I have to work more than 8 hours a day to suffice my baby's needs. I have a nanny who takes care of my 2-month-old while I'm not home. When I do get home, my baby's fast asleep. During the daytime though, I try to make the most of my time with my little one. However, she most of the time cries a lot as I carry her and only her nanny can calm her. I feel like the nanny's has become the mom and I am otherwise. I feel terrible. What should I do?
2007-12-04 16:51:33 · 10 answers · asked by Hunny 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My grandma used to take care of my daughter since she was 6 months old. So my baby girl was attached to grandma more than to me. My grandma left us to go back home when my daughter was only 19 months old. I bonded with my daughter very quickly that time. Once baby reaches certain age, she will know her mom. Eventually there will be time when you will spend time with your baby than the nanny. When this happens, your baby will bond with you more. I think baby at this age still can't understand where is mommy and where is nanny. Just be patient. And Congratulations.
2007-12-04 17:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by Irene C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that easy to just quit your job and find one that "fits" your schedule. I would ask the nanny what she does to calm her, maybe the baby senses your tension and the nanny is more relaxed. How much are you spending on a nanny? You could probably send her to a state funded daycare that costs a lot less and work a lot less hours. If you have to work full time to offset the expenses you could probably get funding from the state, i.e., food stamps and wic to help. It also sounds like you might work a night job? You really need the nights and mornings with your baby. Can you change shifts? You must think of your baby's and your well being.
2007-12-04 17:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by DeAnna C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children and family come first. If you are not comfortable, get rid of her. She's pushing the boundaries, BIG TIME. Everything you've written is so, so wrong. Fire her, get a new nanny before the kids become even more attached. Weight it up, she maybe a great nanny, there are also other great ones out there. I would have got rid of her soon as I heard her say to my kids "call me mommy'. * The longer you leave it the harder it will be to get rid of her, and the more obsessed she will get* Go by your gut instinct...get rid of her.
2016-05-28 06:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to spend more time with her. If you are away a lot she then associates nanny with mom because the nanny is there all the time. So you need to spend more time with her so she can associate mom with mom and nanny with nanny and not mix them up. I imagine that you would feel terribly in that situation.
2007-12-04 17:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try to do some kind of schedule changes or maybe a different job so that you can spend more time with your baby. I'm sure that might be hard but I just know I would personally feel horrible if I was in your situation. Just try to make the absolute most of your time with your baby.
2007-12-04 17:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start spending more time with your daughter. Because you are away from her so much she bonded with the nanny because the nanny has been her main caregiver.
2007-12-04 16:54:54 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Informed 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you need to spend more time with her.you need to tell the nanny that she shouldn't be holding her to much and that she needs not do everything leave some things for you to do like give her a bath or feed her more small things.
2007-12-04 17:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by moonstone2009 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try finding a job that is willing to work with you... I did just that and just working weekends with my job and it works out perfect b.c im home with him all week and my husband takes care of him while im working...I was afraid of the same thing... that if i left my son with some one he would come attached and not recongnize me as his mommy... try spending more time with her and talking to your boss...good luck..
2007-12-04 17:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by ~Ashley~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would find a job that you don't have to work so much, bonding with your child depends on it. It is allready taking it's toll.
2007-12-04 16:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by Christie R 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
find A different job... your child is more important than anything!!!!
2007-12-04 17:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋