get away, but i cant because i have to look after everybody else and no one else even notices me ever
2007-12-04 23:59:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You need to start putting yourself and your needs first. By always doing for others and neglecting ourselves we become jaded. Find something that you enjoy doing and do it. Don't worry what others will say. Because they will start whinning and complaining when you are not readily accessable to them and their needs. You are not being selfish your friends are. Learn the word NO. It is the hardest two letter word for anyone to say. I know I have the same problem. You feel guilty if you don't do for others and then when you do and it harms you in someway you get mad at yourself because you didn't think about what you needed. You say you live in a small town are there other towns close by. Try exploring them. Try exploring your own town. You will be amazed at all the things that you discover that you didn't know about before. Good luck to you.
2007-12-05 00:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, isn't it? I don't know your situation but I know there have been times in my life where I felt like the whole world just piled on top of me. It's hard to help much here in this little word box but let me offer some thoughts. First, we know and appreciate happiness by all the hard things that come at us. No, this doesn't mean we should go looking for or just "take" the hard things but helps give perspective. Second, find time for yourself. May be easier said than done but make the effort. Third, find someone trusted to talk to. Not just a friend your age, but a counselor, your minister, or an older woman from church. Finally, don't forget Jesus. Say a prayer when you feel down even if it is just, "Jesus, help me." I'll be praying for you and I hope you can find someone there to talk to and also to help spread your burdens. PS I don't think the boys hate you. Don't give into them physically. If they are only interested for a while and then not, they are not worth your time.
2007-12-05 00:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by drele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find new things in your life that make you happy. screw boys if they only are interested in you for a while. get into music or sports or something else to fill the void in your life. and you need to live for you, not anybody else. this is your life, not anyone elses. i don't know how old you are but it sounds like you might be in high school. just get through that what ever it takes b/c once your out of there, i promise things change and usually get better!!! people quit worrying about what everyone thinks about them, you have independence and freedom to go where you want. friends become cooler b/c they realize what friendship is really about... hang in there!! go find a new hobby!! fill your time, not being active helps contribute to depression...
2007-12-05 00:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by bobowness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all go through a stage like this where we all feel lonely and hated,you just gotto keep walking and go through life,cause life is not perfect it does have its up and downs,and there are some consequences you will suffer but that's whats great about it cause it makes us searching and wanting for more.
2007-12-05 03:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your LIFE "IS" just Life. The problems are what you are "thinking" about the Life...
Peace and Blessings...
2007-12-05 00:06:16 · answer #5 · answered by Premaholic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋