is it normal to want some attention?

Question

is it normal to want attention from your husband or is that being needy. He thinks all i want is attention if he comes in the house and does not say a word to me. Am i asking too much

thanks everyone for helping me we talked about this subject and i feel we are getting somewhere

Answer 1

No its not being needy. You just want some quality time with your hubby or you just want to feel desired and loved. You are NOT asking too much. Tell him how you feel and try to set aside some time just for the two of you to spend together.

Answer 2

The last thing that my husband does before he leaves in the morning is kiss me good bye. The first thing he does when he comes in is kiss me and then the little one. If he didn't then it would mean we had a huge problem. I probably get 6 hugs on a weekend day. I sometimes when he is busy stand in his path and he says what's the matter and I tell him, I need attention. He freely gives it to me.

We don't cuddle all the time or have an over active sex life but he lets me know with those little bits (kisses/hugs) that he still cares.

It is just plain rude to leave or enter without acknowledging your partner.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Naw... I know what you mean. I am the same way. And, in THEIR eyes, it probably is a little annoying =( I can't help it much, though! lol. He goes on deployments all the time in the Navy and I get upset even when he goes to the store. heh heh. If he is not saying a word to you when he walks in the house, though... you havea right to be upset. It's really important to say hi to eachother after work. Just try to talk to him as gentle as possible. Men tend to get REALLY defensive when confronted with something like this. And once they are too upset, there is no getting into their heads about it.

Answer 4

When a man first comes home from work, he generally needs some time to get over his tiring work day. However, I think it would be nice if he at least said "Hello" to you. I don't think that's a lot to ask. But if you're looking for much more than that, it's not going to come naturally to him. You'll need to give him his space to decompress. And then based on the severity of his day, he'll come around eventually.

Answer 5

No you are not. The challenge is that sometimes men might be thinking that they are doing just that. In actuality women needs are more profound. We men don't get it sometimes. You are not doing anything wrong. relax. Then work on ways to get his attention. A new haircut, different outfit, maybe pampering yourself to a massage, a hobby, a good book. Don't let him think that you are starving for his attention for awhile. Do your own thing. You will notice that he wil begin to pay more attention. Men don't like to feel that there's no more challenge or worries regarding their spouses. We get to comfortable,,,time for a little wake up call,,, :o)

Answer 6

Your husband is married to you, he's supposed to give you attention! You're not asking too much... the two of you need to sit down and compromise about this! Communication is the key to a successful marriage.

Answer 7

Of course it's normal to want some attention....

HOWEVER......when he walks in the door from work, he needs 15-20 minutes to "decompress". Make it clear to him that you understand he needs this time and when he walks in the door, smile, say hi, give him a soft kiss, and ask him if he'd like anything, then LEAVE HIM ALONE. Let him sit down and work the kinks out for a few....

Trust me, this works.

Answer 8

My husband was that way for all of a week. I fixed it by being aggressive. When he comes in, greet him with a kiss, have dinner ready, put on something sexy...anything to get MAKE him pay attention. Do something everyday until it becomes habit. Its sad but sometimes you do have to train your man.

Answer 9

It is normal, you're not asking too much. I would be very hurt if my husband didn't acknowledge me when he walked in the house. Perhaps he just doesn't feel the same but he needs to take your feelings into consideration.

Answer 10

no not at all, its the whole point of the realtionship, to be wanted by the person that loves you, other y eles do u go out or get married? talk to him about it, hes needs to understand where your comin from. maybe theres something that hes not telling you, like a problem at work. sometimes if they arnt givin you attention they are givin someone eles attention, im not sayin he is, but just look at his body lanuage or how he acts around you. im sure ull work it out, every woman is smart, we work these things out. Em xXx