My 10 months baby, just wanna sleep with us?

Question

Is it normal for 10 months babies to want to sleep with u and ur partern. My son would not go to sleep unless he sleeps with us. (once he is deep a sleep i put him back to his crib) How do i make my son sleep in his own crib? sometime he will eat the bottle and fall back to sleep but he wants to hold my hand then he would fall back to sleep! grrrr... Someone help! have u ever experience that before? Any suggestions?!

Answer 1

We went through that with our daughter. I finally got so tired of it. The doctor told us to out her in her crib awake, after a bath and being full, with a stuffed animal or comfort blanket. Put a small night light in there as well. We let her cry for like 20 minutes til she realized we were not coming back. This process takes a week and was the hardest week of my life, but by the third night, she would cry for 5 minutes then just give up. The longer you wait though, the harder it is. But it really works. She is two now and I promise she is not traumatized! lol

Answer 2

well, he is not a new born. so it's ok do show him a little discipline. of course he's still very young and mommy's little boy, but needs to be not spoiled. (lol) i would put him down in his crib an smile very big so that he can see. this will let him know that what he's doing (going to bed) is good and means happiness. next give him a favorite toy, blanket, or bottle and let him have it has you put him to bed. finally, hug him and kiss him and put him in bed. wave to him as you leave and shut the door. now here's where the important part comes. do you still have baby Monitors? or walk-talkies? well, use anything like that and keep it next to his crib. when he starts to cry let him cry for a few minutes. this is very important not to let him get his way, even though that's really hard to do, it's whats best for your baby. after a few minutes of crying start talking into the baby Monitor or walkie-talkie and say something very soothing. such as it's okay baby, or shhh. or even play some music. if he stops crying when you place this for more than 5 minutes. come into his room and hug him and say "good boy" "i love you" good job" things like that. repeat this for a few weeks making the amount of time before you start the walkie-talkie or music and the amount of time before you come in his room and reward longer. good luck

Answer 3

You have taught your son that if he does whatever he is doing, that you will let him sleep with you.

What you should teach him is that no matter what he does, he does not sleep with you. (unless you are tired of your partner and want to mess up that relationship) Put him into his bed. It should be a crib that he cannot escape. When he cries, check his diaper, offer a bottle, then turn out the light and close the door. You will suffer a few miserable, sleepless nights to change his behavior. Then you must NEVER allow him to sleep in your bed again.

Given where you are now, the change will be painful for you and him. If you wait, it will get worse.

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for those telling you to wait for him to decide on his own, you might ask what grade that might be. A friend has an 8 year old that NEVER spends the night in her own bed. No matter how many times she is carried to her own bed, she wakes and returns to mom and dad's bed. They are still waiting for her to decide.

Answer 4

mine was the same way for about 4months. and i had to nurse her for her to go to sleep. Then one day, my husband decided to take things into his own hand. He established bedtime routine that basically consisted of holding her with her favorite blanket and giving her her pacifier. THen he rocked her while he sang. Soon as she got a little drowsy, he put her in her crib and just walked away. she fussed for a little bit, but eventually went to sleep on her own. I didn't even know she could do it! Now, seven months later, we keep the same routine...and the great thing is, no matter where we are, strange hotel or strange homes, as long as we have her blanket and can sing, she goes to sleep. Good luck on finding a sleep routine!

Answer 5

My daughter wanted to sleep with us all the time, too. I didn't mind too much since sleeping with parents is calming for some kids, and there's a lot of research out there now about family beds and such. However, every night all night was not an option for us.

One option for babies is to let him fall asleep in your bed, then move him. He might wake up, but if you keep trying this routine, it might help.

When we first started making my dd sleep in her crib for the start of the night (around 10 months) I sat by the crib until she fell asleep and held her hand for the first few nights. Then I sat a few feet away and so on until after about a week or so I sat outside her door. Then I sat where she couldn't see me, but when she called out I said, "Shh." Then later I just put a little pillow by the door so she could still see "me" by the door for about a week. Then after that she started off in her own bed without a problem.

The good news it that by about 18 months old I got her to sleep in her own bed every night and just kissed her goodnight without any fuss ever. We converted the crib to a toddler bed so she could come to us if she needed us, so that made her less upset about going to bed. We established a good bedtime routine. We allowed her to choose some books to go to bed with so that she has some amusement. (We stopped that after about 4 to 6 months since she was able to go sleep on her own easier by then.) She still comes to our room sometimes at night, but as long as she starts in her own room and stays there for a few hours, I don't mind too much.

I will say it's totally normal for your baby to want to sleep with you. Being all alone can cause him to feel anxious, and being close to you makes him feel safe, secure, and happy. There is also the physical warmth of snuggling up with you and the breathing regularity (babies tend to fall into a similar breathing pattern as mom when sleeping together). So it's very normal, so don't feel pressured if you don't want to change things yet. Just do whatever works best for your family.

Answer 6

grrr? He wants to hold your hand. Enjoy these sweet times with your baby. The time flies.

And Yes, desire to sleep with you is totally normal. It's a survival skill our species developed so our young would be safe from predators, the elements and lonliness. Sleeping near parents help little ones learn to regulate their heartrates, temperature and breathing.

It is sleeping alone and far away in a crib that feels utterly un-natural to your babe

Answer 7

First of all, this is a personal desicion that every parent has to make. You should not feel compelled to get the opinion of total strangers when it comes to a desicion that affects your baby!! The only thing I will say is that your number one priority is your son, not your boyfriend. Cherish this time that you have to bond with your baby now, these days are precious. Before you know it, he won't want to cuddle....

Answer 8

babies at this age have seperation anxiety and it happens especially at night. My 8 month old sleeps with us at night and although it makes it tough on us, it is nice to be able to look over and see that he is okay. Yes, some people will tell you to let him cry himself to sleep. I could never do that. If you can, great. If not, let him stay with you. It won't hurt anything if you are okay with it. In fact, in other countries it is very normal.

Answer 9

It is good not to start this habit of taking him to your bed. Of course that is what he likes, but you need your rest, too, and the sooner you stop it the better or he will be there for years. Put him in his bed before you go to bed and let him cry if he has to til he sleeps as long as he is not wet or hungry.

Answer 10

They say to just let them cry it out. They'll fall asleep by themselves eventually. It's hard for a lot of people to do, but it's really the only way they'll do it. My sister couldn't do it and her daughter is 3 now and still sleeping in the same bed with her and her boyfriend.