Do u think that a lot of fraud person and even made-up-families are sitting on the net for marraige?

Question

Things that are told prior to marraiges are generally found to be fake and untrue.
They are sort of ppl who love only money and may harm physically/mentally bride later.

Answer 1

On 22 April 2004, after knowing him for 4 years, and having numerous conversations with his parents and brother, I travelled to India and married Dhiraj. I returned, after 4 days of marriage, to file for his green card.

After only 1 month of marriage, he began to say things to me, either online or in phone conversations, that lead me to believe that he was seeing someone else.

After 4 months of marriage, he falsely accused me of cheating on him and said we were through. Not knowing what else to do, I called his father in India. My father-in-law was very understanding and spoke with my husband. I thought that things were going to work out, but he erupted again. When I called his father again, his father began to ask me questions about myself. I was shocked, as after our marriage, Dhiraj had informed me that he had lied to his parents about me so that they would accept me as their daughter-in-law. Accept me, they did. His mother and his brother signed as witnesses when we registered our marriage. However, only a few minutes before I called his father, Dhiraj had told me that he had come clean with his parents. I thought this was another in a long line of lies that he'd been telling me, but when his father began to question me about my divorce, my age, my children and their ages, I thought perhaps Dhiraj was finally turning over a new leaf.

I was wrong! Not only had Dhiraj lid to them, but he never told them the truth. The truth came from me and I have no doubt that he has been lying to them and has told them that he wasn't aware of my details until the day we registered the marriage.

This man has subjected me to extreme mental and emotional torture. He has made promises that he never intended to keep, and he has ruined my family life and my finances. I have been living in poverty in the US, foregoing and government financial assistance because I didn't want to jeopardize his green card status. On top of all of this, he had the nerve to tell me, "I'm in financial trouble here. If you were a good wife, you would be sending me money."

In nutshell, here's an excerpt from my orkut page:



about me:

"Married to Dhiraj Sharma. He works at ITC Infotech, Bangalore. I'm living and working in the US waiting for him to join me here."

I wrote those first 2 sentences more than 6 months ago. Since then, I've spent everything I had to spent a month in India with my husband. Instead of reconnecting with the one person in this world who means most to me, I found myself alone in a strange city, abandonded by my husband who chose to retreat to Delhi and refuse to answer his cell. I went to my husband's residence, only to be told by his landlord, that since November 2005, he's had a woman staying with him that he says is his wife and that he had taken her to Delhi for the holidays. After returning to stay with a family in Pune, I came to know that my husband had been calling the relatives of my friends and their company investors and maligning my character.

So you see, it doesn't matter how good your character is, doesn't matter how high your moral standard is, doesn't matter how intelligent or talented you are... if you marry someone who is an insecure, lying, thieving, self centered, egotistical, adulterous sadist, you have just entrusted your life to someone whose primary goal in life is your destruction. And "Why", you might ask? Because it's the only way for him to feel powerful and superior. Misery loves company. He appearently loathes himself so much that he prefers to call a prostiture his wife instead of the woman his mother approved of and signed as a witness for him to take as his wife. My misery is his happiness. Go figure.

After my trip to Bangalore, I procured a copy of my marriage memorandum. I'm not a hindu, never have been, but the affidavit that I signed that states I was born a Christian, now has the blanks filled in that say "I converted of my own sweet will as I am marrying a hindu boy". There is an affidavit signed by a priest that I have never seen, much less met, stating that he officiated at our marriage vows; vows, I might add, that were never taken.

So I have no marriage, no husband, no money, no dignity, and no life. THIS MAN IS A FRAUD! To add insult to injury, he filed a divorce complaint on a fake marriage, 4 months after he married his Mauritius prostitute! Because of this MONSTER, not only have I had to file for bankruptcy, and have suffered severe mental, physical and emotional problems, but I can't even remarry in the US! Although my marriage is invalid, I used the marriage certificate to change my surname. Without a court order, declaring my marriage void, I can't remarry. The only court with jurisdiction over this "sham marriage" is the family court in Pune.

I can only hope that I live to see the day when that man has suffered for all his lies and the suffereing he has caused. I have no doubt that I will be but one among a growing throng of others that have been praying diligently for that same event.

Answer 2

Family means the world to me. The day I said "I do", I knew I had a different responsibility in my life. When I chose to become pregnant, I knew I had a big responsibility on my plate, more than being married. I found out it was a little girl. My whole world changed. I was so excited. Little girl things were being bought left and right. In 2009 I went into labor. It hurt so badly. When my little girl came out it was the best feeling I've ever had. Kadence Isabella I said to her, welcome to the world. She changed my world for the better. In 2010 I became pregnant again with twin girls. Once again 2 weeks ago they changed my world for the better. I couldn't ask for a better life. I look and my wonderful hubby and three babies and am blessed everyday! I may be 26 and even though I'm young, I see what life is meant to be! :) I could not be happier. I will try for more children, for a boy. But as long as my babies are healthy and well taken care of, that's all that matters. My three babies come first in my life now. My husband as well. All 5 of us have a healthy relationship and love each other with all our heart. <3

Answer 3

I absolutely agree with you. Lots of people come onto the net for friendship and perhaps marriage and end up being defrauded out of their hard earned cash. 'NOT ALL' are cunning and vindictive.

I too have struck up a friendship, unaware of a certain scrupulous individual I met on the net, and eventually met in India who promised to show me around India, only to find that I was taken for a 100 000 rupee ride and I was left in the lurch.

Well that was a learning experience for me. I dont regret it as it was my fault. I trusted this 'so called friend' as many other women do trust men with friendship at any level. Not all guys are that way. We just have to be aware of these bad elements and be vigilant with regards to our safety.

I love India too much to allow a silly thing like that get me down. Mistakes are to be learned from, not regretted. At times we are just plain gullible.

Answer 4

Well to think about it, if there is frauds happening face to face searching for partners then internet is nothing, and major disadvantage of net marriage is you can protray anything and everything you like and dislike and there wouldnt be so much of an inquiry done. Cant understand how they are running successfully I mean the marriage portals, or either it is one of their marketing Strategy of false fallacies. Anyways we should be aware of such kind of mishaps and prevent from falling into such traps, especially the people who go for arrange marriage.

Answer 5

This is a thought provoking question & it should be read & replied by most of the people who visit yahoo answers. I fully agree with you as during the last one year in yahoo answers I have come across many people who got married & later found a big fraud has been committed by the person whom he or she married. The fraud at the time of marriage was hiding the previous marriage, sexual affairs, prior marriage pregnancy, unemployment or declaring wrong income or job profile, impotency, & other like personal information’s which were found to be incorrect after the marriage. A biggest fraud which I found in this was with regard to Indian Hindu men getting married to Foreigner Christian women in many cases, through Hindu form of marriage, without converting the women to Hinduism, thus committing absolutely void or void abnito marriage, in many of such cases it was found that these guys even procured marriage certificate from the office of the marriage registrar by giving wrong affidavit regarding the conversion ceremonies of the non Hindu women, regarding which these women were not even told, but only after coming in contact with me & other lawyers/advocates this thing came in picture regarding which these poor women were not even aware what all fraudulent marriage took place between them & these Indian guys. These fraudulent men had definitely knew that any such marriage between them & the foreigner non Hindu women could be solemnized under the provisions of the Special Marriage Act,1954 in India & under the Foreign Marriage Act,1969 in an foreign country but in order to cheat these foreigner women they purposely did not go through proper legal marriage, just for the sake of avoiding any matrimonial dispute in future such as maitenance/alimony/inheritence etc & just to defeat their legal claim against them. What you will call all this? These people who are crazy for net friendship & love affairs ultimately suffer just because they are attracted by the sweet worded emails & messages from such rascals without knowing the reality about them. I personally feel very bad when some India do so with a foreigner as being an Indian it’s a thing of shame for me that my brother countryman is cheating an outsider. Lily S is here & told her story in details, she is one of those few cheated foreigner ladies about whom I was referring above.

Answer 6

Yeah you are right there are lots of them on Net who are upto doing these type of things. If you are on to search on the net be most cautious to do so. Try to verify all the facts before acting upon anything.

Answer 7

If your question concerns India, then I agree with you.
Many of them , who are seeking brides , through advts
are frauds

Answer 8

I hope not.

But it does give some scrupulous people an opportunity.

Answer 9

yes u may be right.
according to servery there are lot of people who is registered there name for fun.

Answer 10

*Yes, u r right !!!
We have to be really cautious in these things !!
o/wise its a case of ''marry in haste & repent at leisure " !!!