Can someone please help me understand why after a six year relationship my fiancee tells me he does'nt love me in that way anymore and he cant tell me why. we have a son together he is 4... I just don't understand how after so many years he tells me now that his feelings have changed and he cant tell me why they have changed all he says is "i don't know" and that he is sorry i cant get any answers out of him... is there anyone out there that can perhaps just explain how a man can just fall out of love... oh and he says its not another woman.. i really dont know what to do i feel all empty inside im just numb......
2007-12-04 21:05:12 · 7 answers · asked by Jullie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you mean he is ending the relationship because he says he doesn't love you any more, or is he happy to stay in the relationship but he feels less 'in love' than he used to? If it's the first, that's sad and I'm sorry he's ended it. If it's the latter, that is fairly normal. As time goes on, people tend to feel more like good friends and less like lovers. That is still a valid relationship though, and most people are in the same situation after being in a relationship for a few years.
Best of luck, either way.
2007-12-04 22:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear he is lying to u I am sure he defiantly got someone.But u can't just leave this matter tell him how serious it is.You have got to be very vise as u have got a son togather how can he say he doesn't love u anymore.What u should do if he doesn't want to tell u the truth keep an aye on him or involve some family members I hope the truth will be in front of Ur eyes in some days.U can't just let it go so good luck.
2007-12-04 21:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by neeli d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feelings do change it can't be helped but usually a reason. Like maybe it wasn't love in the first place but sex. Count your blessing i know of people who was married for 40 yrs. Spouse said i don't love you any more and walked out. Though it would be devestating life goes on. You can't force someone to love you. life is way too short! There is someone out there who will love you and your child. You will be happier than you have been in a long time. Don't think sex is love wait awhile,truely know the next person, and you will wonder what you saw in this guy. You don't want someone who doesn't want you.It is not your fault.people do change consider your self lucky you got out before you had a passle of kids to raise. Your child will always love and want you what more can you ask for. Men are a dime a dozen out there. Some one who is right for you.Someone who will make you forget this guys name.
2007-12-04 22:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by adairangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason that I can think of that he knows his feelings have changed is that he has either become involved with another woman, or he is having feelings for another woman. He says "I don't know" so that he can spare your feelings.
Think over the past year of your relationship and try to determine what has been going on in both of your lives. I'm sure you can put the pieces of the puzzle together by that type of evaluation.
Sometimes, we become complacent in our relationships when instead, they need constant nourishing.
2007-12-04 22:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by ptruelove01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In life your state-of-mind or your feelings are not always same. No opinion is permanent.
You need not panic. Maybe he is bored with his same old routined life.
You have to find out time and go on a holiday and spend some time with each other.
Your love for him matters the most.
It may sound filmy but if your love for him is true then you will certainly get back your good old days.
2007-12-04 21:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by einstein 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he is seeing someone else, and is denying it, or he has put off breaking up for a long time, for some reason.
I was with mine for 12 years when I decided it was over. I knew it was the end for several years, but I kept hoping things would get better. He lead me to believe for years that he was a different person. I woke up one day, and realized that I was in bed with a stranger.
2007-12-04 21:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey... its sad to know wat you are going through. u guys shodnt have waited for 6 years its a bit too long, pliz remind this guy of the 1st time u met and wat brought that spark between you 2..if u do pliz settle dwn. i think your relationship is missing a spark
2007-12-04 22:40:40 · answer #7 · answered by MBALOSE N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋