Hes negative all the time and no matter what i do hes always pessimistic and mad. Hes angry at the world and he always keeps things to himself. He also suffers from paranoia.WHAT DO I DO>?
2007-12-04 16:44:28 · 10 answers · asked by DEE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate to bust your bubble, but you can't really do anything......that would be like trying to make an alcoholic get help...it just dones't work that way.
You can express to him how his negativity is affecting you and see if he's willing to: a) recognize that he is a negative person and b) do somtehing about it.
Other than that, you can't MAKE him do anything he doesn't want or think he needs to do.
Has he always been this way? If no, then when did it start....what things might be causing it?
Good luck!
2007-12-04 16:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by Dorigurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you cannot do anything to help your husband-as much as you'd like to.
If your husband is not seeing a counselor, you should encourage him to seek some counseling and get a prescription for appropriate medication. This is not something that he, you or the both of you can handle without any professional help. Try to find a support group to attend; seek some counseling from your minister.
Finally, you will have to ask yourself if you are going to be happy living the rest of your life like you are living now. Your first priority should be your mental health (or your kids if you have any that live in the household).
Good luck!
2007-12-05 01:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by Susan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't solve it, only he can. first he has to recognize the problem, accept it, and want to resolve it for himself. no amount of nagging or prodding or poking is going to do anything unless he sees how it is damaging to your relationship and if he loves you enough to not want to lose you, maybe he will take you up on your suggestion that he get some assistance. in the meantime, you should seek out therapy even if he doesn't because i am sure this is having a negative impact on you. he just may have a mental illness that can be treated with talk and/or drug therapy. it will make such a difference. unfortunately many, especially men, view mental illness as taboo and don't want to admit to it, let alone seek treatment for it. but look at the misery it causes. suggest he get some help. he might not listen, but the least you can do is strengthen yourself by getting some help in dealing with it. i wish you both the best
2007-12-05 00:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by thecatmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you do but to be there for him? Some people are just like that, did he have a rough past? Thats probably why. Its really hard when your partner is like this. But if you love him stick by his side till' you can't no more. Ask him whats wrong, ask him what you can do to help him out. Tell him to be more open w/ you or the relationship will start too fall apart. Tell him to tell you how he feels. And to stop being so negative b/c it stresses and hurts you. Tell him to do it for himself and most importantly YOU.
You know if he doesn't stop its going to push you away..
*Tell him how you feel....
And if it doesn't work follow your heart..
He needs help**
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2007-12-05 00:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what was so great about him that you married him? try to find that again., why is he angry? is it something he can control? does he drink, smoke, do any kind of drug? if the answer to that question in any way is yes you have part of your answer cause those things change peoples moods. try making more nutritious meals, high protein and vitamins also control and help moods. read on the internet about his symptoms and see if you can develop more info about what you observe. the things you wrote can possibly also indicate mental illness. have you brought this up with his doctor?.
2007-12-05 00:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by jaded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have problems that cannot be resolved without professional help. If you can't convince him to open-up to you, encourage him to seek expert help..
2007-12-05 00:51:33 · answer #6 · answered by Joan J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the one who lives with him. If you don't know how to deal with him. How can an outsider know?. Y/A people don't live or sleep with you guys.
2007-12-05 00:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by Dongfeng!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage him to seek counseling.
2007-12-05 00:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to get him to see a doctor to start with.
2007-12-05 00:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by little j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
flush his drugs.
2007-12-05 00:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by jezbnme 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋