Should we be strict or very lenient or somewhere in the middle?
to raise our kids as a perfect,responsible citizen?
2007-12-04 16:05:03 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I agree with you that nobody should try to be a perfectionist nor compel their children to be the same.kudos!
2007-12-04 16:08:33 · update #1
Spicy thats a wondeful insight! you just gave me.Wonderful!!
2007-12-04 16:11:15 · update #2
Somewhere in the middle. Its hard being a parent, you'll find that you are learning how to be a parent as you are teaching them how to be responsible individuals.
You have to be strict on certain issues--unbendable, to things that will harm them. However, you cant OVER-protect them, because they'll be miserable and naive. They have to learn somethings for themselves. You cant shelter them because you want them to be socially balanced. However you cant let them run wild because you dont want them to be menaces to society. You want them to feel comfortable enough where they can talk to you but not so comfortable that they disrespect your authority. So a nice balance between lenient and strict is the way to go.
2007-12-04 16:10:56 · answer #1 · answered by Beautiful Soul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strict as possible!!! Please note that Im only 20, and i have no kids of my own yet.
But today kids are getting WAY out of line at a very early age. They talk about things, and do things they should no be doing. THats why society is going down hill. And what better to provoke the weak minds of everyday adolescences by showing them programs on MTV which only let them know that their behavior is "cool". With todays "hip" music only promote sex and violence at an early age, so kids think that this is how the world operates, but sadly they r too ingornat to think right from wrong. Always put fear into their hearts, always let them know that you have total control and power and then you will have your perfect child.
2007-12-05 00:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Strict, but only to the point of setting boundaries and expectations for behavior. And enforcing consequences for failing to live up to those expectations. Being strict for the sake of being strict will often lead to rebellion. Kids need to understand not only what is expected of them, but WHY it is expected.
A good parent will also teach their kids morality, tolerance, kindness, ethics, the value of hard work, and the value of education (whether formal or through experience).
A good parent will give their child every opportunity within their means to succeed, but will also teach that success should not come at all costs.
Lastly, a good parent will give their child room to become their own person. To discover their own way in the world, while helping them to reach their goals.
2007-12-05 00:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by Justin H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For some of them the tough love approach is good - if they haven't strayed too far off course. For others, the time is long past for parents giving or attempting to give them tough love. Today kids will knock the hell out of their parents if they don't get their way, a lot of them. Some will learn from the system IE: youth centre's and jails as the grow up. Well others will not learn from these experiences and will think of themselves as big time criminals or gangsters as they learn their education from more seasoned criminals. Regardless of my carrying on about these others, I am a strong proponent of the tough love stance if your child respects and/or at times fears your wrath and so obeys what you have delegated. I think you should treat your child with the loving aspects as you should want to, and raise them right so you don't have to worry about those situations
2007-12-05 00:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by SCSA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I raised my kids in the middle and I found I did a pretty decent job with them. They're both on the honor roll, don't get in trouble and don't lie to me!
I let them make some of their own decisions so they can remain autonomous over some things in their life.
And I found that 90% of the time when I let them make their own decision they make the right one!
2007-12-05 00:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
With both hands! Just kidding but I think letting them be independent is important. Give them responsibilities and allowance and also consequences and consistent punishment. Constant hugs and kisses are a must.
2007-12-05 00:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I believe there is no right or wrong way to raise a child as long as your method is in the best interest of the child.
2007-12-05 00:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by fok_eet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to raise kids? One day at a time.
2007-12-05 00:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best is to be a good role model for them. Not to give in to all the toys they want. Not to cuss around and not to show violence.
2007-12-05 00:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
fisrt off dont look for parenting skills on yahoo....seconly dont let your kids talk back. givem a whoopin and if its a girl hold her over the stairs (pretending to drop them down the 25 flight of stairs)and scream YOU WILL LISTEN TO YOUR FATHER !!!! at a small age it looks like the grand canyon. thats what my dad did and i turned out fine
2007-12-05 00:10:29 · answer #10 · answered by Ugandi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋