Visiting new mom?? Please help...new moms especially?

Question

My sister just had a baby yesterday, she'll be getting out of the hospital tomorrow morning. I spent a few hours last night and a few hours today there with her, mostly while her b/f was home showering and eating, but I'm just wondering how often or how long I should wait before visiting her at home. We usually spend 2-3 nights a week together, but I know with a new baby she will be pretty busy, and have a lot of people visiting her all day, so I don't really want to be in the way, but I would still like to be able to spend time with her (we're very close). Any suggestions on this would be very helpful.

Answer 1

Actually when you're a new mother the visitor's that come to give you a break so you can nap or sleep are the best kind.She'll probably need you those few days so go on over and visit with her...After a baby hormones go crazy so you may may be more needed than you think...

Hope That Helps,
M.G

Answer 2

I would suggest you give her a call in advance and ask her if she'd like some company. I'm a new mother and I can tell you honestly I wish I had a sister I was close to that could have helped me in those first couple of months. Now when everything is so new is definetly the time to go visit because she needs someone she trusts to talk to and help out. As far as how long to stay that is kinda hard say but you know your sister. If she looks tired then get outta there so she can get some rest. The fact that she's gonig to be busy is all the more reason to go see her. I'm sure she'd love the company of someone who can give her even the smallest of breaks and I know for me all I wanted was just a little bit of normalcy in my life. If you guys are close I would suggest just talking to her and I'm sure she'll give you all the answers you need.

Answer 3

Since you are very close you shouldn't feel awkward about opening up this question to her personally.

Every person is different, I know I needed the help. But if she is breastfeeding it might be different. I stayed home alone all the time because I didn't want anyone to witness it. That and they eat more frequently with breast feedings and sometimes for several hours, especially in the beginning. They got to work at increasing the supply.

That and she will probably be an angry zombie for a while from lack of sleep. You could always ask her if you could help her out by watching her baby so she can take naps and showers. I'm sure she wouldn't mind that at all.

Answer 4

Call her and see. If a lot of people plan to visit her over the first few days at home, you might want to stay away until things die down. It can be overwhelming to deal with a lot of visitors and a new baby.

Since you're very close, she'll probably appreciate your companionship, especially once her b/f goes back to work and she's on her own with the baby. Drop off a meal, offer to sit with the baby while she takes a shower, etc. It can be very lonely to be a new mom, and it is so nice to have someone to talk to and hang out with.

Enjoy your new niece or nephew - your sister is lucky that you are so considerate!

Answer 5

Newborn twins = Zero personal time. At all. And she probably won't have any time or energy to do anything until the twins start sleeping more and entertaining themselves, which will be at about 1 year. If you really want to help your friend out and spend some time with her, you are going to have to go over to her house and help take care of babies. This actually can be kind of fun and might be a learning experience for you. And I'm sure your friend would appreciate the help.

Answer 6

Hi there

I would ask your sister - if you are close; she will hopfully be able to let you know..I found I loved having close friends and relatives round; as they were the ones that could really help - make the tea; clear up; wash the dishes etc - whilst I could get on with the important thing which was holding and caring for my baby...

Congratulatons on being an Auntie - enjoy....

Answer 7

I dont think you will be in the way,I have children & believe me a new mother could use all the help she can get with a newborn in the house .She might be exhausted & it will take time for her to recover from giving birth,offer to help her out around the house or with the baby when you visit and I dont think she will mind you visiting.

Answer 8

you're very considerate for thinking of her and not wanting to overwelm her with visitors. I would ask her to call you, let you know when she wants you to come over. I'm sure that she would appreciate a nap while you can look after your neice or nephew, go grocery shopping, make dinner, do the laundry, bake cookies for all the visitors she's having, etc.

Answer 9

Cos you guys are so close, just ask!! My best friend came over a fair bit once i left hospital, but she was so sweet, doing little things for me around the house like cooking tea, washing clothes and hanging them out, etc so my partner and i could spend time bonding with bub - seriously, if she does want you to visit, help her out with the housework - i couldnt believe how much i appreciated it!! But yeah, just ask. And i would say to her upfront as well, if she wants you to leave just to tell you, just so its not uncomfortable for her to ask you to go if she wants.

Answer 10

as long as your not there just sitting down drinking tea, but there to give her a hand then as much as you like!

ive got 3 sisters, they came alot when my babies were newborn, but they helped fold my clothes, start dinner cooking, wash dishes, ect

i hated when people just came to sit and talk,,,, you have no time for that many times a week, lifes busy with a newborn, plus when the babies asleep its nice to just go to bed and have a rest, but having visitors its hard to do that

just ask your sis, everybodies different, im sure shed love having you around, xxxxxxx