IF you have a nephew or a niece that have been neglected because of a parent in need to sort out their finance?
I think she cares about her kids and she loves them to bits, she started a full time job recently and her priorities are muddled up and I don't want to be the person to say that. She ended up leaving her kids home alone (2 of them under 11) sometimes without food when she has to go to work. She clearly needs help but she takes advantage to people who helps her! I just want to help out without hurting her feelings or ego or anything for that matter but at the same time I don't want to help more so she can take advantage of me being helpful. I myself work full time and I have 3 kids. I love my nephews and I don't want them to end up with no parents at all. My brother already left them for another woman and settled out of the country. Please help me help my nephews....thanks!
Only genuine answers please.
2007-12-04 20:15:25 · 9 answers · asked by mum who cares 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sometimes being firm helps, you can be firm and tell her that she needs to get her priorities in order without being nasty.
now that she has a fulltime job, surely she can afford take them to daycare...
2007-12-04 20:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do. You could however have her kids on days you are home with your kids. I mean invite them over to have fun. Don't treat it as babysitting, more as just a family visit. Do you live close enough where the boys who want to can just stop by when you are home? At least there is someone with them some of the time.
Your brother has made a mistake by leaving boys with a single mother. It is he you should scold deeply, not this woman. If you scold her, you may loose all contact with the boys, and that will make the situation even worse.
2007-12-04 20:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by Alea S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 options - you either tell her she needs to put the kids in a day-care while she works or you can report her to child services but then - weigh your options properly. Kids these age are not supposed to be left alone in the house with no adult supervision. What if something happens? Also, does she have other relatives who can probably stay home with the kids while she works? A babysitter perhaps?
2007-12-04 20:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to talk to her and let her know your concerns as a mother. im sure she doesnt see it the way you do, she is probably feeling very emotional right now as her partner has left her. maybe all she needs is someone to talk to and make her wake up and smell the coffee. her children need her more than ever she has to realise this. until then all you can do is try and help out as much as possible with the kids until she gets back on her feet. is there any way of contacting your brother to come and help out or is that not possible now? im sure things will get better as time goes by. good luck.
2007-12-05 06:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by * Mummy to 2 Girls * 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how you appraoch the situation, someone will get hurt or be offended or both.Take it from a legal point and start there. She might hate you for it, but you have the kids' best interests at heart. Legal help is your best option to ensure that your nephews are properly looked after.
2007-12-04 20:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go round to her house and tell her what you,ve told us, then try & find some childcare & some budgeting advice with her not for her, the citizens advice might be a good place to start, if you leave things as they are sooner or later she will be reported for neglect the kids could go into care & she could even be send to prison as it,s a criminal offense to leave kids home alone for whatever reason, if you care get in touch with her asap as I don,t think she has any friends or someone would,ve already told her don,t wait until it,s to late or you might just kick yourself
2007-12-04 22:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt had kids under those circumstances- they were 'loaned' to my other aunt.
We bought the necessities for her- lights, towels, toiletries-but nothing she didn't need.
Now, both the kids are 18+ and living happily alone. Their mom still visits.
2007-12-04 20:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to your sister-in-law. Tell her she needs help but that if she leaves the children alone you will report her,
The NSPCC will help now....so will the Social Services
2007-12-05 03:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I would make her aware.
When her kids are elder, they won't be in proper mood and scenses.
They'll feel lonely for ever.
2007-12-04 20:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by ایلیا 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋